Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to yet another video on the Frank James program
here on the Frank James channel. If you're new here make sure you fill out a
name tag so that I know your name, and please don't switch seats because it'll
make it difficult for me to take attendance in the future. Today I want to
briefly talk about what has been called in the YouTube circles (and elsewhere) "the
INFJ stare." And I feel like this is a very easy thing to explain and sometimes
it gets over-explained and it seems like it's this really complicated concept...
It's not. So, this is gonna be a quick one because I think I can explain it pretty
quickly because... I know things. So, everybody, quick: what is the primary
or dominant function of the INFJ? That's right, it's--wait, what did I write?
Introverted intuition! Introverted intuition is about gathering all of this
information in a very focused way, but also in kind of a subconscious way. It
all gets put into our brains on a subconscious level where we're not
really thinking about it, and then it spits back out an idea. This is our
preferred way of interacting with the world, is through gathering in all this
information, sometimes on levels were not aware of: vibrational energy levels... I
sound like I'm kind of making that up as I'm going along. But it's not just out of
sense perception it's about all kinds of things. Our secondary function... anyone?
anyone? Oh, that's right, it's extraverted feeling! Extraverted
feeling makes us very interested in people. Not necessarily for reasons of
having very close relationships but just because we're interested in people and
interpersonal dynamics. Put those things together and what do you get?
You have an INFJ boring their eyes into a person because we're trying to gather
as much information as we can to figure the person out.
Introverted intuition digs down very deeply. It's a very deep well of... you--
whatever. In a nutshell what's happening is we are
taking this person that we're looking at and, on a subconscious level, turning them
into abstract concepts which we then compare to our existing framework of
what we know of other people; and in doing so, the intuition spits back out
something into our conscious mind saying, "this is this person." We're reading them
like a book! We're reading them like a cheap book from the used bookstore
that's about to go out of business because nobody goes to used bookstores
anymore. I hope any employees of used bookstores are not offended. The other
thing about--the other thing about Fe is that it's all about social
graces as well. So I think we--at a certain point, as you get older you
realize that staring too deeply into people's eyes is probably not going to
be looked upon with the most comfort; but sometimes we lose awareness of ourselves.
INFJs don't often feel like they're very in their bodies, and so I think sometimes
we forget how we come across. We can be sometimes a little expressionless
because of that. And so to us we're just receiving: we're taking in
the energy, we're figuring out this person--but to them... they just see someone
staring at them in a way that is too intimate for the level that you know
them. You see? I think that's really what it is, is the INFJ stare is... it just feels
oddly intimate. I think in some ways people can tell what you're doing and
they can tell that you're figuring them out. I touched on this before in the
other video I made, "The INFJ fade." I'll link here. Where people will kind of
ignore you in a group. My theory is it's because they're a little intimidated
because they can tell that you're taking in everything and that you understand
everything on this level that no one else does. People can tell, like you're
you're reading them like a cheap remainder copy from the discount section
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