hello everyone welcome back it's mike it's the mike show as you may know martha is recovering
right now and uh we're just waiting for a negative test until she is released back into our wild
here in martha creachy company we're just waiting for
that negative test okay we saw martha and i were watching a show yesterday and there was
a guy that did this he was like a performance coach and uh the show billions i don't know if
you ever watched that it's awesome show but he's like doing this in people's faces and
she kind of dared me to do that on the video so there you go okay so hey
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okay all right so hey we're on day two of mike's guide to fixing your husband wait nope sorry
not fixing your husband i can't fix your husband mike's guide to working with your husband
as you may know martha and i are married and we've also been working together in business for
10 years with grace with harmony we get along and we're doing this thing right so that's really what
i'm sharing with you here as you know yesterday we did we did the first key which is goals
which is aligning your goals with your spouse and then seeing where like so so writing out
your goals in the first place aligning your goals seeing where they line up see where they match up
and then making a commitment together to work towards those goals all right so today i told
you today was going to be the most magical key and it's also the most difficult because when you see
this word a lot of people react to this word it's it's like a swear word you know uh so hey
key two to working with your husband or your spouse in business accountability ooh
scary word accountability is such a scary word and it is because like this is uh martha had
looked up a study a while back months ago about how um one of the when uh female entrepreneurs
were pulled what was the one thing they're missing in their business and it was accountability
um but you know when you're working with your husband uh accountability is
is is huge uh because this is this is uh this is the thing i think that starts the most fights that
starts the most conflict is when we try to hold each other accountable but it's very powerful but
you know you might just not be doing it right this is the way martha and i do it and we we minimize
any conflict by the way we do this like yesterday i showed you how we did the goals and i showed you
how to do that because that's how we do it because again i can't fix your husband but i can show you
what we do and we've been working together for 10 years in harmony so the first philosophy i'm going
to share with you here about accountability between you and your husband or you and your
spouse is your spouse is not the problem okay i i think we we we often start conflicts and start
arguments because we say things like you know we we attack the person we attack the person right so
deviation from the goal is the problem not the person attack don't attack the person
attack the deviation from the goal these are some of the statements you might see or you might find
yourself saying right so avoid these statements this is attacking the person you're not doing what
you said you're not taking this seriously you're not working hard enough i'm pulling my weight but
you're not you don't care about this okay i think we're all guilty of saying things like this
and to be uh to be frank this is probably where most of the arguments come because we're making
it personal we're attacking our spouse and chances are you're probably like martha and i you probably
spend the most time out of anyone with your spouse and it it it's one of those challenges
when you're working together in business is you're so close and you share so much so
a lot of times it's a lot easier to get on each other's nerves and argue so
therefore instead of attacking the person instead of attacking your husband
and saying those things i mean if you say those things it's fine okay
it's just we want to work towards this we want to address the concern don't confront your spouse
they are not your enemy the deviation from the goal is the enemy okay so what we want to do
is we want to hold each other accountable by reinforcing our commitment to the goals remember
yesterday we talked about the goal setting and at the end you committed to your goals
together because it you know that that was uh that was the thing is like okay if we so say we're
you're having a conversation with your spouse um we committed to these goals so we could do this
so martha and i uh for example we committed to the goal of making x amount of money per
month so we would be able to walk our daughter to school okay it was the result of the goal so
what you really want to do instead of saying so say your husband say say you have a goal of um
of uh having a 10k month so and you committed to that so you could have more time to walk your
daughter to school in the morning okay so instead of saying let's say i don't know let's say let's
say your husband wants to watch the bears game and wants to drink beer and you really you really feel
like he's not pulling his weight and he's not taking things seriously you don't go and say
hey you're not taking this seriously you're not pulling your weight you're dumb right
instead you want to say sit down have a conversation say hey
we committed to these goals we committed to this and the the path would be we would get to this
result we would be able to walk our daughter home that was what we wanted from from from pursuing
these goals right so ultimately your aligned goals become a road map to your success okay so that's
the idea instead of attacking the person saying you're not doing enough you're dumb the bears suck
you want to remind them that the commitment you made to your goals
is a road map to your mutual success okay does that make sense it's really simple step one well
the first key set your goals align your goals make a commitment to your goals and then the second key
hold each other accountable by reminding each other when we deviate from those goals that those
goals are a road map to our success that's key to tomorrow uh we're going to be doing the third key
which is probably the most fun one but remember today your line goals become a road map to your
success speaking of a road map to your success even though martha is resting right now this
is our road map to success uh hbr the home race revolution if you've never heard of it many of you
probably have we are still having conversations to see if people fit in hbr uh what you would
want to do is uh you know this is this martha and i have this mission i talk about this all the time
we are on a mission our vision is to create one million invincible families by 2026 what is an
invincible family that is a family that does not have to rely on corporate america for an income
okay this is a family that can do what they want when they want with who they want how they want
this is a free family okay hbr is all about that and if you want in hbr all you have to do is have
this conversation uh message martha's living the dream uh with martha page let's do this she says
message rainbows and unicorns i don't know uh you can message uh the bears the bears suck i don't
know i don't know if the bears suck but um yeah do that and even if you don't fit in with hbr where
our people will probably find something that that would be a match for you that would help
uh get you to towards move the goal post for you get you out there and get that success for you
so yeah what do you think are you excited for day three day threes tomorrow's going to be the third
key to how to work with your husband it's going to be fun let's see what some of you are saying here
hey michelle carrie what's up cindy cindy's here again cindy here it's
like always here so is michelle uh happy tuesday mike happy tuesday to you katrina
i love tuesdays tuesdays are like my favorite sherry what's up oh and then uh
also thursday so originally this was just gonna be three days of me because we thought martha was
gonna be all better by then she is all better but we're just waiting for that negative test
so we added thursday so thursday is like a q a and we'll do that live here i have the questions have
already been asked and i'm going to put them up on the screen and i'm going to answer them good
morning mike good morning amanda lydia oh that's good our align goals is a road map to our success
yes it is isn't it simple i don't know if some of you were coming on here thinking this was gonna be
gonna be hard working with your husband is not hard it's really simple if you follow this path
because this is what martha and i do and it's been 10 years and we're still going strong and uh yeah
great message mike thank you brandi all right everyone
i'm gonna pop out of here god bless you thanks for being here we'll see you tomorrow