1 Wearing a tank-top is a NO GO. 2 Cleavage in Japan? I don't think so.
3 Not hanging up your underwear. 4 Wear lazy clothing out.
5 Greasy hair 6 Japanese women will not go bare legged.
7 Let him carry her luggage. 8 The wrong hair color depending on their age.
9 Do things outside of their group. 10 Say their opinions out loud.
Hey guys and girls on Ask Japanese it's Cathy Cat.
This time we're gonna talk about 10 things
Good Japanese woman would never do.
This might break a couple of expectations that you have so let's go and find out what they are
Number one even in the heat of summer
wearing a tank top is a no-go and I mean
spaghetti tops, tube tops, those kind of styles you don't really see.
They're seen as a little bit too sexy so generally girls will cover up this
area much more than in other countries. T-shirt totally fine but tank tops...
not so much. First time I came and many other foreign girls have done the mistake too
if you wear a spaghetti top, a tank top you know a little strappy top or even tube top
People will give you looks. This is an area that's generally not exposed in Japan
so no matter how hot it gets ... t-shirt is the way to go
cover up this area. And we've mentioned it before showing cleavage a
little V coming down here... or just have a top that is a little bit extended down here
is a no-go in Japan you do not show cleavage in Japan... it is almost seen as
something negative ... you don't really flaunt that area even if if you got it
you shouldn't be flaunting it in Japan.
Wearing see-through clothing items now in some countries it's okay to have cool black bra
and then over it wear a mesh top or a see-through top ...generally that's a big NO
clothes in Japan are not see-through. If they are it's generally not on purpose.
Having your underwear on display in any kind mean or form is generally a taboo as well.
Seeing just your bra strap... ooh that's ... that's edgy, you shouldn't be showing your bra straps
Same thing, if you show a whole bra underneath a see-through top
It's just as bad so NO don't have any of your underwear on display
There should not be any see-through items here
Number three: not hanging up your underwear!
Yes the "do not show your underwear" part even counts when you're not actively wearing it.
When Japanese women hang up their washing they will generally not hang up their
underwear outside. If they do hang it up outside, they will cover it maybe with
towels or similar things, so you cannot see them. Having them out there somewhere
hanging out to dry where people can see it ... very embarrassing you
should not be doing that it... Also there's problem of apparently old men
coming in stealing pants.... it's not a joke!!
I saw this in anime it's actually happening!!
Another ... reason why they're not really hanging out to dry that much.......
Number four: Wear lazy clothing out. you just want to pop over to the shop
maybe in your PJs, in your jerseys or maybe in your comfortable house pants
well generally that's a big NO. Japanese women do not leave the house in casual gear
there's a big change between how you appear inside your own house
and how you appear outside of your house.... so unless you're
going for a sports event, you don't have a reason to wear your PJs out
or your jerseys and similar. People will give you weird looks if you do so
so the kind of "Footballer's wife" style that was kind of popular in the UK
awhile ago... those kind of hanging out with your curls and stuff
never seen it in Japan. Very unlikely it's gonna happen anytime soon.
You can definitely try and go out in your jerseys but you definitely get the
"Yan-ki" image meaning: girls who do actually go out with their jerseys not for sport things
are seen as the kind of "bad girls" in Japan. They might be loitering,
they might be hanging around in corners and they're kind of the wild
girls here, not really going with all the rules... so if you see them, especially if
they have a kind of leopard print on they're the "wild girls. "
Number five: Greasy hair... you just want to go pop to the supermarket,
grab yourself some bread for the morning and for your cereal some milk or something like that
No Japanese ladies do not leave the house without having washed their hair
they washed it every day it seems to be that ....
maybe they can do that because the hair is thicker the hair is stronger
It doesn't get as quickly breakage as soft hair does and their skin seems to
be a lot stronger than our average skin
so I've never seen a woman with greasy hair in Japan
Never...
No matter how boiling hot it gets in summer in a formal environment
Japanese woman will not go bare-legged meaning even in the trouble
heat temperatures of 33-35 degrees they will put on some tights. It seems to be
just a manner an etiquette thing... especially in office environments so
those who go to the office will generally wear leggings, tights those
kind of things... stockings that's the word I was looking for.
They will wear stocking! I don't even... I can't comprehend it gets so hot here so
boiling hot, especially with the humidity... I once went to a TV program and the
staff looked at me looked at my pretty dress and looked at my legs and
like are " you not wearing stockings?!" and I'm like "No it's 35/36 degrees" and they
were like GASP and yeah that's when I realized
apparently it's a bad thing to do that in summer... to go bare legged...
How indecent of me
I learned something there... I'm going bare legged today though... I don't care
It's WAY too hot.
Number seven: let him carry her luggage
Now generally on a date in Japan when I see a girl and a guy it's
interesting... the guy will generally pay for the bill if they have food... but the
girl will then if they go out shopping carry her own shopping bags
The girls are not giving them to the guys to carry ...the guys are not actually taking them off the girl to carry
It seems to be kind of "you carry your own thing girl" so they carry their own stuff
I've seen it before even that
they also carry the shopping of the boy... that was very culturally confusing...
I think that was a married couple and she was carrying all the stuff while he was
talking... I was like that's an interesting gender swap we were having going on there but yeah
Girls would generally not give the guys stuff to carry it's kind of the
"I would feel bad for him" or it's kind of my stuff so
but then again quite a lot of girls are complaining that they wish
there were more gentleman here in Japan so maybe a healthy balance might be a
good thing... I think as a guy you might get some brownie points if you carry the luggage for her
Have the wrong hair color depending on their age. Now this
is a bit of a difficult one but generally in school girls cannot have
any other hair color than the natural black hair. In school all girls
have to have black hair... however once they're out of school is interesting to
see that the "trendy ladies" who have left school high school and such all tend to
dye their hair but not too flashy again... it has to kind of go with the age that they
are ... so once they're after the job application age, during application
you have to have dark black hair. But then afterwards generally
girls who are tendy, tend to color their hair brown. Again anything that
goes into lighter Browns and blondes is again a little bit of a taboo ...some will do
but you might not get a job if you have too colorful hair colors.
It seems to be in school: black hair. Once you're out of school: brown hair
Those are like the two main colors if you're one of them is decided
by the rule the other one is decided by kind of trendiness
and have it a little bit lighter ...so yeah interesting right
Very colorful hair colors like blue or green a similar like that are very rare
and many girls can only pull this off during the university years so just
those freedom years before they then go into proper employment, and then again
they have to dye their hair darker. Even black sometimes.
But generally brown is accepted. Dark Brown.
Number nine: do things outside of their group.
In Japan there is "Group Shuudan" meaning... doing things as a group
there is a very high social morale in Japan as well and especially girls
especially in school and university days
have their kind of groups of female friends and you hang out with them and
you don't do anything to upset that balance meaning you don't do really
things outside of that group or anything that would upset the harmony in the
group. Seems to be quite tough sometimes for girls to keep up with that... it's a
lot of pressure a lot of ... having to conform to that group in a certain way
but once they get out of school and
don't have to do it anymore they find their circles or friends with
with they seem to feel a little bit more comfortable with but especially in
school it's a pressure to conform and be in the group and do what everyone does
...at that time... so yeah a bit of a tricky one
I'd say
Coming back to the topic of group harmony number 10 is:
say their opinions out loud ... now not all opinions but generally opinions that could upset
the group balance. Opinions that could make other people feel uncomfortable
opinions that are not ... as widely accepted those kind of things Japanese women will
not say straight out
especially if it's with the group of strangers or people
they don't really know
any kind of harsh discussions, arguments and stuff are not
really encouraged in Japanese society and especially by women speaking out about
things like that, straight ahead is gonna make them kind of unpopular straight at the
start so they're very careful which opinions they voice. Once they feel maybe
more comfortable with you... meaning you're friends with them or you're
in a relaxed environment, you may be going for drinks, that's where you can
ask them about certain things but generally in certain environments
Japanese women will not voice very strong opinions.
It's interesting it ties back to Japanese culture not upsetting the group harmony
and generally it's not an arguing culture.
People will generally keep to themselves and just go
"I live my life you know ...live-and-let-live kind of thing" but
that's just one of the things you might have to watch out for when you are
communicating with Japanese girls... if you really want to find out what they're
thinking get to know them take your time and
maybe then start a good discussion in the right environment... maybe with a couple of
drinks to loosen the tongue...
maybe
These are 10 things that Japanese girls would never do
well it depends on: "good girls" might never do them but some of the "bad girls"
might want to go and give some of these a try
but these seems to be the social baseline for many japanese girls and
women out there. But how is that for you? I mean everyone is different but how is
that in your country. Are there typical things that women in your country would
never do???
If so let us know where you're from and what those things are in the
comments down below. I look forward to seeing what Japanese women compared to
women in your country would never do!! Excited to find out!
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