Same-sex marriage advice.
My name is Paul Friedman, I founded The
Marriage Foundation
and I may have a little bit of a
different perspective than most people.
In that, I don't like to
separate my couples or my individuals
according to that particular distinction.
So what if you're married someone who
has the same
gender? You didn't get married to have a
sexual relationship.
You got married for the same reason
everybody else does. You got married so
that you could be happier every single
day of your life.
Didn't you? And you got married
so that you could experience
unconditional love with your soul mate.
And there isn't any better vehicle than
the institution of marriage to achieve
those
promises of marriage which turn into
those goals of marriage,
which means that you should be working
towards those
every single day of your life. Because
there are some enemies out there and
they're not social enemies.
The greatest enemy that you are facing
and by the way, there's a lot to learn
about marriage
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you will learn more than you can even
imagine.
The greatest enemy of your marriage
is your mind. People don't realize
this. Love
is a spiritual thing. In western
psychology they don't
say that. They go "it's an emotion" or it's
an abstract thought
but that's nonsense. It is incredibly
tangible
just because you can't touch it, smell it,
taste it, etc. doesn't mean it's not
tangible.
You know when there is love, don't you?
And I don't care what your gender is.
You know what the experience of love is,
it's very tangible.
And by definition because your senses
can't perceive it,
it's therefore spiritual. In other words,
the spiritual component of marriage, a
marriage
is spiritual so marriage itself
literally transcends
the gender and the same sex,
and all of that stuff. It's all
transcended
when you know what you're doing. I've met
with individuals,
gay, lesbian, etc.
I know there's no etc. but you know what
I mean.
I don't care and it's
a hook for psychologists and counselors,
and people who want to make money off of
you
to say, "Oh no, you need special treatment."
No, you don't.
You have the same needs as everyone else
because you have the same
goals as everyone else being
ever-expanding love and ever-increasing
happiness.
Those are your goals so what about,
you're going to go, "Well, what about
this and that?" Yeah, this and that is
happening at a level down here
where what you're supposed to be doing
is feeding your relationship up here.
And if you're doing it up here then down
here gets taken
care of. It's really, believe it or not
that's simple. It's not simplistic
because you need to learn
the rules of the road for marriage.
What I did was I broke marriage down
into principles and I said, "If you follow
these principles..."
And they're universal principles then
you will
experience what you're supposed to
experience. Now I laid it out in
book form. There's a couple books that
I've written
and I put it for people who are having a
really tough time and they're
sliding towards divorce. I created
courses,
one for men and one for women which
doesn't mean if you're gay, "What do I do?"
Get the men or women, no. If you're a gay
man
then you have a male biology and that's
what
you use the course for because what I do
is I
show how your body, it's your body, it's a
possession.
It's not you, affects
your mind. Again, your mind is a
possession.
It's not you and both of those have to
be
under your control. It is a very
unfortunate thing that we have
come to think of socially in society
as "I am this body", "I am this mind"
nothing could be further than the truth.
Before you were born. you didn't have
this body.
You didn't have this physical brain and
you didn't have this particular mind.
It's been molded
by your environment, your memories,
your habits, and you need to gain control
over that -- that's the biggest step
in healing a marriage and in bringing it
to the place
where you want it. Take advantage of
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There's so much to learn. Every time you
learn something you can add it
to what you know. Remember the goals,
happiness and love, not so hard.
Blessings to you! Thank you for spending
time with me!
Blessings to your spouse and blessings
to your family!
Thank you! God bless!