hello dear viewers and welcome back to
part two of signs you may have a toxic
parent it's common sense to distance
yourself from toxic people but what if
those toxic people are your parents when
you see them every day it can be
extremely difficult to get any kind of
break even though you may not have had a
choice to be brought up by the parents
you have you do have a choice in how you
choose to react towards them so here are
six more common signs that could signal
that you have a toxic parent 1 they're
manipulative toxic parents are masters
of emotional manipulation they have a
way of twisting the truth so they look
good while you look and feel awful this
can range from embellishment of a tail
outright putting words in your mouth to
even exposing a secret of yours they may
also make false promises to get what
they want out of you this manipulation
also allows them to exploit you as their
love only extends as far as your
usefulness like a tool once you no
longer provide a use they stop putting
in the effort of appearing to care you
may stand up for yourself to stop the
manipulation but then they might take
you for a ride on the guilt trip train
telling you you're bad or ungrateful son
or daughter for abandoning them in
reality they're just angry that they
weren't able to take advantage of you
too they blame you some parents are so
toxically irresponsible that they blame
their children for everything that they
perceive has gone wrong in their lives
they then use this as an excuse to lash
out at you for things that aren't your
fault they didn't get the career they
wanted well that's because you were born
they're fighting with their spouse maybe
a divorce is imminent well it's because
they can't agree on how to raise you
you're such a problem did they lose
their favorite pen well you must have
stolen it you can see how ridiculous and
toxic it gets 3 they actively block you
being happy don't take this the wrong
way sometimes they're just guiding you
onto a more annoying but sustainable
productive path that's not toxic or bad
with the toxic parent this manifests as
them insuring you're always miserable if
they can help it this happiness blocker
doesn't have to stem from severe
situations like abandonment or beating
just them putting a damper on everything
is enough if you dread seeing them or
sharing any happy news with them because
you know they'll just stomp on it then
you understand this is toxic behavior
for their unstable instability and most
situations is not positive toxic parents
are no different these parents may have
weak boundaries of their own lacking the
capacity to stand their ground in
several aspects of their lives or give
guidance to the child
this results in waves of lashing out at
the child for problems stemming from the
parents overly permissive habits they
let the child do whatever they want then
explode in anger when it becomes
problematic five they're overly critical
and mean imagine you feel good about
finishing a paper a toxic parents
response to you is to see a small error
so it's terrible you start over
double-checking for tiny errors and now
they tell you the paper you used is not
white enough why did you change it it's
garbage the critique given is also
usually not constructive quite often
they'll also be mean about the perceived
failure preying on insecurities calling
you names are highlighting your flaws to
prove you're not good enough watch out
for this red flag if it feels like
you're facing a nerve ending staircase
and are still being called a failure
despite climbing several steps you may
have a toxic parent
and six they're severely abusive here is
the most blatant and obvious sign of
toxic parenting when a parent these
people whose very roles are to nurture
support and guide you they abused you
they're toxic the abuse can be physical
verbal or emotional it's all unhealthy
and toxic and you don't deserve that
do you relate to or recognize any of
these behaviors you see or observe them
in other situations we know they're your
parents and from that status alone you
may feel they get a pass and forgive
them maybe change them or even start
over those of us with toxic parents have
been there we get it leaving a toxic
parent in your life keeps your mental
health at risk possibly leaving
permanent scars you're not required to
sacrifice your well-being for them we
know as should you that you deserve
decent respectful treatment you're not
to blame for their problematic behaviors
nor is it your responsibility or ability
to change how they think or behave we
can only control how we react and change
ourselves if you'd like to know more
about the specific dynamics of a toxic
relationship between a parent and child
site to go has created a playlist and
uploaded videos on toxic father-daughter
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relationships and toxic mother-son
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you haven't watched part 1 of this video
you can check it out by clicking on the
link in the description box below thank
you so much for watching and learning
with us now go remind yourself how
awesome you are and we'll see you next
time
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