Is it possible for you to create
a deeper love
than the one you experienced
when you even just met?
My name is Kris Krohn and here on Limitless TV, we're
going to be talking about how we can take that spark that for too many of us
it's a little bit too small and fragile and how we can breathe so much life into
it that we can experience a level of relationship love and marriage unlike
any before.
You've lost that lovin feeling whoa that love feeling!
Okay how do you get the
spark back? How do you ignite out? how do you just step into a raging relationship
of awesome love and connection and intimacy?
Well I'm going to share with
you my favorite game that my wife and I have developed, we call it the
unconditional love game and I think you're going to like it because thirty
days of playing this game can produce the most outstanding results. But before
I do, I want to share with you how we even came up with it. My wife and I, used
to live in a very conditional relationship where we expected certain
things of each other and if if we didn't meet those expectations then it was a
reason for giving or sharing or experiencing less love.
And right now, if
you're watching this video if you're searching for a video like this, I want
to ask you what are the expectations that you put on your spouse? what do you
hold them to?
Because the longer lists you have,
the more reasons you create for
living in a really messy unhappy marriage.
Unhappy relationship. you know
my wife and I got to the point where it was getting worse and worse and worse
and I don't know why but it seems like relationships got to do this thing where
you fall in love and everything's amazing and then you get past the
honeymoon phase and then things can get worse and worse and worse before you
realize, whoa we got to work at this together and show up in a way for each
other to bring it all in and and to make that connection occur. And this is the
challenge. This is that, this is the irony of the whole thing. You've got no control
over your spouse.
You can't make them happy it's also not your job. You're
contributing factor but the truth is there's two human beings that are deeply
a choice with what they want to do with the relationship and you've got no say
barely influence in getting your spouse to do anything.
And if that's true then
what possible game could possibly be played to create a better marriage?
well
we call it the unconditional love game because the underlying principle is that
not both you need to be playing it for to produce amazing results. Only one of
you needs to desire something better in the
relationship and that's you because you're watching this video.
Unconditional love is different than then other types of love out there.
It's a love that says I'm going to give you something and there's nothing that's
coming back and return. In fact, if I keep on loving on you this way I don't expect
anything to come back. So I'm going to show you in a moment how to play this
game and I'm just going to invite you into a 30-day experience to love on your
significant other in a bit of a different way than maybe you have them.
So check it out, here's the unconditional love game. Remember you and your special
someone don't need to play it at the same time it's cool if you do but this
is actually about you and not about them if you're looking to revive that spark.
So, everyday turn to the person you love and ask them this question.
On a scale of
1 out of 10
where are we at today?
they'll give you a number. Oh I feel like
6 out of 10 about us. I'm a 10 out of 10.I'm a, 9 out of 10,
I'm the 3 out of 10. Wherever they're at the second question is,
what can I do
today to help make that a 10 for you?
You're inviting them with the request.
What can I do? how can I love you today? And you get to create space for them to
ask anything that they want. This is the unconditional part. The third step is to
do it no matter what with no strings attached. So whatever they ask for be
their hero today, do that thing for them. I don't care if you want it or not it's
not your request. It's who's? it's theirs.
You signed up for this rodeo for the two
of you to create this love. This is your part you can't make them happy but you
can ask what would help contribute to their happiness that's what we're doing
here and then step in and do it. So I'm going to invite you to be okay with
whatever they ask and then what's really important with this third step is don't
ask for anything back.
The fourth and final step comes at the end of the day
to ask them, how you did?
you're not asking for a pat on the back ,you're
asking for feedback. Like they've got a different love language did you actually
love them the way that they wanted to? the way they would have liked to
see it? or you know would they'd like to see the foot rub a little bit different
or or would they want to what to spend more time with you then than you gave?
Remember, two people. You guys are opposites. You're different. We feel love
different and we're not always sharing the exact same experience.
So this game
is about being unconditional. iIt's about you and how you love them. And here's
what I found for those that play it for 30 days.
Give it a chance,
play it for 30
days and what you're going to do is you're going to change the dynamic and
chemistry of your relationship especially if you don't have an agenda
of what you want in return. s
So you might be watching this video saying, Kris I
was kind of hoping to get some more love you're asking me to give more love. And
you know what?
I want you to play with it.
So these are the four steps. Everyday,
turn the person you love and ask them this question,
scale out one out of ten where
are you at today with us?
Our relationship.
I'm an 8.
Great. What can I
do today? how can I show up today to help that be a 10?
Oh I love it today if you
go to the store and take care of the grocery I could if you could run this
one errand if you can pick up the kid that you could give me some mommy time
if you could, whatever it is, whatever it is you get to be a what?
You'd say thank you, okay.
Step 3, do it.
How?
No matter what.
You don't get to argue this saying. You, this is the person you chose so love on them and
even if it's not your preference remember this is not about you.
a conditional love is about you.
An unconditional love is not.
Then the
fourth step? give some feedback at the end of the day.
Hey today you asked for
this and I did that, how was that for you? Is there anything that I can learn from
that? Is there something I could do different next time? Wake up the next
morning rinse and repeat do it for 30 days and let's just find out how that
spark is looking in your life.
Can you imagine taking 3 days with that special
loved one and experience some intense mentoring a retreat for you
and the special someone to come together and step into a far deeper balance of
love and possibility? Well every quarter we put on a special love retreat. We call it
one. Because it's about unifying and becoming one. Down below you've got a
link and go ahead and select to get some more information about our next
relationship course coming up or we can spend some time going into some basic
deep and profound processes for stepping into far more meaningful intimacy
that is available to you.
Coming up tomorrow guess what I'm going to be talking on?
Our next
video is going to be hitting time management and got to tell you with
dozens of businesses in my life, how do I have all this free time? well I've got
some very specific rules of how I manage time. So catch us on tomorrow's video
we're going to share them.