For the INFJ, emotional wounds have a habit of hiding away for long periods of time,
and then popping back up when least expected. With the combination of introverted intuition
and extroverted feeling, emotions can sometimes be difficult to process, often leading to unhealed,
subconscious trauma tucked away in the subconscious without the INFJ even knowing..
Welcome or welcome back PSYCH-Os! Today’s video is all about how an INFJ can tell if they have
unhealed emotional trauma. Before we get into it, we’d love it if you liked and subscribe
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Number 1: You don’t have steady emotions
Are you the type of INFJ who gets noticeably upset over sappy rom-coms? Or maybe you lose you feel
yourself getting irritated quickly over the small things.. Besides the fact that this rare type is
an empath at heart, these could be signs that an INFJ could have an underlying emotional wound.
An emotional wound or unhealed emotional trauma is described as actual damage to an emotion that was
caused by a past traumatic situation or experience such as heart break, emotional abuse and betrayal.
Whether these emotional outbursts and intensities are expressed on the outside or not, some INFJs
with unhealed emotional trauma experience this battle with their emotions every single day.
The tricky thing is that both emotional wounds and introverted intuition can cause people to
subconsciously relate to the emotions of others and what they witness such as in movies or books.
This ultimately leaves some INFJs unsure as to
why they’re taking these outer emotions and making them their own.
Number 2: You’ve lost interest in things you’ve once enjoyed
One of the most noticeable signs that you are dealing with unresolved emotional trauma that
is popping back up from the past is that you no longer enjoy the little things in life.
INFJs normally strive on the little things in life to keep them going
and to give them a glimmer of beauty within their big-picture thinking.
Maybe it’s something as simple as not listening to music as much anymore,
or you’ve stopped singing along to the radio. Or maybe it’s the unexplainable feeling of simple
things like going to take a walk in the park or talking to a neighbor becoming a complete drag.
Unhealed emotional wounds tend to suck the fun right out of life, no matter which personality
type you have. The best way for an INFJ to know if this is an emotional wound popping back up
is if they feel as if their life is controlling them rather than feeling like they’re in control
of their choices. Psychological trauma will take over the INFJ’s subconscious, becoming
so distracting that it will make it difficult to concentrate and stay motivated in everyday tasks.
For the INFJ specifically, this can easily become a toxic cycle of canceling plans and
ditching goals, to stay at home only to relish in the repeating emotional wounds even more.
Number 3: Feelings of unworthiness and hopelessness
INFJs are already known for being rather hard on themselves with self criticisms and
unrealistic expectations. However, when dealing with unhealed Although these wounds
often hide away in the subconscious quietly, when they come out disguised
as sudden feelings of self hatred and negative self talk, they become a little more obvious.
Emotional wounds can also have extreme effects on the specific sector in life that the emotional
wound originally spawned from. For example, if an INFJ went through a bad breakup or divorce,
it may create a different perspective of marriage and relationships leading them to subconsciously
put up a block to avoid getting hurt. Or, stay stuck in the feeling of being unworthy
of a relationship out of fear. Unfortunately, until this attitude changes, this block will
cut out any act of giving or receiving love, which then leads to more unworthy feelings.
Number 4: You’re easily annoyed by people
Sure, the INFJ has a short social battery life and a short attention span for small talk, but
this doesn’t meant they’re necessarily the type to get annoyed easily,
thanks to their curious nature. However, when past emotional wounds have yet to be dealt with,
sometimes INFJs can feel on edge with people to a degree that isn’t familiar to their
character. Sometimes it’s simple behaviors of others that rub them the wrong way or
they may feel more sensitive to comments or remarks that never seemed to affect them before.
The worst part about it is that since these wounds suck the fun and happy qualities out of life,
INFJs will even find themselves annoyed with the people they once surrounded themselves with.
This is especially true if the psychological trauma was related to the betrayal of someone
close to them as it can change their entire perspective on other relationships in their lives.
Number 5: You have bad memories on replay
INFJs are the worst for ruminating about certain thoughts, feelings or ideas they have, sometimes
to the point of driving themselves crazy. So, when it comes to emotional wounds, INFJs can sometimes
have a hard time pinpointing what it is that’s left unresolved and which past emotional event
is causing their emotional turmoil. However, other times, that’s not exactly the case.
This sign of an INFJ emotional wound is the most obvious, and that’s when these repetitive thoughts
won’t leave the INFJ alone. If someone with this personality type becomes completely absorbed in
thinking about an unresolved trauma with constant reminders of that event - they can be sure they
are dealing with an emotional wound. This inability to forget the emotional event is
actually a sign that the INFJ should acknowledge the experience and recognize that it affected you,
which are some of the first steps to healing. Plus, this constant reminder also forces the INFJ
to think about the situation through many different states of mind throughout the day,
sometimes resulting in a better understanding of the situation and the reasoning behind it.
Number 6: You feel numb
Living life feeling dull with no vigor or excitement for the future is a hard way for
any INFJ to live, but that’s the reality for when deep psychological trauma is at play.
Similar to the feeling of not wanting to do the things they once enjoyed,
INFJs can become so subconsciously overwhelmed that their outer feeling functions and introverted
intuition become stunned. The brain has an unbelievable ability to defer stress in different
ways to make it easier to manage and process, and this is exactly what the INFJ brain is doing
when they shut out any new emotions. It’s as if the INFJ brain quiets the overload of painful
feelings and emotions by making them feel nothing at all to avoid further psychological distress.
Sure, it may work momentarily for the INFJ that so often feels everything from everyone
and the INFJ may no longer feel sad, but they also definitely don’t feel happy. It’s like
existing with no emotions or interest for other’s emotions, which is not a good place for the INFJ
to be for long periods of time. The worst of it all, this numbness can even take away the
INFJ’s natural ability to daydream by replacing their imaginative creations with blankness.
Number 7: You overthink and overanalyze
The self doubt that comes with carrying around an emotional wound day in and day out can cause
INFJs to overanalyze every unrelated area of their lives to avoid being hurt again. Yes,
INFJs are natural over-observers with the need to think things through every step of the way. But,
when it becomes extreme, it could actually be a defense mechanism.
Most INFJs see it as a means of learning from their mistakes
and saving themselves from being hurt, and it may sound like a smart precaution to take,
however, in this case overanalyzing can actually end up causing more confusion and discrepancies
that were actually there in the first place. In fact, this habit can cause an INFJ to become
seriously thrown off by the little curve balls that life throws at them while leading the INFJ to
struggle even more with unrealistic expectations of themselves, partners, events, and decisions.
Number 8: Your sleep schedule is sporadic
With constant thoughts and ideas racing around their busy brains at all times,
it’s not rare for the INFJ to have troubles with sleeping. But, tossing and turning at night with
racing thoughts is also a clear sign of stress and emotional turmoil, so this is where things
can get a little tricky. A good rule of thumb is to keep in mind that emotional wounds can also
come in the form of over sleeping, sleeping at the wrong times, waking up feeling exhausted and
waking up multiple times throughout the night. For example, an INFJ with unhealed emotional wounds
may experience heightened anxiety at night, feelings of helplessness and despair to start
a new day, extreme loneliness and isolation, and having nightmares while sleeping. If that’s
not bad enough, when the INFJ is experiencing a sporadic sleep schedule no matter which sleeping
issue they deal with, it can actually make the emotional wounds, and their overall mood, worse.
Number 9: Your mind feels tangled
Brain fog, spaced out, head in the clouds, whatever you want to call it, INFJs are probably a
little more familiar feeling and seem rather aloof compared to other personality types. However,
a tangled and mixed up mind is something that INFJs aren’t overly accustomed to. So, when an
INFJ feels seriously mentally absent on a day to day basis,
or they find themselves often getting confused and feeling unfocused, they most certainly
could be being distracted by an emotional wound. For an INFJ dealing with psychological trauma,
it’s normal to slip into mental chatter that’s filled with negative self-talk,
self doubt, jealousy, and the inability to put things in order.
This is not only distracting but extremely exhausting. The best way for the INFJ to
untangle a foggy noggin is to cautiously sort through and write down every thought as often
as possible. With introverted intuition at hand, the INFJ brain has a habit of releasing things
from their mental banter once they've talked about it or written it down.. Brilliant, right?
Number 10: You realize somethings wrong
INFJs never want to seem like there's anything wrong, and sometimes they take it so far as to
convince themselves that everything is okay in the process. When the INFJ eventually finds themselves
questioning if there is something wrong with them following a traumatic life event, they’re
probably right. Intuition goes a long way, and if an INFJ finally questions what could explain the
negative mental turmoil they’re experiencing, it’s not uncommon for them to know deep down.
For the INFJ, traumatic experiences and emotional encounters are seriously difficult to talk about
due to the fear of being misunderstood. Often it feels like they can’t explain themselves to anyone
because they don’t even really know what’s wrong. All they know is that they don’t feel
100% like themselves and you feel the pull to begin healing. Once an INFJ is
serious about taking emotional wounds and their symptoms into our own hands instead of avoiding
or neglecting their feelings, it becomes easier to navigate their way towards healing.
Well PSYCH-Os, that’s it for today’s video.. So, let us know in the comments below if you think you
have unhealed emotional wounds as an INFJ that you need to begin healing! Also, make sure to leave us
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