this is for both of you did either of you ever get into serious trouble as a
teen before dream joining the military or were you always
exceptionally disciplined from a young age
uh that's right exceptionally disciplined for me
the reason i'm laughing if my if my parents uh uh
are listening to this and they're probably laughing hysterically right now
so as as are mine this is yeah i got in all
kinds of trouble all kinds of trouble all the time i was a total wild man i
i'm did you shoot your brother with an arrow in the
leg or something i know he stabbed himself oh okay he
stabbed him so we used to shoot each other with bb guns
all the time that was and we threw spears at each other oh yeah
you know in high school i drove around with an old beat up pickup truck and i
heard it from my my uncle who had inherited from my
grandfather and smashed road signs and just knucklehead stuff
and uh yeah i was a complete idiot and um but
uh you know and the military helped scored me way certainly and it
was uh i'm lucky that i didn't do something that caused me to have
you know lifelong injury or death or or damage you know i think or do
something that you get a bunch of trouble for for sure that would have
changed your actually prevented me from going to the naval camp preventing me
from going to the military and and and would have that would have
redirected my my whole life so um i i think uh uh you know if you're in
that stage and you're you're a wild teen you need to think
clearly about the long-term consequences because
you definitely can pay the man now and pay later in that situation for sure
one of the things that we do as as young boys i'm speaking from a boy perspective
because i'm not a girl and when i was growing up and with the
way i look back on it now a lot of the stuff that we did
dumb stuff that we did as teenagers was uh we were testing each other and we
were trying to prove ourselves like i'm tough watch me do this like um
it's almost it's almost like if you go instinctually
as a tribe member you're proving that you're willing to
sacrifice you're willing to take risk and sacrifice that's what you're proving
to your peers like i'm gonna like what you just said pickup
truck i'm gonna drive down the road and i'm gonna
i'm gonna run over this sign well okay it's funny but you're also proving to
your friends that you don't really care and you'll take risks and you'll do
things for the tribe that's kind of what you're proving so i
i think again i i don't want to sound like uh going back
to the same broken record but if you want to get your kid or if
you're a kid and you want to prove yourself
guess what you can do you can go take jiu jitsu you can learn how to fight for
real you can learn how to defend yourself you can learn how to take care
of your tribe take care of yourself take care of your family
you can do you can learn how to beat up other people
which is an important thing i wish i would have known it
when you know jujitsu you have less of a chance of getting into a fight because
the way you act is different you don't act like a jackass because you
realize that you might get stabbed and so you
act respectful to people and people can tell that and you're
respectful back to you so yeah it's just another thing i think helps out a lot
with kids because i think boys are always trying to prove themselves to
each other and to themselves that you're tough and
that you're brave i'm trying to prove that
you know how many that's just let's just survey
how many times did you jump off the roof of you know buildings
a lot yeah it's like why are you doing that we actually used to go when i was
we'd go fishing on the oil rigs off the coast uh go deep sea fishing you might
run 40 or 50 miles off and uh you're not supposed to get on the
rigs there's all these signs and stuff but we totally get up on the rig and
just jump off 60 feet off the top of the rig which was
awesome it hurts a little bit but it was good times but we do things to
prove that we're tough i did a lot of dumb
things when i was a kid and most of them were to prove to to
myself and to my friends that i was tough
and that i was committed and that i would take risks which are all
that was crazier than that which are all positive qualities right
that you want like when we're in the teams what kind of guy what kind of
teammate you want you want a guy that's aggressive you want a guy that will take
risks if he needs to you want a guy that's committed that's
what you want so in these little weird tribes that we
have as teenagers that's what we have and what are you gonna do to prove well
let's go get a fight with somebody let's go beat someone up you know there's all
those dumb things that you do so be smart be smart
neither one of us uh we're model children to say
to say the least