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♪ ♪ >>> WELCOME BACK EVERYONE.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR BEING
HERE ON THIS FABULOUS FRIDAY.
WELL, IT'S THE STRESS AND THE
WAIT OF 2020 IS STILL WEIGHING
ON YOU, YOU ARE DEFINITELY NOT
ALONE.
ALONE.
ALONE. I
ALONE. I RECENTLY SPOKE WITH AUTHOR
AND PSYCHIATRIST DR. BHARGAVE
SUVRAT FOR TIPS ON HOW TO MOVE
FORWARD AND MAKE THE MOST OF
THE BRAND NEW YEAR.
DR. B. ALWAYS SO GREAT TO SEE
YOU AND I LOVE TODAY WE'RE
FOCUSING ONLY FOUR QUESTIONS WE
NEED TO ASK OURSELVES TO MAKE
THE MOST OF THE BRAND NEW YEAR.
WHAT'S THE FIRST QUESTION?
LET'S DIVE RIGHT IN.
>> LET'S DIVE RIGHT IN.
THANKS FOR HAVING ME CHRISTINE.
MY HOPE TODAY IS THAT WHEN WE
TALK WE HELP PEOPLE FEEL NOT SO
STUCK.
STUCK.
STUCK. PEOPLE ARE FEELING STUCK WITH
THINGS AND I'M HOPING THESE
QUESTIONS WILL GET YOU THINKING
AND THAT WAY YOU CAN MOVE
FORWARD A LITTLE BIT.
AND THE FIRST ONE IS THE ONE
YOU HAVE TO START WITH.
FIRST QUESTION IS, WHAT IS
HOLDING YOU BACK OR WEIGHING
YOU DOWN?
YOU DOWN?
YOU DOWN? NOW THIS IS THE QUESTION THAT'S
GOING TO NEED SOME REAL HONEST
INTROSPECTION.
INTROSPECTION. REALLY ASK YOURSELF HERE --
YEP.
YEP.
YEP. YOU
YEP. YOU HAVE TO BE HONEST WITH
YOURSELF BECAUSE IF YOU DON'T
UNDERSTAND THE PROBLEM, THE
ROOT OF IT, THEN YOU CAN'T
REALLY FIX THE PROBLEM.
RIGHT?
RIGHT?
RIGHT? AND WE TEND TO PERPETUATE
UNHEALTHY HABITS IN OUR LIVES
WITHOUT EVEN REALIZING IT.
SO ASK YOURSELF WHAT'S REALLY
WEIGHING YOU DOWN AND SOME OF
YOU THAT MIGHT BE AN UNHEALTHY
RELATIONSHIP.
RELATIONSHIP. FOR SOME OF YOU IT MIGHT BE
YOUR OWN HABITS OR YOUR HEALTH
NEEDS TO BE ADDRESS.
FIRST START WITH THE ONE THAT'S
REALLY HOLDING YOU BACK THE
MOST.
MOST.
MOST. WHAT'S HOLDING OR WEIGHING YOU
DOWN THE MOST AND START THERE.
>> I LOVE THAT.
AND AGAIN, IT'S -- YOU ARE
STARTING IT OFF WITH A DOOZY
BUT IT'S ONE THAT ONCE WE START
PEELING BACK THE LAYERS OF THAT
ONION, IT'S GOING TO HELP US
MOVE FORWARD WITH THE KIND OF
YEAR THAT WE ALL WANT SO
DESPERATELY.
DESPERATELY. SO NEXT QUESTION.
HOW DO YOU SETTLE YOUR MIND?
>> YEAH, WE HAVE TALKED ABOUT
THIS ONE BEFORE BECAUSE IT'S
SUCH A BIG QUESTION THAT YOU
REALLY NEED TO BE ABLE TO
ANSWER FOR YOURSELF.
HOW DO YOU SETTLE YOUR MIND?
YOU KNOW, ONE OF THE OTHER
WORDS I HEAR BESIDES STUCK,
CHRISTINE, IS THAT I HEAR
PEOPLE SAY THEY'RE UNMOTIVATED.
AND WANT TO REMIND YOUR VIEWERS
THAT MOTIVATION ISN'T A
FEELING.
FEELING.
FEELING. IT'S NOT YOU WANT TO GO DO
SOMETHING.
SOMETHING. IT'S A DISCUSSION.
PULL FORWARD OR BACK OUT AND
YOU CAN'T HAVE A GOOD
DISCUSSION WITH YOURSELF IF YOU
DON'T HAVE A SETTLED DOWN MIND.
HOW?
HOW?
HOW? SOME
HOW? SOME PEOPLE, JOURNAL.
OTHER PEOPLE MEDITATE.
SOME PEOPLE READ AFFIRMATIONS
AND THAT HELPS THEM SETTLE
THEIR MINDS DOWN.
SOME PEOPLE GO TO COUNSELING.
VERY, VERY EFFECTIVE.
SOME PEOPLE EXERCISE.
WHATEVER WAY YOU CHOOSE, IT'S
REALLY IMPORTANT TO BE ABLE TO
SETTLE YOUR MIND DOWN FIRST SO
THAT THE KIND OF DISCUSSION YOU
HAVE WITH YOURSELF REALLY HELPS
MOVE YOU FORWARD RATHER THAN
WEIGHING YOU DOWN.
>> ALL RIGHT, NEXT QUESTION.
QUESTION NUMBER THREE.
>> ALL RIGHT, THE NEXT QUESTION
IS A REALLY, REALLY IMPORTANT
ONE TOO.
ONE TOO.
ONE TOO. AND THAT'S HOW DO YOU STAY
CONNECTED?
CONNECTED? YOU CAN'T -- LEAD A HEALTHY
BALANCED LIFE IF YOU DON'T HAVE
HEALTHY CONNECTIONS IN YOUR
LIFE.
LIFE.
LIFE. AND
LIFE. AND YOU KNOW WHEN YOU ARE
FEELING STUCK, IT'S REALLY EASY
TO START TO ISOLATE.
>> YES.
>> YES.
>> YES. >> ISOLATE YOU GET A LITTLE
LONELY.
LONELY.
LONELY. AND LONELINESS WILL REALLY FEED
A NEGATIVE MINDSET.
SO IN ORDER TO HAVE A HEALTHY
MINDSET, REALLY INCORPORATE
PRACTICES INTO YOUR LIFE THAT
HELP YOU TO CONNECT WITH OTHER
PEOPLE.
PEOPLE.
PEOPLE. AND AGAIN, LOTS OF WAYS TO DO
THAT.
THAT.
THAT. YOU
THAT. YOU CAN SET UP A WEEKLY TIME
WHEN YOU GET TOGETHER WITH
FRIENDS AND CONNECT WITH A
FRIEND.
FRIEND.
FRIEND. SOME PEOPLE WILL DO IT BY
VOLUNTEERING OR GETTING
INVOLVED WITH A CAUSE THAT'S
REALLY IMPORTANT TO THEM.
OR FIND A FRIEND THAT HAS AN
INTEREST IN COMMON WITH YOU.
A GOOD BOOK CLUB AND IF YOU
DON'T HAVE A GOOD BOOK CLUB,
THE FRIEND AND MY FRIEND CAN
GET YOU HOOKED UP.
ONE OF THE BIGGEST LESSONS OF
THE PANDEMIC IS THAT EVERY
SINGLE ONE OF US NEEDS HEALTHY,
MEANINGFUL CONNECTION IN OUR
LIVES AND WE ALL NEED
COMPANIONSHIP.
COMPANIONSHIP. SO HOW DO YOU STAY CONNECTED
WITH OTHER PEOPLE?
>> YES.
>> YES.
>> YES. I
>> YES. I LOVE THAT.
AND FINALLY, YOU SAY WE SHOULD
BE ASKING OURSELVES HOW DO WE
ACKNOWLEDGE OUR OWN SUCCESS?
WHY IS THIS ONE SO HELPFUL?
I WOULDN'T THINK THIS WOULD BE
ONE THAT WOULD KIND OF GUIDE US
INTO THE NEW YEAR BUT YET FOR
MANY OF US, NOT HAVING A GOOD
YEAR AND NOT FEELING LIKE WE --
THINGS CAME TO FRUITION LAST
YEAR, THAT I GUESS I CAN SEE
WHY YOU SAY THIS IS VITAL FOR
SUCCESS.
SUCCESS.
SUCCESS. >> YEAH, AND YOU KNOW WE ALL
KIND OF WENT INTO THIS YEAR
HOPING THEY'D LEAVE BEHIND 2020
AND THE HOPES OF WHAT THE NEW
YEAR CAN BRING BUT HAVING A
POSITIVE MINDSET ISN'T THAT
EASY.
EASY.
EASY. RIGHT?
RIGHT?
RIGHT? IT
RIGHT? IT REQUIRES MOMENTUM.
AND MOMENTUM COMES FROM
ACKNOWLEDGING YOUR SUCCESS AND
THEN LOOKING FOR THE NEST ONE
AND THEN BUILDING TOWARDS THAT.
SO IF YOU DON'T HAVE A WAY OF
ACKNOWLEDGING YOUR SUCCESS YOU
NEVER BUILD THE MOMENTUM.
SO IT'S REALLY IMPORTANT TO BE
ABLE TO HAVE WAYS IN WHICH YOU
ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR SUCCESSES AND
THERE'S A LOT OF WAYS TO REWARD
YOURSELF.
YOURSELF.
YOURSELF. MAYBE AT THE END OF THE DAY,
YOU MAKE A LIST OF WHAT YOU DID
GET ACCOMPLISHED TODAY.
RATHER THAN SITTING IN BED
THINKING ABOUT ALL THAT YOU
DIDN'T DO.
DIDN'T DO. MAYBE YOU LITERALLY OR
FIGURATIVELY PAT YOURSELF ON
THE BACK WHEN YOU REALLY GET
SOMETHING DONE.
SOMETHING DONE. AND THAT TAKES A MOMENT.
AND YET IT'S SO IMPORTANT.
MAYBE WHEN YOU CROSS SOMETHING
OFF THE CHECKLIST, YOU GIVE
YOURSELF A LITTLE REWARD BY
JUST TAKING A TIME AND A BREAK
THAT LETS YOU REALLY FOCUS BACK
ON YOURSELF AND SAY THAT WAS A
GOOD JOB YOU DID.
IF YOU COULDN'T ANSWER THAT
QUESTION, CHANCES ARE YOU
REALLY ARE STILL YOUR OWN WORST
CRITIC AND THAT'S SOMETHING, WE
TALKED ABOUT LOT CHRISTINE.
OUR GOAL IS TO REALLY BECOME
YOUR OWN BEST COACH, NOT YOUR
OWN WORST CRITICS.
>> FUNNY, DOCTOR.
IF YOU NOTICED.
THAT ONE SEEMS SO SELF-SERVING
BUT ISN'T THAT CRAZY THAT'S MY
FRAME OF MIND THAT BY
ACKNOWLEDGING MY OWN SUCCESS,
SOMEHOW THAT MADE ME
UNCOMFORTABLE.
UNCOMFORTABLE. >> YEAH, YOU KNOW --
>> RIGHT THERE.
>> THAT IS AN ISSUE FOR A LOT
OF PEOPLE I MEAN.
A LOT OF US WHEN YOU START
THINKING ABOUT OR ACKNOWLEDGING
OUR OWN SUCCESS WE USE THE
WRONG WORD.
WRONG WORD. SELFISH.
SELFISH.
SELFISH. TELL YOURSELF AND REMIND
YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE SELF-
NURTURING WHEN YOU ACKNOWLEDGE
YOUR OWN SUCCESS AND WITHOUT
BEING ABLE TO SELF-NOR WHICH
YOU YOU CAN'T NURTURE OTHER
PEOPLE.
PEOPLE.
PEOPLE. >> I LOVE ALL OF THESE.
I HAVE THEM ON MY BOARD.
THANK YOU, THANK YOU AGAIN FOR
ALWAYS GIVING US THE BEST
ADVICE.
ADVICE.
ADVICE. WE SO APPRECIATE IT.
>> THANK YOU FOR HAVING ME ON.
I KNOW 2021 CAN BE THE BEST
YEAR YET.
YEAR YET.
YEAR YET. >> PLEASE.
>> PLEASE. ISN'T HE FABULOUS?
I WROTE DOWN MY SUCCESSES AND I
MADE CAROLINE LUNCH AND I MADE
KATE BREAKFAST AND I PREPPED