Hey everybody, Casey Zander here.
And in today's video, I'm going to be covering one of my most frequently asked questions,
and that is when to dump women, when should I let go of my girlfriend?
When should I get rid of that relationship?
Why is that relationship toxic?
Or why is that person not for me?
Now, here's what I can tell you.
Okay?
The points that I'm going to make today, they need to sit and they need to internalize.
Because the problem is that when you do have a relationship with somebody, you're going
to be emotionally invested to some degree.
So even what I tell you on this back of napkin will make sense.
In order for it to truly resonate, it needs to sit, and you need to actually think and
meditate over these concepts to yourself, Okay, I'll give you an example.
There's been times where I have read a book.
And I thought it was okay.
And then three years later, I'll come back to that book.
And I find one chapter and that one chapter made me an extra $150,000.
You know, that business quarter?
And I'm like, Oh, my God, why didn't I see that information?
When I first read it, this would have been so useful.
And it's because like the context, the contextually that information wasn't what I needed at that
time.
So the things that I tell you today, you probably won't see all of them for yourself until you
live it for an extended period of time, and you actually meditate over these concepts.
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Nevertheless, let's look into when to actually dump your girlfriend, when to get rid of somebody
that doesn't serve you in your life.
The first thing that you should look at is if they can't give you a straight answer,
what's a straight answer?
A Straight Answer is this.
Hey, you seem off what's wrong.
You can tell they're off.
And they don't have the maturity level to communicate back to you.
And they say nothing.
They want you to hunt and dig and probe with deeper level questions to show that you're
invested.
If you see somebody that consistently does that to you, meaning aka wastes your time
and being disrespectful, like if you could solve the problem in 20 to 30 seconds.
And in actuality, they make it they make that that argument or that tension stretched for
123456 hours.
That is time when you need to cut that person out of your life.
I'm going to explain why.
As a high value person, okay, you only have a limited amount of time on this earth.
Like I don't think people understand that like one day, you won't be here, you only
have a limited number of heartbeats all day.
Okay, we can try to live our best lives, but one day we're going to be buried under.
So you need to let that sink in.
Here's why I genuinely believe that if somebody can't give you straight answers, they cannot
communicate at the maturity level needed to maintain a relationship because there's love
and there's lost, okay, if you're like, you have to truly understand that like, if you're
going to date somebody, the dynamics of the communication, it's not always going to be
flirtatious.
It's not always going to be you know, direct chemistry within the speech.
It's not always going to be light and playful.
There's sometimes you're going to have to have real discussion.
And that person needs to understand that real discussion can happen and should happen without
losing attraction and without losing interest.
Because in order for the relationship to say stay sane, you have to do that.
So if the person can't give you a straight answer, you need to get rid and I'll explain
why.
Guys, here's my sub points to this guys will communicate in unnatural forms to attract
the girl.
Which means that girls who want to retain their man need to communicate in a way that
will fit that guy.
Here's what I mean.
We both know.
The communication styles are different between both Okay, so let this sink in for a second
point A guys will communicate in unnatural forms to attract the girl.
When guys flirt when guys engage in more emotional language to resonate with that person better.
They're doing it to build quick chemistry, they're doing it to show Spark, they're doing
it to create interest.
Okay, these things work.
This is why the topics of game, you know, like if you've read any sort of game books,
or if you've read, even if you've just watched any sort of like, people who discuss this,
it myself included, these things work.
Okay, so what is a guy's form of game?
Well, it would be to attract the girl that he's interested in.
And there's nothing wrong with that.
That's the thing is, there's nothing wrong with that, that if you do it in a healthy
way, that other person on the reciprocal end is benefiting from the value exchange and
you're benefiting from the value exchange, you get the enjoyment of knowing you can attract
that person, they get enjoyment off knowing that, hey, someone's interested in if I find
chemistry here, I can dabble into that perfectly okay?
In retrospect to that though, we're in reverse.
The girl game needs to be Hey, how can I retain this man?
Or how can I retain this guy that's showing lots of interest if she wants, if the if,
if that person wants to keep the relationship, they will do what is necessary.
So what does that mean?
That means if you are having to communicate in a way that's unnatural, occasionally, they
will have to sense that your communication style is different.
Therefore, in order to resolve conflict, in order to resolve arguments in order to actually
keep things stable.
There needs to be that same courtesy of communicating in the way that will fit that other person.
However, most don't do this because they don't have to.
So here's what I'm going to tell you.
If you ask questions ever, like you say, Hey, what's wrong, or if you ask something like
how's your day, and that person just sits there.
And they don't say anything, they go on mute, or they act extremely turned off that you're
even wondering, or you walk into the room, and it's just dead silence, just complete
silence.
There's absolutely no reason to continue that relationship, there just isn't, you can't
fix something that's broken.
Okay, and you also can't convince people to change to suit you better people are how they
are.
Okay, so I'm gonna give you another example, commute if you're communicating with somebody,
okay.
And they're literally just sitting there on their phone not paying attention, or they're
doing things like fidgeting or looking at their fingernails, they're doing this on purpose
to show that they don't respect what it is that you're saying.
They don't even have the care to do.
So.
If you see these things, that's when it is time to actually dissolve the relationship.
And I don't care if it's somebody you're dating, I don't care if it's somebody you're working
with or working for, if they genuinely don't care about you, there is no point in continuing
the facilitation of that relationship.
Your time is much better spent developing new relationships with healthier people.
And not to mention your job then is to notice the difference between short term attraction.
And actually, is this a long term compatible companion that you would want to be with?
Far too often guys, what they'll do is they'll just look at the short term attraction like,
hey, you know, the bedtime is great, the intimacy is great that spark is there, therefore, because
all that is in check, I'm going to try to make it work with this person long term.
And in actuality, when you look at the long term, the the person that they're with probably
doesn't have their life together the way they'd like, they're not living on the same page,
they don't have the same beliefs.
But they're still trying to make it work because the intimacy in the beginning was still great.
And that's like, it's, it's a shift you have to make like, there are certain people you
could be with long term, there are certain people you are only meant to be with for a
short term.
And you know what, that's okay.
It takes time to get to know people.
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