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After that last surgery, I misplaced it.
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Welcome back to the personality type clinic.
You might've heard about the 16 personality types
in their unhealthy versions.
So you might wonder to yourself,
what does that mean?
Am I unhealthy?
So by the end of this video,
you will know why people become unhealthy
in their personality type
and you will know some of the signs to look out for,
for each of the 16 personalities
to see if they are actually, in fact,
symptomatically, medically speaking,
(mock laughs)
unhealthy.
Before we get into it,
this video is brought to you by supplements.
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So here's a few reasons why people don't develop
the right way when it comes to their personality type.
And I'm approaching this with a bit of compassion
because some of you watching might exhibit
some unhealthiness when it comes to your type.
I think we all do, it's all on a spectrum.
You're not just unhealthy or healthy.
It's like, we're all on a pathway
towards becoming the best versions
of ourselves that we can be.
So as I'm going through this,
this is not to be, like, condemning people.
And you'll see, as I go through the reasons
why people become unhealthy,
a lot of it is, like, not the person's fault.
And just to let you know a lot of this
is coming from "Gifts Differing",
the Myers Briggs personality type book,
which I highly recommend.
I'll have a link to that down below.
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So first of all,
a person's type is not gonna develop properly
if the environment that they're growing up in
does not allow them to be themselves.
Now, this is a trope that we all know, like, culturally,
of a kid who is growing up with parents
who were very different from him or her
and the kid just can't express themselves fully
because they're being held down.
So when you put this in the lens of personality type,
you think of, let's say, an INFP is growing up
in a household where he or she is expected to be more
of an ESTJ, that's not gonna be very good for them.
And especially the rarer types in the world,
you can check out my video,
up here about which types are the rarest.
Whoa!
The rarer the type is, the more likely it is
that they might find themselves in an environment
where they are not able to be themselves
or not allowed to be themselves or maybe even just,
they feel like they shouldn't be themselves.
Like they're not gonna be able to fit in
unless they pretend to be another type.
Now, look, I think it's good to get out
of your comfort zone, right?
But when you are chronically going
against your type preferences,
you are going to, on the one hand,
be like totally exhausted because you're just pretending
to be a different type all the time.
And also, you're not gonna develop
the natural strengths of your type.
Then this leads to something else
that makes the situation even worse
that can make you even more unhealthy,
more unhealthier, you might even say.
You get so unhealthy, you've gotta use incorrect grammar.
When you're in that situation,
you might just start to naturally assume
something's wrong with me.
And I've seen this a lot over the course
of my time on YouTube, where a lot of people who are,
for example, INFJ's growing up in an environment
that favors maybe more of the sensing/thinking types.
They're thinking to themselves,
"My personality type is the crappiest one.
Mine is the most inferior one.
Mine is, like, the most useless, stupid one."
Or maybe even, like, "I am broken."
Something is wrong with me
because I am trying to be an ISTJ over here.
Society wants me to be that
or my environment wants me to be that,
I'm trying to be that, and I'm not good at it.
I can't do it.
And that, man, can really lead you to be burned out,
frustrated, hating yourself
and not trusting yourself either.
If you're in that situation where you're like,
I am inferior, you're not gonna trust yourself.
You're not gonna trust your own type.
And because of that, you're never gonna develop your type.
Okay, and this last reason, and then after that,
we will talk about the 16 personality types
and the signs that they're unhealthy.
This last thing is big because this is like the reverse
of everything we've talked about.
Everything we talked about has something to do
with you didn't really fully realize your own type.
You weren't allowed to do your own thing,
play to your natural strengths.
This last one is you found your strengths.
You played into them, you were your own type
and you stopped there.
You just doubled down on whatever it is your type is.
If you're an INTP, in this situation,
you just learned how to do the intuition thinking
and you stopped there and you don't ever go
to the sensing or the feeling.
You're just like, that's it.
I am a lopsided person.
And I'm all in on the NT.
And the thing is, you can get pretty far
on just your strengths, but the problem is
that you will cause problems over time
because you're just not paying attention
to one whole half of life.
You know, one whole half of your personality,
because you've got it.
You've got everything.
You've got all four of those things.
You've got thinking, feeling, sensing and intuition.
And if you're taking two of those off the board,
all the time, the S is gonna hit the F.
(chuckles)
You know what I've mean?
And maybe sometimes, you don't even view them as problems,
but everyone around you sees it.
Everyone is like, that guy there,
he's going all in on his logic and his thinking
and everyone hates him now
because he doesn't know how to connect emotionally
with people.
So it's good to develop your type the way it is.
If you are an NF type,
develop the intuition and the feeling.
Lean into that.
You can't be like a stable person
until you have solidified that preferred part
of your personality type.
But at some point you gotta be like, "Okay, I'm an NF type,
I've gotta start leaning in a bit more to the ST."
Not trying to be someone you're not.
No, it's not what I'm saying.
I'm saying you've already got a handle on who you are,
what your personality type is.
And now it's time to tackle
the other half of the personality.
In the next part of the video,
we're gonna go through the 16 personalities.
I'm gonna tell you what they're like
when they're unhealthy and it's not pretty.
Are you gonna see yourself in the descriptions?
I hope not, but maybe you will.
Stay tuned.
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Welcome back.
Here's part two, we're gonna go...
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Okay, 16 personalities.
What are you looking for if they are unhealthy?
And like I mentioned before,
you're really looking for all the weaknesses,
none of the strengths.
Like, in a purely unhealthy version of a type.
You might be mostly healthy
and still exhibit occasionally some of these things,
I think in some ways we all do, like,
even if you are a pretty well-rounded,
well adjusted person, you are generally healthy.
Occasionally, you can slip into this unhealthy side.
We're only human, it happens.
So when you are looking at someone
who was like totally unhealthy all the time,
this is sort of what they're like all the time.
Starting off with the extroverted thinking types,
the ESTJ and ENTJ, they will be going all in
to that extroverted thinking and that can make them
just really tough to deal with.
They are just gonna be like trying to bash everyone
in over the head all the time with the logic,
they're gonna be bossing everyone around.
They're gonna be, like, not caring at all
about the feelings of themselves or anyone else.
They will basically just be focused on
how do I get something done?
That's all I care about
and I'll leave everything in flames around me.
You know, the healthy versions of an ESTJ
and ENTJ, they're very nice people, very pleasant people.
Yes, they are still driven to get stuff done.
They can still be a bit bossy,
but they're not gonna be that, like, scary version
that the unhealthy one is.
At least, not all the time.
Next, let's look at extroverted sensors.
That's an interesting one, ESFP and ESTP.
In their unhealthiest state,
they're not thinking about the future at all.
They're just thinking about now.
They're just thinking about what's the next thrill.
What's the next physical experience I can have?
And the problem here is that they're not thinking long-term,
and that leads them to do things
that are risky and/or illegal,
and/or will get them and other people hurt.
And that's at the extreme
and when they're at that extreme, that's all they're doing.
They're just going from one thrill to the next
in the present moment, not thinking too far ahead.
It can lead to bad places.
Healthy versions of those types will occasionally be like,
"Yeah, man, let's do something crazy!"
But they will also be able to keep it in check, be like,
"You know, I gotta think about my future
at least a little bit."
Let's not drift off into crazy world.
Extroverted feelers, the ENFJ and ESFJ.
When they're in their unhealthy state, they are smothering.
They will just constantly be smothering you
with, you know, feeling.
In a way, they're like martyring themselves
for you all the time.
Are you okay?
They're, like, looking out for everyone else
to the total detriment of themselves.
But then they do this thing where they swing backwards
and they're like, "Ugh, all of you made me do this!
You made me martyr myself for you, ugh!"
And then they become really selfish and they hate you.
(laughs)
But the healthy versions of these types
will look out for other people,
will make sure everyone else is taken care of,
is feeling good and happy,
but they will also know how to keep it in check to a degree,
and to stop themselves from getting to that point
where they just wanna get, almost be like,
the ESTJ/ENTJ all the time, just like burn everything down.
ISFJ and ISTJ, the introverted sensing types.
In their most unhealthy version,
they're just, like, not trying anything new.
We're not trying nothing new.
We've done it this way our whole lives.
This is the way we're doing it forever.
If you try to introduce anything new,
they will think you are weird, you're a freak.
They also don't wanna think about the future.
It is way too scary to think about the future
'cause of all the possibilities,
of all the bad stuff that could happen
and all the new stuff that's gonna change my thing
that I've been doing for the last 20 years.
Healthy versions of these types are cool.
They can deal with some change.
They're not gonna freak out over every little thing.
They can think about the future.
Unhealthy types?
They can't.
They are, like, inflexible.
ENTP, ENFP, extroverted intuitives.
Dawg!
These types, well.
These are the types when they are unhealthy,
they're like the people who have so much potential,
and you're, like, you could really do something
with your life, but they're just, like, not doing nothing.
They're just, like, smoking wacky tobacky
in their parents' basement because they're just,
all the time, in intuitive land, just thinking about,
"Oh man, I could do this, I could do that."
Here are all the possibilities of all
of this really cool stuff that I'm so imaginative
and creative, and just not gonna do anything about it.
Just gonna, you know, keep going with the flow, dude.
When you get a healthier version of an ENFP or ENTP,
they're able to then step out and start building something.
They're able to take one step at a time,
put one building block on top of the other
and actually make their thoughts,
their imaginative ideas into realities.
When they're unhealthy, they just don't do nothing.
They're just like in their mind.
INTP and ISTP, the introverted thinkers.
Oh, man.
When they are unhealthy, watch out.
They might murder you.
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They just get so inside their own brain,
their own thoughts, what they are doing.
That's all they care about.
Everyone else just get out of my way.
I've got stuff to do.
You're just an inconvenience.
Your emotions are irrelevant to me
and actually they really bother me
and I just want to stop all of the emotions.
I don't feel anything.
You don't feel anything,
No more emotions.
And they can really isolate themselves
and they can really become, like,
resentful of everyone around them.
When an INTP is healthy, they can be very friendly
and outgoing and really engage a lot more
in the world of feelings,
even though they will default back to the thinking
and doing their own thing.
They can step out into the world and hang with the feelers.
Unhealthy ones, just stay away from them
for your own health and safety.
INFP and ISFPs, the introverted feelers
have similar problems,
except they are just getting so in their own feelings
that they will spiral out of control.
This is where the depressed INFP stereotype comes from
cause, especially the INFP, because they're intuitive,
but ISFP's can also do this.
They just like, get depressed.
"Oh, the world is awful.
I don't belong in the world.
I will never be able to get along with others.
I just don't fit in."
And they could get really upset
and angry with everyone else
and feel like they just can't connect with anyone.
These types, the IP types, when especially,
the INFP the ISFP, when they get into their own mind,
when the INFP and ISFP get into their own feelings,
it is hard to pull them out from the outside.
They kind of have to do it themselves.
That's why they can really spiral out of control
and just be like, these really severely depressed
individuals that you're just like,
could you please just come out of this?
I just wanna point out,
I'm not talking about clinical depression,
which could happen to any personality type.
What I'm really talking about
is the kind of self-inflicted sadness,
a kind of funk that's brought about in large part
because of self isolation.
And it's almost like a defense mechanism.
Let me bathe in my negative emotions
and keep everyone else away.
That's really what I'm talking about.
Healthy INFPs, ISFPs.
They will, yeah, they'll have all kinds of feelings,
good feelings, bad feelings,
but they will also realize, okay,
I have to be able to connect to the outside world.
I have to be able to get along with others.
I have to be able to get something done with others,
to work with others.
They realize that my feelings aren't the ultimate thing
in the world, and that we all got to come together
as a community.
(laughs)
The way I just summed that up sounded so dumb.
(laughs)
But I think you know what I meant.
And then the INFJ and INTJ.
These types, the introverted intuitives.
They also get very far in their own mind
and if they're unhealthy, they're very manipulative.
They figure out what is going on.
They figure out here's the pattern at work here.
And now, let me just manipulate it
so that I can get the emotional validation that I need,
or even just so I can get ahead in life.
The INFJs are gonna be much more like,
how can I manipulate other people's emotions
to get what I want out of them?
INTJ can be, like, how can I just like game the system?
That could be, like, how can I manipulate others,
but they're more, like, what's the end goal
I'm trying to get and how do I get there?
How do I game the system?
When these types are healthy,
they are much more collaborative
and altruistic and all that.
And, you know, supportive of others
and looking out for everyone else.
But when they are unhealthy,
they're just looking out at everyone else as, you know,
things to be manipulated.
Puppets on their strings.
Thanks for watching.
Check out this other video here
about what to do if your personality test
has given you like 50/50,
you're not sure if you're a thinker/feeler,
it feels so evenly split.
This video gives you some insight into that.
Or check out the whole playlist right here.
Pick another video you wanna watch.
And until next time, stay cool and attractive.