The idealistic INFP personality type certainly comes with a few habits that can cause them to
self-sabotage their happiness and success in life. While most INFPs measure success
in terms of living a moral, beautiful, and virtuous life, their passionate outlook on
life doesn’t always match reality.. And this is where the INFP can avoid a few negative habits.
Welcome or welcome back Psych-o! Today we’re going to be talking about the 7 things all INFPs
should stop doing in order to be truly successful in life. Before we get into it,
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Number 1: Stop living according to other’s expectations
If you’re an INFP yourself, you probably knew this one was coming.. So why not get it out of the way.
With a desperation to please and a willingness to put down their own views in order to assist
others, the INFP can easily set their goals and dreams on the back burner. Spouses, parents,
friends, colleagues, bosses, and the list goes on.. Everyone wants a say in what other people do,
especially if they think they’re helping guide someone in the right direction. Every INFP has
probably been advised at some point to bite the bullet, get a secure job, work towards that
promotion, or strive towards some other outcome that doesn’t sit right with them. Newsflash INFPs,
you probably know what's best for you, no matter how convincing others can be. Of course it’s
difficult to disappoint others, especially being a type with such avoidance towards conflict..
But it’s not in the INFP’s nature to conform. A good rule of thumb to keep in mind is that if
you truly want to shape your life according to your own definition of success, you will
almost always end up disappointing someone. Number 2: Stop looking for the next best project
INFPs have a particular habit of picking up new interests when previous interests become
challenging or boring. I mean it doesn’t sound like all that detrimental of a habit considering
it encourages the INFP to constantly be trying new things. However, when it comes to true happiness
and success, the INFP getting restless too easily may be the underlying cause. While it’s great to
leave the door open to new possibilities, it’s equally important to know how to narrow the focus
onto one or two areas. INFPs specifically need to actively focus in order to be truly
productive - but most people with this type know that buckling down to get things down is
quite tortuous to say the least. This is when it’s easiest to choose 1 project to focus on,
with the goal of diving deeper. Whether it’s a business idea, a passionate hobby, or a
potential partnership that you’d like to hold on to, once INFPs find something they can dive into,
focus doesn’t become that difficult of an issue. Number 3: Stop trying to control, control, control
Most things in life are out of our control, and because of this, everyday there’s an INFP
idealistic view that isn't met. Empathetic and generous, the INFP personality type is born with a
compelling drive to make the world a better place. While this helps them find purpose and meaning in
this world, the INFP sometimes turns to their sense of control in hopes to achieve that goal.
Acting like the backseat driver in most scenarios, while the INFP is not completely in control,
they feel an urge to delegate directions due to a fear that if they don’t, the driver will
crash the car. In other words, INFPs feel safe in control, and utterly exhausted when they’re not.
Yet, in the end, control is just an illusion - and that can set the INFP up for some serious
disappointment, not to mention unique relationship challenges. Without resolving this habit, INFPs
will never feel truly happy or confident in their day-to-day, often leaving them feeling paralyzed
and confused about what to do with their lives. Number 4: Stop distrusting your intuition
With extroverted intuition being the INFPs secondary function, it’s not uncommon for
this type to overlook instinctual feelings when making decisions in life.. But that doesn't mean
that intuitive hunch isn’t there. In fact, this extroverted intuition matched with their dominant
introverted feeling function acts to guide the INFP in a very unique way. Most people with this
imaginative type instinctively know when something they’re doing feels wrong. They may not know
exactly why something is off, but they certainly know that there’s something. This is the feeling
that cannot be ignored! This inner feeling isn’t doubt, uncertainty or lack of self confidence - it
is a sheer push into the right direction.. If you decide to trust it, that is.. In fact, one of the
only things that separates a successful INFP from a less-successful INFP is trusting this intuition
enough to make necessary life changes, even when the changes seem unfamiliar or downright crazy.
Number 5: Stop relying on those ‘miracle’ life changes
Intuition is powerful, some may even call it magical.. And while learning to trust your gut
can be life changing, it isn’t going to always sweeten life’s bitter lessons. INFP’s inner
world’s are filled with passion, creativity, and idealistic imagination - where things are bloomed
through sheer thought. However, when the INFP opens their eyes to their surrounding reality,
they quickly realize that magic and miracles aren't exactly what makes up this world we
call home. And because of this, it can be difficult for INFPs to really understand that
when they want something to happen, they’re going to have to wake up with the purpose of
making it happen everyday. Overnight success is a myth.. and even rare or admirable talents
don’t spare people from this harsh reality. If INFPs really want something in life,
they’re going to have to exchange their fairytale-like visions and hopeful wishes
for some knitty gritty hard work and effort. Number 6: Stop waiting for the perfect moment
Speaking of hopeful wishes.. Hoping to find that perfect moment to take the first step towards a
goal is exactly that.. wishful thinking. In fact, productivity coach Alli Worthington,
waiting for that perfect moment is nothing more than a sign of procrastination. Whether it’s
walking into a new project, or walking away from something that no longer serves them,
the INFP benefits from learning how to identify their moments of procrastination.. As they can
easily sneak their way in for personality types that think so much. INFPs need to keep in mind
that a bad job won’t get better waiting around for a new boss to take over. And a bad relationship
won’t turn into a great relationship once you get better at tolerating a partner’s inadequacies..
Most INFPs know their struggle with procrastination is a difficult one,
but shining a light on the reasons behind procrastination can make all the difference.
Number 7: Stop inviting the worse-case-scenario
The INFP mind is all rainbows and optimism..until they’re challenged to make an important decision.
Just as we were talking about finding the route cause of procrastination, the INFP
must stop inviting the worst-case-scenario to their decision making process. Most INFPs have
the habit of allowing insecurities, anxieties and even overall moodiness get in the way of pursuing
and staying committed to certain opportunities. With their imaginative minds they create
imaginary scenarios of future outcomes. When their idea is still just in the idea phase,
optimism and excitement flood their imaginations, allowing more optimistic looking outcomes. Yet
when it’s time to take the first steps or out a little more work into something
that they’re already bored with, these imagined future outcomes become doubtful. In these times
specifically, INFPs create imaginary obstacles and paranoid worst-case-scenarios that make it easier
for them to put a halt on going after these passionate dreams.
Well, that’s it for today PSYCH-Os.. So, if you’re an INFP yourself, have you learned to
overcome any of these 7 habits? Let us know in the comments below. Also, don’t forget to leave us a
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