Japanese boys really shocked me with their amazing singing skills.
Japanese boys... they don't smell.
They are very androgynous, and they don't seem to mind.
Want family and kids
Always shaven
Physically ... not that touchy.
No Gentlemen.
Generally... no
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The topic is gonna be: what surprises German girls about Japanese boys
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Number 1 from the start. The physical build it totally different.
Generally German boys.....
or at least the image I have of German boys...
They are very tall, a but more bulky and muscly build.
The average boy in Japan though
is build smaller
you tend to hear that about asian boys but yet
I mean ok there are also super tall boys here.
Of course.
But generally they are a little more...
slenderly build. In Japanese they call it "Hoso Macho"
Which means...
Slender muscly guy?
As muscly as German boys are... Japanese boys are not quite the same.
They are smaller but wiry.
They are full of energy.
In Germany I generally had to always look up so much when talking to German Boys.
It's nice for me to see that here we can talk a little more on my eye level.
Japanese boys tend not to be 2-3 heads taller than I am.
They are only 1 head or 1/2 a head taller.
I gotta confess, I think that's great.
I love the fact that I don't feel to tiny here anymore.
in Japan...
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Number 2: Japanese boys can surprisingly sing amazingly well.
If you meet a Japanese boy, my recommend: Take them to a karaoke bar once you can go again.
Because...
You're bound to get surprised!
I have never seen anything like that. I mean generally boys in Germany...
German boys can shout and sing along, especially if it's soccer songs!
Or maybe at the German beer festival, I come from Munich you see. In the beer tent:
"Have a cheers! Cheers Cheers!"
I get all of that in Germany.
If you take Japanese boys in a karaoke bar, you don't all shout a song at the same time.
Ok some might
But generally they can sing surprisingly well.
That knocked me out of my socks.
That's a skill you got to see one day. Seriously guys!
Do it! Take them there you will be so surprised!
Not just boys. I went with a large group of Japanese business men to Karaoke...
One of them look so businessy... stood up....
and suddenly that man sang the softest, sweetest ballad you can imagine.
He had a total angel voice.
And I thought: WHAT IS GOING ON HERE?!
This is a different culture guys
On Europe we have more of a dancing culture and in Japan...
due to karaoke we get a singing culture.
Often, people in the offices were encouraged to go sing and drink in karaoke bars with colleagues.
And due to that, some became super singing artists.
If you never went to karaoke with them, you would never find out.
Number 3... Japanese boys... don't smell.
Alright if you go to a sport event, or an otaku convention where someone hasn't showered in a while...
then you will smell some Body Odour...
But normally, Japanese boys and men... they don't smell...
It's fascinating.
I always try to explain it to myself. There MUST be something in their DNA
because Western guys and girls can't use Japanese deodrants here.
That's why guys I will say it again: If you come to Japan, bring your own deodrant.
Japanese deodorants don't work on our bodies somehow.
Japanese people seem to sweat differently.
They don't smell as quickly as we do.
Of course they are showering every day...
Bodily hygiene is so important. Smelling bad in Japan is a NO GO!
No way!
We had a colleague who like I came from abroad...
some Japanese people actually told him "This is not ok"
"Do something about your smell"
In Japan a body's smell is such a invasive thing...
some people will feel harassed by it.
And so the boys here don't smell.
They smell neutral. Ok if they get older, there is a certain scent to them. A little.
But generally they don't smell
I think that's fascinating. They also don't smell of deodorants. They also don't reek of a strong cologne.
They just smell neutral. That's pretty impressive.
How are they doing it? HOW???
Japanese boys are very androgynous, and they don't mind.
In Japan it's fascinating how many boys have a more feminine aura
They can pull of those pinks really well.
And they're not having their masculinity questioned by others.
In Germany it's very... man man manly waaah!
Boys in Japan don't have to act that way, which seems to make them more relaxed.
It seems to be easier for boys here to be softer.
They don't have to stress themselves out about the manly image too much. They can wear pink
they can wear more feminine clothing, without getting any problems.
The boys here are a lot more relaxed
Of course, the first time I came. Honestly with a German view on things I first thought....
Is that boy there... interested in boys? Maybe he is gay?
These are outdated thinking patterns, and if you use the same here in Japan...
you might get surprised.
I must say I enjoy the freedom boys have here.
Many boys here will put a lot of effort into looking great. They will wear makeup,
boys that are unisex models, boys that wear female clothes and wear them in their own style...
They wear fashion in their very own way.
I think it's relaxing that boys don't get the pressure to appear particular "masculine"
they don't have to act too manly.
They can say "No I got my own style. I do my own thing." I think that's attractive.
Even from a young age, Japanese boys say they want to have family and kids.
I mean FAMILY! And KIDS!!!!
Those are two words, that would make some German boys climb on a tree.
And you would never see those again.
I mean young guys!
Having young teenage boys say "I want a family and two kids!"
really surprised me.
Maybe I just happen do know the wrong type of German boys. Generally those two words...
if you tell them to boys, they run away from you.
And HOW FAST they will run!
In Japan the concept of family is different than it might be in family (less divorce etc)
The Japanese friends I have, all their families are still married.
There is a very domestic father-mother-child structured family.
Maybe that is another reason why some young boys don't feel panic when they hear marriage...
it's an ideal that the parents are showing to them.
Maybe that's it. Who knows.
What is on that leaf?
Japanese boys and men are generally ALWAYS shaven.
This is a cultural thing that I have seen a lot in Japan.
It's super rare to see a boy/man with a beard.
Especially when the hipster beard was in Germany and such...
a well trimmed beard is normal in Germany. But in Japan...
Not really. People working especially with customers don't wear it.
In Japan a beard is seen as uncleanly.
"Seiketsukan" is an important word in Japan and it means "cleanly."
And especially for men it means to be shaven every day and not to grow a beard.
And what I saw on YouTube recently...
Japanese men are starting to shave in other areas now.
I see a lot of commercial adds on my Japanese Youtube channels...
for man leg shaving or hair removing products.
And ... similar areas
So in Japan men, similar to Japanese women, who already have a super high standard for beauty...
men have to start doing some things women are doing.
I saw some hair removal commercials this year that REALLY surprised me
But hey it's a different culture right?
If a man and a woman are both cleanly shaven... I personally don't think that's too terrible.
Japanese men and boys are physically not very touchy.
At least not as much as Western boys.
In public areas you might just about see some hand holding.
But in public you don't tend to see men get physical with their partners.
If a man and a women, or a man and a man, or a woman and a woman get close...
all these things happen behind closed doors.
It happens at home, nobody should see it.
There is no PDA... affections are not displayed physically in public.
Japanese tend not to hug. And things you might see in Germany like....
A couple walking and his hand is cheekily in her back pocket...
or him holding her back or a hand on her waist...
All these couple gestures you don't see at all in Japan.
Less physical. Less touching in public.
Different to our cultures. It's something not to show to others but to enjoy at home.
One thing that Japanese say in our street interviews is...
Japanese boys are not really gentlemen.
I mean "not at all" might be too much, some do some other things...
But general gestures like opening doors, letting a women leave the elevator first...
Things like that are not common in Japan.
The "Ladies first" idea doesn't really fly in Japan as such. In the very traditional Japanese bushi way...
It's the exact opposite. "A man shall walk in front of the woman" and such in the samurai bushi ways.
So Ladies First isn't really a thing but instead...
Instead there is "kiwotsukau" in the Japanese culture for both genders. Meaning...
looking out for the other person's emotions sometimes more than your own.
Does she look thirsty? Does she look as if her shoes are hurting? Does she look like she needs a break?
Many think several steps ahead what the other person could be feeling and if they are ok.
And depending on that they act.
If you are out on a hot summer day like this, they might look out for a girl by buying her a drink
or if she looks like her shoes hurt or if you can help somehow.
So in their heads, Japanese people think ahead about things they could do for the other person.
It's nice when some people try and think what others around them could be feeling.
In English you say "read the room" and what atmosphere is going on.
Japanese boys can do that instead.
Japanese boys still have a very traditional picture of what man and women should be doing in dating situations
Meaning some men don't like it when a girl approaches them first...
They don't just want the "hunt" they also want to be the ones who do the first moves.
It's VERY traditional and I interviewed Japanese boys about that topic here in Japan.
You can find videos about that in our collections.
Topic was: Can girls make the first move or not?
Generally it's a no. There are some old-school ways of thinking here...
boys gotta make the first move, you have to have your relationship official
Generally being a year in an unofficial relationship without being official about it is rare.
In Japan people tend to traditionally go on a few dates, then he will say officially "be my girlfriend!"
So traditional. And then... the rest of the dating can really start. Also many men prefer to pay the bills in restaurants.
"I am the man, I pay the restaurant bills for the woman" BUT
All the things I have been talking about in this video ...
are starting to relax over the last years. But many still think traditionally.
Japanese boys are often described as "shy"
Many might not be shy... nevertheless many ARE shy about girls from western or other countries.
Even if some boys are ok with talking to a Japanese girl...
they might not be as daring with a western girl.
Because many don't have any experience with western girls.
According to one of our interviews, Japanese boys said they don't think they have a chance with western girls...
So they don't even try.
There seems to be a bit of a barrier or fear there like a "I don't know what to do" thing.
How can I get to her? How should I act!
That makes it hard for western girls to find a partner in Japan.
Don't worry though, we will try and give you some dating tips in the future...
explaining what is different there.
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I hope you liked the video in German.
Of course one thing is important: not all boys are the same!
Not all girls are the same either.
It always depends on the person.
And don't forget Japan is changing daily!
Many changes are happening especially this year in Japan.
So on that note good luck... with your plans of coming to Japan.
Or your plans of meeting a Japanese boy.
Boys in Japan, boys in Germany, all boys are different and beautiful in their own ways.
I wish you a great day, I hope you enjoyed this video. It's boiling hot right now in Japan.
I hope wherever you are you have a great time and
I hope I see more of you on Ask Japanese. Bye!
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