Being successful is hard work, it's not an easy job and if you think that being successful
is just about how you think and how you work and how intelligent you are how good you are
at your work well it's also about your body language. Well today we are gonna talk about
the habits, the body language habits of highly successful people. Now if you can master these
body language habits, you are way ahead on your path to success. So hi my name is Rima
and welcome to Skillopedia and today we are gonna talk about the body language habits
of highly successful people.
The first body language habit that I wanna talk about is posture. Yes you need to learn
how to sit up straight. Now slouching in your chair, you know putting your elbows on the
table, covering your face with your hands, playing with your chin or tugging at your
hair, all of these can be sign of disrespect or disinterest. So the person you are talking
to may feel like you don't like the person. You don't respect the person, you're not interested
in the conversation that's going on and this can prove contrary to your success. But if
you sit up straight, you know maintain a good straight posture, put your shoulders back,
have a small formal smile on your face, then you will appear more self-confident and people
will start taking you seriously. You might even exude some power from your personality.
so always remember the more space your body occupies, the more successful you will look
and if you just you know kind of bunch up into this person, who is slouching, who is
becoming and rolling himself or herself into a small ball, then obviously you are gonna
appear very timid, very under confident. So never slouch, it makes you look smaller and
less confident. Make sure that you are projecting power and confidence, sit up starlight.
Another habit that I have noticed among really successful people, really powerful people
even is that they know how to use their gestures and actions correctly. Now if you are somebody
who is very excited all the time and very animated with his or her gestures and wants
to move around you know his or her hands all the time because you are so excited and so
interested in conveying the information that you have to give out, trust me I think you
are going a little over board. You need to tone down a little bit. If you want to appear
confident and powerful, use gestures but use them well. Use them at precise points. Pause;
so that your gestures can actually be noticed by people and that way, people are gonna start
realizing that what you say is what you mean. So gestures can go a long way in actually
reiterating what you are saying. Like for example, if you really believe in a concept
and you do something like I really believe in this concept, people are gonna think you
are a little mad. At the same time if you just timidly say, I really believe in this
concept, people are gonna think that you are disinterested. But if you use the right gesture
like, I really believe in this concept, people are gonna take you seriously. So remember,
those gestures that you are making all the time with your hands, they need to be very
calculated, very formal and very precise.
Now another thing I have noticed people do is especially when they are sitting at a meeting
is they just cross their arms. They sit like this or like this or even like this. Now when
you cross your arms, okay your body language says a lot of things. One thing is that, you
doubt the person in front of you. The second thing is that you are not open to different
suggestions or new ideas and the third thing is that you are not happy to be in this situation.
You are kind of cross; you are kind of upset or unhappy with the situation. Another thing
that comes across you know when you sit with your arms crossed, is that you are not a flexible
sort of a person, you're kind of rigid and you believe it's either my way or the highway.
Well all of these things can actually create a negative impression. The simple thing that
you can do is, uncross your arms, just sit with open arms. You'll come across as person
who is so much more pleasant, a person who is so much more open and a person who is so
much more confident and happy to be in the situation that he or she is in and if you
can add it, add in a little smile, a pleasant one, okay and open arms and uncross your legs
even. You will come across as a stable person who is interested in doing good work. Now
did you ever think that a simple, small thing like uncrossing your arms can make such a
big difference? Trust me it can and I have met many successful people who sit with their
arms open, with their energies receptive and they get some great work done.
Now my next point sometimes doesn't apply to men because men end up having shorter hair.
It’s more for women. I've seen a lot of women who keep playing with their hair while
talking. Some of them even look down at their hair like this. Doesn’t that make you look
a little mad? A little lost? A little weird? and there are people or women especially who
are touching like their hair this and talking, now that makes you look like you are seeking
a lot of attention or you are so insecure that you need your hair to kind of hold on
to. Well all of this should stop right away. I’m telling you stop touching your hair.
Hands need to go down, you need to be confident, look the person in his or her eye, talk work,
talk formal stuff and that’s it. Touching your hair, fiddling with your hair, grooming
your hair. For men especially, going on grooming your hair while thinking, tapping your fingers
on your head, all of this makes you look very unprofessional and is a complete no-no and
if you wanna be like one of those successful people, you need to be maintaining a very
dignified posture and you need to stop touching your hair.
Would you like it if I spoke to you like this or would if I spoke to like this? I’m sure
not, it's very important to have a smile on your face when you are having a conversation.
Now this could be a personal conversation or a professional conversation. Now when I
say smile on your face, I'm not saying that you should have a goofy smile that makes you
seem really dumb and lost like this. You need to a have a simple, formal, pleasant smile
on your face. You don't need to laugh out loud or giggle or any of that stuff. You don't
need to crack jokes and you know make things really awkward. You just need to have a pleasing
smile on your face. Although smiling at everything doesn't really support the idea that you have
a strong character but having a smile on your face makes you come across as a pleasant person
and when was the last time that you didn't enjoy working with a pleasant person? Right?
Everyone enjoys working with a pleasant personality.so in order to keep your personality pleasant
and professional at the same time, a small smile which makes your face seem all open
and pleasant is the best thing you can do. So keep the frowns away, keep the giggles
away, focus on a simple smile that'll take you miles ahead in your career.
The next point that I wanna discuss with you, is eye contact. Now eye contact is the absolute
basic about body language. We’ve been listening to things regarding eye contact ever since
we were school kids, right? Now eye contact is very important, it's very important to
have eye contact with each person that you are talking to coz that makes you, you know
look trust worthy and confident. But when I say eye contact, I've seen a lot of people
get very intense about eye contact and this is the kind of eye contact they try. If you
are gonna stare at somebody with really intense eyes like this, you're gonna scare the person
or you're gonna come across as somebody who is absolutely and totally insane. at the same
time, if you are somebody who can't maintain eye contact at all, like imagine if I speak
to you like this because i just can't seem to meet your eye, then you are coming across
as a very shifty person, as somebody who is nervous, somebody who doesn't know what he
or she is talking about. So what you need to do is, you need to maintain the right kind
of eye contact. You need to maintain a friendly eye contact that's confident. At the same
time, it makes the other person trust you, okay. so the way I’m looking at you right
now, that's pretty much the kind of eye contact that works in all environments, be it professional
or personal and you know the best part about eye contact, it sends a message to your listener
that you care, that you are listening, that you are interested in the conversation and
you really earn the trust of your listener and that is very, very important in any conversation.
My next point regarding body language is about handshakes, that's right. Now what’s the
first thing we do, when we meet someone new, especially professionally. We shake hands
right? This is an age old tradition that's been going on for years and it always works
because the right kind of handshake can create the right kind of professional relationship
or the right kind of friendship. Okay, so never give a weak handshake. It doesn't mean
that you have to give a bone crushing handshake wherein the person you are shaking hands with
goes like ouch that hurt. Make sure that your handshake is firm, it's not wishy- washy and
weak. at the same time, it's friendly and comfortable for the other person coz your
handshake is something that'll make the other person feel like yes, you are happy to meet
that person. You’re happy to do business with that person. At the same time, you are
a confident and secure person. so next time, you're shaking hands, don't treat it like
a gesture that is just by the way or is just ordinary. Make sure you are focusing on how
you shake hands with people and make sure that your handshake is firm.
So wasn't that interesting? Different habits, different kind of body language habits of
successful people. You need to start practising all of these and you’ll actually see your
personality transform. You are going to grow into this really confident and sure person
if you practise all these body language habits absolutely right. I really hope that you had
fun watching this video. this is me Rima signing out, I'm gonna catch you yet again with another
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