hello everyone welcome to English like a
native my name is Anna and this is Lucy
and I'm from English with Lucy. So those of
you who do know me already
and already know Lucy, yes this is happening!
How exciting is this? I've been waiting
for ages.
We are going to cover today 'compliments'
now it's always lovely to give someone a
compliment but there are some rules that
you should follow some DOs and DONTs
should we say, and Lucy and I just did a
video on what you should say, so if you
want to watch that video we'll put a link
to it in the description box below so
check that out when you finish watching
this video. But here we're going to talk about the DONTs. We
English are very sensitive, we are very sensitive
and even when you mean well sometimes we
can take offense and you don't want to
offend us so what should we not do when
trying to compliment people most
importantly don't be too direct or too
sexual
what do I mean by that. Don't talk about
someone's boobs
yes I said the b-word. I would never feel
flattered by someone talking about my boobs, I would feel
uncomfortable.
Absolutely just avoid it. It's far too
direct, even if they're on show it does
not mean that someone is inviting you to
mention them
you also don't want to talk about
someone's bottom either even if they
have a very nice bottom and you enjoy
looking at it keep that to yourself and
maybe don't look at it so much
yes don't be obvious, and finally
don't mention anything else sexual like
they're bit so you wouldn't want to
compliment a man on his package, i'm
sure you know what i'm talking about
just generally keep its light and
polite, light and polite.
Something else you shouldn't do is
expect or demand a response you shouldn't be
giving a compliment with agenda if you
say someone looks nice
and they don't respond to you don't then
say you're arrogant why aren't you
responding
I mean no one owes you anything it
nice that you made a compliment, yeah
just leave it at that yeah and if if
someone doesn't respond it doesn't mean
they haven't taken the compliments on
board they might just be shy and don't
know how to react to the compliment
not everyone knows exactly how
to take compliments I find it kind of awkward as well so...
sometimes I just don't reply
'cause I don't know what to say. So next we're going
to talk about catcalling. what is
catcalling? So let's imagine you're walking
down the street and you see a lovely
lady walking past and you go swit swoo
sweeheart you look lovely. Why did I do it in that accent?
It's throwing a compliment at someone
that you don't know and usually people
expect some sort of response which is
what Lucy was saying earlier, yeah you shouldn't
do that, it looks bad, so don't catcall
if you really like someone and you
would like the opportunity to give them
a compliment or you'd like to get to know them
it's gonna be very difficult if you're complete
strangers but the best thing to do would
be to approach them and strike up some
sort of normal conversation without an
agenda
no agenda yeah just be genuine and gentle
and read the signs if you don't look
interested, they're not, plenty more fish in the sea
absolutely so genuine and gentle light
and polite. You need a career as a dating coach. So the next rule is
don't do FOODONIFY people. Foodonify?
Yes, it's a new word that I've invented it's like a
personify
if you don't know what personify mean then look
it up in the dictionary
What I mean is: don't treat people like food
there's nothing worse than behaving like you want to
eat somebody, so no salvation
no dribbling no licking your lips and going
you look gorgeous
it makes me back up and it puts my
barriers up and he makes me feel very
self-conscious so don't foodonify
people
I'm gonna stop foodonifying now, good, I've realised the error of my ways,
you're dribbling all down your top Lucy.
ok so our next thing that you shouldn't
do is be over the top. You should not be
over-the-top or exaggerated. I'd much
prefer to receive one thoughtful compliment, than a
hundred generic or over-the-top
compliments thatt actually leave me feeling annoyed
uncomfortable. yeah cause they seem quite desperate don't they
they can, if you give someone too many
compliments it's like "oh this guy's desperate" or
"this girl desperate back away"
don't be too sexual remember no boobs bums
or bits should be mentioned when
complementing someone be light and polite.
Light and polite. And try not to get offended if someone doesn't reply or
respond move on there are plenty more fish in the sea
absolutely. Never ever ever catcall
you all know what catcalling is now so keep
those impulses to yourself
do not be over-the-top and don't
foodonify people. so those are the
DONTs and if you want to see the DOs
then you need to head over to my channel
the link will be in the description
box and you can see the video that we created
together
about how you should compliment people and finally don't
forget to follow all our social media
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so thank you for watching and don't
forget to check out Lucy's video, Lucy's
channel and all the other videos on this
channel we'll see you again soon
bye