Greetings guys, gals, and non-binary pals and welcome back to another video!
I hope that you are well and I hope that you are fighting because there is a lot to be fighting for.
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Now in today's video, we are going to be having a look at some of the nicest guys out there.
Some of the nicest guys on the internet.
We all know them.
We all...
Strongly dislike them.
Uh but they are the self-proclaimed "Nice guys", you know?
The "I respect women as long as you give me exactly what I want when I want it. Otherwise, f_ck you."
Um, we're looking at them.
You know, the nicest of guys, obviously.
That's what they say. We have no reason to not believe them, right?
Exactly.
So, yeah. We're gonna- We're gonna have a look at them. We're gonna have a little bit of a chat about that.
Uh, sometimes they're funny, usually they're just, ehh...
It's no one's business whether anyone is in a relationship or not.
They don't have to like make their entire Twitter about talking about their f_ckin boyfriend.
No one has to do that. It's their Twitter account.
They can post whatever they want.
It's not yours or anyone else's business whether they're in a relationship or not.
Especially because I'm assuming you don't know this girl.
You're just being a f_ckin creep and going in and reading all her tweets to make sure this stranger is okay.
Because you want to- to sleep with her? And now you're upset that she has a- a boyfriend?
You don't know her, man. You don't know-
My god. Get a life.
Jesus Christ.
Holy sh_t, man.
This is so weird. Firstly, the whole like...
What the f_ck are you doing, man?
What are you doing? It's not cute.
It's not cute, it's really weird. Especially when you don't know someone.
And it's like the fakest bullsh_t.
You're like, "uwu, I'm so cute! Pick me! I'm so nice!"
It feels manipulative.
It is manipulative, because clearly, uh, you aren't a nice guy.
And doing this while texting a stranger is the most, like, big sign of that like literally ever.
Like, if someone came into my DMs and started talking to me like that, and I like didn't know them, and it wasn't like a joke that we had, uhh, blocked.
Instantly blocked.
No the f_ck thank you.
Move along. Absolutely not.
And all these men come out here like, "I'm a nice guy" and then literally it takes you- like them saying "No." once.
They say no to you and you tell them to die?
Um, clearly, you're not a nice guy.
And if it's that easy to snap you, like someone saying no to you causes you to have a reaction where you tell them to die...
I think you're the abusive boyfriend you're wishing she was in a relationship for.
Is that what you meant by that?
You're like, "I hope you end up an abusive relationship, hint hint, wink wink, with me!"
Because that's some uh abusive behaviour there, my guy.
So many of these nice guys- No. All of these nice guys would- would be abusive boyfriends.
They are all abusive manipulators. Every single one of them.
"I- I- You just- You don't want to date a nice guy. You're going to end up with a Chad."
At least he's open about being an asshole.
At least he's self-aware, man.
They're all shitty, but at least Chad is self-aware.
And a lot of the reason women end up dating people like that is because we're told that that's all we should expect and what we should settle for, you know?
It's all part of the patriarchy, and what we're taught, and societal norms, and what people think is acceptable, and what we think that we're worth.
So, it's- it's all a bit of a big mess and wishing someone to-
Shut the f_ck up, plane.
Go away. You are interrupting me.
You aren't a nice guy. If you say you're a nice guy, chances are you are not a nice guy.
Maybe, maybe, maybe, maybe...
And consider this...
We don't want to be with men who control us and tell us where we can and cannot go at all times.
We want to be with men who respect us as individual human beings and allow us to exist as people.
Not allow us, um...
Because we do. No one needs to allow us to exist as people.
I guess it's more, who don't restrict us and try to control and manipulate us and our entire lives and all the people in our lives.
We're allowed to do what we want. We're- We're allowed to do what we want.
We are adult humans who have friends and lives.
Your- The purpose of a partner isn't to be isolated and exist solely for that person.
It's about finding someone whom you're happy and comfortable with,
And who you want to share life experiences with and want to spend your time with.
But can also spend time apart from and still love and trust and appreciate each other.
You don't have to be glued to your partner at all times.
A relationship isn't about control and like... needing someone.
A relationship is about wanting to be with someone and being happy while being someone.
Not submitting to someone. Not dominating someone.
That's not what a relationship is.
I am very, very good at isolating myself to one person.
I have a- I have trauma and like a lot of anxiety and things like that.
And I find when I get into a relationship, I'm very, very good at cutting off everyone else and the rest of my life and existing solely for that person.
And it's really difficult because I lose my sense of self very, very easily.
And although my last partner didn't try to control me or tell me I couldn't go out with friends, in fact, they encouraged it, it's like...
A difficult thing for some people, you know?
Especially if you're conditioned to think that you do exist for another person. It's a really hard mindset to break out of.
And like...
It's just so awful how many women think that they exist for their partners and that they...
Do have to like get permission for everything that they do,
And they do have to sacrifice their lives in order to have a happy relationship.
You do not need to sacrifice your life.
If your partner is telling you you have to sacrifice parts of your life to please them, get out.
Get out. Find someone better.
There are people who respect your freedom and your independence and want you to have a life outside of them.
You are still an individual person and you should still have your individual things.
I understand that as time goes on, you sort of merge, and you do a lot of things together, you share a lot of friends and that's totally okay.
Uh, that is a natural thing that happens.
But I think it is always good to also have alone time in order to still have your sense of self.
I don't know. That's something I still struggle with but I think that it is an important thing.
I have a song about it, though. If you want to listen to my song it's called That's When I Knew.
"That's when I knew that, that I don't need you."
"That's when I knew that, that you don't need me."
"But I want you."
"Yeah, I want you. I want you."
"Do you want me too?"
It's all about being happy with someone, not because of someone so...
Listen to that.
That's what this is about. Anyway.
What difference does it make, my guy?
Why does it matter how many people that I've had sex with?
Why does that make a difference to how you treat me as a human being?
My sexual history, a woman's sexual history, has absolutely nothing to do with you.
We're all people.
What does it matter? Literally, what does it matter?
I have never been able to figure this out. I cannot figure this out.
What difference does it make? Why does this make me any less as a human being?
Why does it make anyone seem any less of a person?
They literally just like... were naked with someone.
They just like had sex. What is wrong with that?
What's wrong with sex? What's wrong with it?
Tell me.
Hmm? What's wrong with it? I don't understand. You-
You, my friend, are trying to have sex with like a ton of women, right?
That's like what all these nice guys do.
They're just trying to- They're just trying to find women to hook up with and then they get rejected so they say they hate wh_res.
Who are you trying to- Who are you trying to have sex with?
If you don't like women who have sex, who are you trying to have sex with?
Who? Tell me.
And why is it okay for you to have a high body count, but not for me to have a high body count?
And also, what is the acceptable number?
That's what I want to know.
What's the number? What's the number that people have?
I'm really intrigued as to, firstly, why it matters, and secondly, when it becomes too many.
And why it's too many.
No one sexual history is anyone's business other than themselves and the people that they've had sex with in the past.
So, the only thing you need to tell a new sexual partner is, like, if you have any STIs,
Um, if there's any trauma they should be aware of,
If there's any triggers,
If there's anything you want to try,
And just like talk about things that make you comfortable or uncomfortable.
Those are the only things that are important when it comes to a new sexual partner or anyone.
You don't need to say any more than that to anyone, ever.
It literally doesn't matter. It literally doesn't matter. It doesn't change your worth as a person.
Sleep with as many or as few people as you like, it does not matter.
And if you want to judge women based on how many people they've had sex with, you're just a bad person.
You're just a f_ckin bad person.
And I hope that you get over yourself and realize that sex is just sex.
It's literally just sex.
Like, come on, man.
Get over it.
"I'm so nice to women until they don't give me exactly what I want, exactly when I want it, then I hate them and they all deserve to die!"
Bro. Stop just like contradicting yourself.
You're clearly not nice and the fact that you like switch up so fast.
Like this was only like-
It was like less than a day apart.
Like, firstly, people don't need to reply to you straight away.
I take days to reply to people and that's not even because I don't want to reply, that's because I have anxiety and I'm stressed all the time.
Um, and also like, even still, people don't owe you a reply.
Just because someone doesn't reply to you doesn't mean they're a bad person.
You're a bad person for expecting something from people who don't owe you anything. Especially strangers.
Like what is- "I'm- I respect women!"
No. You f_ckin don't. You clearly don't. You clearly don't.
Maybe learn some respect.
Learn what respect means and actually respect women.
Actually respect women.
Um, but like, until then, and probably that's gonna be never, stay away from us.
I say it every video. Just like, don't come near us.
Don't talk to us. Like, lock yourself in your room.
I don't care. Just like...
F_ckin, Jesus Christ, be a decent person.
Be a decent person.
Women have done literally nothing to you.
Us saying no is not hurting you.
Us ignoring you is not hurting you.
It might hurt your ego but it doesn't hurt you.
Threatening us does hurt us.
One of these things is worse than the other.
Yeah? We're in a much worse position than you.
All we have to do is exist and stay quiet and we get attacked.
So...
I always find these videos can get mildly triggering so I'm going to stop while I'm ahead so I don't get to that point.
I will say my final goodbyes here.
So thank you for watching. I hope that we all got a bit riled up together.
Uh, I hope that we're all ready to fight some men.
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