Tripp Kramer here from
www.trippadvice.com. Let me ask you a
question. Have you ever been really needy
with a girl? Very desperate and you
messed it up? Well on today's video, I
want to go over how you can seduce a
girl after the fact, after you have been
too needy and you might have completely
mess it up. Yes, there is a solution for
you. There is a way to get back into her
life, to get back in the seduction phase
after you have completely screwed it up.
Now before we get into that, let's define
neediness for a second. Some of the ways
you might have been too needy is
approval seeking, trying to fish for
compliments, trying to always get her to
say why she likes you or giving you some
sort of affection all the time or trying
to get something from her, maybe it's
posting on her social media too much,
maybe it's texting her too much, it's
trying to get a lot of her attention and
really all this comes in the form of you
trying to seek validation and also you
not having your own life. This neediness
is coming from a deep down insecurity.
You're trying to make sure that this
girl likes you or make sure this girl
loves you and you're not feeling secure
within the relationship or within the
dating relationship. That's probably
why this is happening. You are
trying to get something to make sure
okay, this girl likes me, she's not going
to leave or it's someone that you know who
wants you. You have to understand that
you do not want a woman to be the center
of your life. In fact, a woman doesn't
want to be the center of your life
either. You know, you might hear
differently. You might hear women say
that you know she wants to be one of the
biggest priorities, but at end of the
day she's actually not attracted to that.
What she's attracted to is a man who
behaves in such a way that shows
emotional strength and you're not going
to be showing that if you're needing all
the time and saying hey there's nothing
else important in my world except for
you and everything crumbled unless I
have you. I know you probably see
that in a lot of romantic comedies and
you see that in dramas and movies. But
this is not the case. Remember this, a
woman is attracted to a man by
the way he behaves, his behavioral traits.
It's not about looks. It's not about money. It's not
and the external stuff. It's all about
how he behaves with a woman. If he's
just focused on her and anything she
does affects him so much that he can't be
strong, well then this is going to not
attract her and also be that sign of
neediness because most likely if things
are going wrong in the relationship or
wrong when you're dating her, you're
going to show extra neediness. We got
to strengthen you and this is going to
be in the form of creating your own life
and also looking for validation within.
So let's go over how you're going to be
doing this. If you were needy with a girl
and you screwed it up and it didn't work
out and you're pretty much aware of the
fact that you were being needy and that's
why it's messed up now. Well, what you
want to do is give space. Because what
was probably happening when you were being
too needy is that you weren't giving
that space. You were texting a lot,
calling her a lot, trying to get her
attention, trying to meet up with her,
trying to seek a lot from her and get
from her and you probably weren't giving
too much. This is what we want to do.
We want to give space and we want to
give a lot of it and when I say distance
I mean no texting, no calling, no reaching
out to her at all. And you're going to do
this for at least two to four weeks. I
want to give her the opportunity to miss
you and to show her that you don't need
her and that you have your own life and
you're doing your own thing. Now of
course at this point you probably don't
have a lot going for you in your life,
and if you do great we need to refocus
on those things. And if not, well then I'm
going to give you some ideas of what you
can do to start your own life and have
other things going on than the priority
of having a woman in your life. Again,
what we're talking about here is
creating a lifestyle that is not going
to be only supported by you just hanging
out with a girl. Some ideas here are
going to be stepping into new hobbies,
going to the gym, working on your health,
studying more information
on how to attract girls. Because you
probably weren't doing it right if you
were being too needy. Of course you have
a whole array of videos here on this
channel that you can learn. So you're going to be
learning, you'll be focusing on yourself,
getting into new hobbies, you're going to
be spending time with your friends doing
fun things. What is it that you want to
do in your life? What's going on with
your career. What's going on with your
mission? What are the things that you
want to solve? What are the things that you
want to be doing in your life? What are the
goals that you have? All this stuff
what is all this stuff, beyond focusing
on a woman?What is that other chunk of
your life? Because this is how healthy
relationships work. It's not about two
people coming and attaching to each
other and being codependent on each
other. It's about two whole people coming
together with their full lives and doing
their own things and coming together as
a healthy attachment instead of being
needy. In these two to four weeks,
you're going to be going off and be
focusing on you. You're going to give
zero attention to her and then you're
going to go back. Here's what I hope
happens, secretly. I hope in these two to
four weeks you are so busy with your new
lifestyle and so busy focused on you and
your new friends that you've actually
met another woman or you realize that
you're not even interested in this girl
anymore because you have your own thing
going for you. That's what I secretly
hope happens. If you're still
interested in her, that's fine. I want you to
then re-approach her in the exact same
way that you did in the beginning. What
makes it different this time is you're
going to coming from a non needy
mindset. You're going to be going in
having your own life and most
importantly, you're going to be going in
from a very fresh start. This is going
to be completely new starting from the
beginning. In two to four weeks, give
her a call. You can meet up with her.
Ask her to grab a drink. Reinitiate the
process of you guys kind of hanging out
again, getting back together and at this
point again you're not coming from a
needy mindset. It's not going to be you
going in and seeking validation trying
to get something from her. You're not
going to go in there trying to get her
to like you again.
Instead, we want her to naturally just be
attracted to you and this new version of
you. A guy who's got his own life, has his
own things going on, a fun-loving
interesting, dominant, masculine guy. A guy
who's in control guy, who's again not
seeking validation not trying to get
something from her. But just showing her
a good time. One concept I want you to
understand is this idea of entertainment.
I want you to go in and do something
that's fun for you. Talk about the things
that you want to talk about. Go to the
place that you want to go to to get a
drink. I want you to be the one in
charge here. She's going to see this,
she's gonna catch on to this like wow
this guy is really doing his own thing.
He's got his own life and he's not
trying to get something from me. Remember
this, a girl is not someone to
complete who you already are. It's in
addition to your life. It's a compliment
to your life, it's something that's fun
because it's someone to share
experiences with and someone to have a
connection with, but not to fill some
sort of need or desire that's lacking in
your life. Again, it's a complement. If you
want to learn a little bit more about
how to not be needy and not be needy
with a girl so you can prevent this. Well
we went over a little bit, but I go more
in depth on a youtube video that I put
out just a little while back and I'm
going to put a link to that in the
description below and what I want you to
do is press like if this helped you and
write a comment down below and tell me
what you thought of this video. Does this
help? Is there any situation that we can
help you with? Because I'm gonna be in the
comments down below answering questions
and see what's going on in the
situations where you're being needy.
Maybe you can even tell us some ways
that you were being needy so us as a
community can learn how to not do that
the next time you're with a girl. Go ahead
and write a comment down below. Check out
that video. I'm going to put that in the
description. I'll see you on the next video.