- Hi babes! This year I propose that
we forget about losing weight, being more
"financially responsible", not procrastinating,
and focus on more important resolutions like for instance,
you know, having more orgasms.
One of the many great things about having a vagina
is that once you actually figure out how to orgasm,
which admittedly can be a little bit of a trick,
multiple orgasms typically come pretty easily.
You just keep going and going and going.
You can go as far as you want until you're like,
"'Kay, I'm good. " and proceed to sleep,
or run a marathon, or peruse Tumblr for nine more hours.
(laughs) I don't do that personally.
I totally do that actually.
If you have a penis on the other hand,
the common belief is that you only get one orgasm.
Once it's done, it's done.
But that, my friend, just isn't true.
You can have lots of orgasms,
in red, purple, and even blue.
This is great for individuals, of course it can lead
to better understanding of your own sexuality,
and your own body but it could also be great
for partners, particularly those who find
the timing of the sex a little bit of a mismatch.
So even if you don't want to or need to have
multiple orgasms, it's good to just kinda be aware of it.
You know what I'm sayin'?
The first thing you have to understand is that
orgasm and ejaculation are two different things.
Put simply, the orgasm is the party.
The ejaculation is the confetti.
Orgasm.
Ejaculation.
Orgasm.
Ejaculation.
When people thing of the male orgasm,
they typically think of both of these things
happening at once and for the vast
majority of orgasms that is true.
The secret to multiple orgasms is to learn
to separate orgasm and ejaculation
because you can only throw the confetti once.
It's all over the floor, you gotta take
the time to gather it back up again
before you can throw it again and let's be honest...
- Ain't nobody got time for that!
This period, the time that it take to be able
to ejaculate again once you already have,
is called the refectory period, otherwise known as
the resolution phase of the sexual response cycle.
In the resolution phase all of the genitals
and body parts and things come back down
to their normal shape, size, color.
You might feel a rush of intimacy
and also sleepiness after ejaculating.
This is also the time where your body is repleneshing
the sperm stored, so that you're able to ejaculate again.
This takes on average about 15 to 30 minutes
but if you're younger it'll be shorter
and if you're older it tends to get longer.
In order to have multiple orgasms, you have to avoid
that refractory period, the resolution phase, altogether.
So how can you orgasm without ejaculating?
(laughs) Laci Green, askin' the tough questions.
Step one is to practice something called edging.
Edging or "orgasm control" is where you come as
close to the metaphorical orgasm edge as
possible without falling over it.
If 100% is when you orgasm and 95% is
past the point of no return, there's no stopping now,
you want to get to about 80%.
Then, halt! Stop everything.
Cease stimulation until your arousal comes down
a little bit and then pick it back up again.
You wanna get yourself to the "edge" about three or
four times before you allow yourself to ejaculate.
The point of edging is to train yourself to do two things.
One, to be very in tune with your own body.
This helps you to learn the exact point
at which you ejaculate.
The second is to learn to have enough self control
to stop yourself when you get to that very close point.
Step two is to bulk up your PC muscles.
Otherwise known as your pubococcygeus muscles.
Try sayin' that one three times fast.
These muscles are in the floor of the pelvic cavity
and they're the ones that you use when
you stop a stream of pee.
Stop the pee, clench.
Start the pee, unclench.
If you have a penis, the PC muscles can stop ejaculation.
To work out your PC muscles you want to clench
for one to two seconds and then let go.
Do three sets of 20 everyday for three weeks
and you will be so ripped, my friend.
I know you wouldn't know by looking at me
but I am actually a body builder (laughs).
I can't even say it with a straight face.
Okay, focus Laci, focus!
Once your PC muscles are really strong,
remember when you were edging
and you got yourself right to the edge?
When you get right to the edge, the moment you
feel it start, clench your PC muscles really hard.
Now, if you time it right, you will have an orgasm
that will be waves of pleasurable contractions,
all of the orgasmy things, but nothing will come out.
You can go as many times as you want.
But like I said, this takes practice.
You shouldn't feel like you're a failure
if it takes you a long time or you can't
figure out or whatever, I just think it's
kind of a badass thing to know.
If you have any questions that I didn't address
in this video, you can hit me up on Twitter at gogreen18.
And, yeah, Happy New Year (laughs).
I'll see ya'll next time, okay?
Stay safe, love ya, bye.