[Dating Coaches React to 90 Day Fiance Ed and Rose]
Hi guys! Welcome! Kal and I are doing another video and this is going to be a
special video, a different kind of video. We are doing a reaction video and when Ii found out that Kal didn't know
what clip i wanted him to watch with me he had no idea what it was about
i said i'm not even gonna tell him off camera i want you guys to be there with me a part of
this journey when i tell cal because guys believe it or not he doesn't know what 90 day fiance is
cal how do you not know 90 day fiance i don't i don't even i don't even know what where to watch
that i i've never heard of it literally you just mentioned it just now and i'm like what
what does that even mean 90 day fiance everyone is talking about it so i thought it would be really
cool to introduce this to you and i thought it'd be really cool to film this because
a lot of the issues they're talking about are relationship issues dating issues so you kind of
have three months to figure out am i do i love this person enough where i'm going to commit
and marry them uh or you know that's it you know you're back to your your home country and there's
there's so many layers to it it's it's so good because you see the dynamics of relationships
but you also see everything else that comes into play right career family just tension
it's really good and some people argue that a lot of the couples are only with the american
partner because they're trying to get to the states another person the other people are
like no no they're really in it for love so i'll leave it up to you to see what you think oh my god
an out of body experience for me because for three months i faced time with her
and now i'm standing in front of her and i really want to kiss rose
am i what you expected do you like i expected yours told to me sure to me
i thought if i told you i was the same height maybe i would have a chance do you find me
attractive attractive always always okay well well you are every every time a girl's voice goes up
like yeah or actually not just a girl any person's voice goes way up there is a chance that they're
probably not being completely honest they're lying yeah they're usually not being authentic
or they're just like trying to hide the truth or not hurt someone's feelings there's like oh
my god there there's like parts of it where like when when he said he wants to kiss her the fact
that he wanted to kiss her i think you should just go for it that's one thing but also just
yeah there's a lot there's a there's a lot about her behavior that just makes me uncomfortable
oh my god i just want to look at you i love you kiss
let's go i don't feel like she's being very authentic and but at the same time
because of her inauthenticity and her dedication to making it seem that she likes him he could
be making so many more moves like he could be instead of kissing on the cheek like a little
child he could be kissing her you know like like a man like what she's saying like if he is her king
why is he not making those moves um and yeah his his over excitement makes me so uncomfortable like
it makes my stomach twist a little bit i agree with you there's already such a an unev unevenness
in their dynamic you can tell that he's so excited to to be with her and she's
you know a little bit lukewarm which you know maybe she's a bit a bit nervous about
but it it just feels a little uncomfortable for me to watch it yeah i'd have to see more
to see if it's if it's just like her being shy i don't i in my opinion i mean i've seen girls
behaving like this and i'm just like oh she wants something last night we made love it was awesome i
think she enjoyed it any time you say you think that she enjoys it that's
that's probably a sign that she did not enjoy you should know whether or not she enjoyed it
you should know and also i don't know about anyone else but for me i i'm not i don't i don't take any
compliments to heart whether it's like like if she like even if she forwardly says like oh like
that was that was amazing i'm just like oh i'm glad you enjoyed it i don't i don't go like oh
like absolutely but and also uh to add to that too cal makes me think like
she shouldn't even need to verbalize it you should you guys ideally would be so in in in the vibe
so in the moment so responding to one another that that her body and the way that she responds
to you you could just read read from that it would tell you everything that you need to know
yeah usually yeah that's you should be able to tell just physically
um and also if she says like oh that was really great versus she's just like [ __ ]
though even those reactions like the less the less is more i'd say
she doesn't like my beard can i have a kiss no i don't know beard it's hurt on me
women have told me to shave my beard i've had that happen i've had girls tell me to grow my beard
if you have a beard and you like it you keep it it doesn't matter what she said oh it hurts like no
like use beard oil if anything that like there are ways i if if you like it if it makes you
feel good if you feel like it looks good on you it's it's it's you that's that's kind of
going along the same lines of you know you're changing yourself for somebody else yeah and it
you know i've had girls tell me to not work out and that i have too much muscle like it like
literally the opinions that you're gonna get are so random like some women you know will appreciate
some things and some will not and but it doesn't matter if the fact that you guys are having sex
means that you're there okay it doesn't you don't need to change and um and yeah i think
i think that's very unreasonable but your legs were kind of like mine they were hairy what yeah
so i'll make you do it if you shave your legs i just i just need to pause it right here
because i just want to hear from you kel what is your reaction to that to someone saying to their
partner in bed like listen i i need you to shave your legs i'll be real for me i prefer legs shaved
right um there are some girls i know that they just bleach their hair to make it seem like
it's not there um for some women that works for some women but for a lot of women that does not
that does not do the trick at the end of the day i think a woman should do whatever she wants if it's
really uncomfortable then you know the guy should just find a girl that's that's better suited for
him but you know if he wants to tell her honestly that he prefers her leg shaved and she doesn't
want to do that then you know there you go you have your answer but yeah i prefer i prefer shaved
like that so this this brings up an interesting and interesting conversation because so we were
just saying that you know if a guy feels good about his beer and it looks good on
him then he should do what what he wants and he shouldn't shave it for somebody else but i
think it's a little bit different though with a girl shaving her legs is that a double standard
you know if we're gonna go like stereotypical then yeah but at the same time i'm saying that
if a woman prefers to have her legs hairy as [ __ ] and doesn't want to shave it and that's just how
she wants it then that's that's her decision to make you know it's not mine to intrude on
i will voice my opinion just like how she's gonna voice her opinion about my beard
but who is the one who's gonna shave it i am it's my decision um but you know
it is unattractive i will be turned off and that is something to be talked about and
if she wants to acknowledge it or not you know that's up to her i have i have girlfriends that
they just don't shave their their arm hair but like to me just like it's so little it doesn't
it doesn't bother me um but when it comes to like leg hair yeah that's that's a different story
um but it's it's again it's up to the individual in my opinion to do it or not i think
i think if you're living in abundance and have options then it shouldn't bother you too much
obviously if you care about the person um you might be more inclined to push your opinion but
again it's not it's not your decision to make you can just voice your opinion i completely
second that and and for me i know that um while he he ed got a lot of slack for first thing that
to her and i think that having facial hair for a guy is different than having leg hair for women
if a woman is really set on having like hair like cool go for it but if it's just something
that she doesn't really mind or pay attention to because having like hair for for a woman at
least in western uh cultures is normally not a statement piece right it's it's normally not uh
something that you you intentionally do like a man would grow out his his beard so i i actually feel
kind of bad for ed i'm i'm sad that he's getting so much slack for for saying that i i think it's
awkward to say in the first place it's a little bit uncomfortable and he has his preferences and
his and his likes and i think that you know good on him for for vocalizing and communicating that
sure there's there's a time and a place and a way to say it but it's much uh healthier in my
opinion to let your partner know what you're into what turns you on versus keeping it hidden and and
having to put yourself through things that that turn you off and at the end of the day
if she wants to do it that that's on her 100 i definitely agree that like i i think it's
important to vocalize what you want otherwise you're not being true to yourself and it's it's
just the same as lying right and you're holding back and there's going to be resentment that
builds up in the relationship i think at the end of the day everything needs to look on purpose so
if you have a beard and it looks like pubic hair on your face because you're not taking care of it
then you should you should shave it off but if you have a beard and you're taking care of it you're
trimming it um then you know that's a different story but i'm gonna steal that cal everything
should look like it's on purpose and i think that actually applies to everything in life though the
worst thing you can do is do something halfway whether whether it be go on a date interact with
someone doing a job being in a relationship uh you're in my opinion you're you're either zero or
a hundred percent there isn't any in between and the same thing applies to how you groom yourself
how you you dress yourself uh a person that cares is a person that that has confidence and it
matters to him how he presents himself to the world hey guys pardon this really
really quick interruption i just have a few questions for you do you want to see more
of these reactionary videos that cal and i are making for you and do you agree with our take
was big ed totally out of line for saying the kind of things he said to rose
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alright guys and now without further ado back to our original programming why i shaved my legs
leg hair it just seems kind of less feminine for a woman so it yeah i don't like leg hair it's gross
last night was awesome i think the champagne really got her excited
and um the next thing you know we're you know we're making love and now we're going to
leave to go meet her family i am worried about meeting her sister maria because of the fact
that she asked for money and asked me to hide it from rose her sister texted me and she basically
said you know i need help my store's gonna close and she asked me not to tell rose oh my gosh
it's gonna be awkward this relationship didn't even start it's their first few days just meeting
and getting to know each other and already he's stepping into a relationship where from from
his angle his partner's sister went behind her own sister's back and reached out to him and asked him
for money and who knows if she if she knew if his partner rose knew or didn't know but there's
already so many complications off the bat yeah this seems like manipulation at its finest um
yeah i can't i don't know if her sister knew or not but i have a feeling that she did i know women
usually tell each other everything i just assume that that they know but even if she doesn't know
even if she doesn't know what does that mean what kind of conversations are they having about him
when they're together like what kind of conversation are the are the sisters having about
ed they're probably talking about how he has money and how he's gonna be investing in them so
her sister is at least thinking oh i want to get some of this money so either way
there's manipulation going on and there's a conversation happening about how they can use ed
so it makes me it makes me sick and also like guys um investment is super like is super important
like like when you go on a date and you're paying for someone you should be wanting to pay for that
date like you know and if you if you don't want to pay for it then there's going to be this weird
feeling in your gut it's like you're at the table gambling and you just like double down double down
when you're losing and losing and losing you know leave the table if you know that this investment
is not right you leave excellent excellent point and i i completely conquer i completely
am with you on that it also i want to to add and to share when if a guy if you are paying
for your date or for your for your girlfriend it should be because you want to and you're enjoying
it not because you're expecting something out of it 100 what do you see i see what i like
very nice you too shape your beard are you sure uh are you positive oh
i mean i mean they made a deal you know if if he's okay with it then that's fine
um i don't know i don't know i i would never shave like this aspect at least like like sometimes i
grow this out and then i'll shave it but uh yeah i just yeah it's what i like and and i think that
also it's important to say that it's in my opinion very unhealthy to look at life and especially
relationships as tick for tat there's you know just because if if shaving your leg hair is not
a very big deal for you that you shouldn't you should do it because you you want to you should do
it because hey i want to be as sexually you know desirable and attractive to my guy as possible
now it's not like you're keeping record and tally in your head i shaved my legs now he
owes me something but when something in the future does arise you know the same expectations go for
the guys you know he should want to do things that will make him more attractive and make his
partner happier too but living this like i do for you means you need to do for me and keeping that
score that that score board i think that's that's that's unhealthy very unhealthy um yeah and you
know there i live in vancouver um there's a lot of girls here that grow out their hair their armpit
hair and they die at purple or something really and that's yeah they do that um and you know in my
head i'm like you know i don't i don't find that attractive but you can do whatever you want you
know um but i'm just not gonna want to approach you and sometimes i do approach them and i'm like
oh and they raise their hand i'm like oh snap um but i'm like okay well you're a cool person
you're my friend now but i definitely not sexually attracted to you anymore um and that's not you
know there's nothing against them like they can do whatever they want but it's i can't
fight what i'm attracted to like it's just just this is the case like um and if they don't care
then they don't care they don't care about attracting the opposite sex and whatever um maybe
they're not trying to attract the opposite sex maybe they're just trying to find their identity
or something i have no idea make a statement do they're on their own journey and that's that's
beautiful too all right cal thank you so much for joining me i hope that i didn't scare you too much
but i think your inside's super valuable yeah for sure that was really fun should do it again