Welcome to the ultimate body language guide lesson number two.
In today's video we're going to go over everything there is to know about the hands and fingers
all of this information is taken directly from the dictionary of body language by joe navarro
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status people tend to touch lower status people more often as compared to the other way around
for example your boss is more likely to tap your shoulder as compared to you tapping his you can
use this to figure out the social hierarchy in any given situation touch and relationships if someone
is touching another and also getting touched back this is a sign of high levels of comfort between
the two people this is usually seen amongst family best friends and couples if all of a sudden you
notice that two people are no longer touching back and forth this is usually a sign that something is
wrong within the relationship hands on hips with thumb's back also known as arms akimbo this is a
dominance display something often used by military drill instructors and other people in positions of
authority this means that the person is ready and alert they have something they like to say or they
have an issue in mind according to joe navarro an airline assistant once told him that customers
who display this body language sign while waiting in line almost always have some sort of complaint
territorial hand display this is when someone takes up a lot of space on a table or desk with
their hands this is usually a form of intimidation and can often be seen when people fight with the
cashier at the store the angrier the person is the more space they'll take up pushing away from
table this is when someone suddenly extends their arm and pushes their body away from the
table or counter that they are sitting at this is a very clear indicator that this person disagrees
with what's being said or feels threatened the quicker this happens the stronger the emotions
they are feeling playing with objects this is when someone plays around with something using
their hands it can be almost any object including things like phones jewelry and even pens this form
of body language is known as a pacifier meaning that it helps people relieve stress although it
is often used to pass time surrogate touching technically this is also when someone plays with
objects in their hands however depending on the context of the situation it could mean something
totally different you see when someone wants to physically be intimate with the person that
they're currently with they will often transfer those wishes onto an object nearby you might
find them stroking a cup or playing with their pen in a sort of seductive manner while they're
with the person that they like in these cases this form of body language is a form of flirting
object placement people who surround themselves with objects are claiming the space as territory
this is actually a concept that i spoke about in a previous video of mine that goes over how you
can increase your levels of confidence by claiming more space object placement can also tell you how
someone feels about you if someone is feeling good they will often clear away any objects that are
between you and them on the other hand if things are bad if they don't enjoy interacting with you
they will often move objects so that it creates a barrier distancing from objects this is another
form of object placement if someone is moving something away from them like a bowl of chips
at the dinner table it's usually a sign that they have negative feelings towards that object
in this case they might be on a diet according to joe navarro he's often observed criminals pushing
away pieces of evidence such as photos once they realize that it's them in the photo hand steepling
this is when someone places the fingertips of their hands together like those evil villains
you see in movies this is a sign of confidence and is most commonly seen by those in power there are
modified versions of the steeple where the hands are interlaced or bent and still touching this
body language sign is often used to show others that you have full belief in what you are saying
palms up this is when someone speaks with their palms up often seen in ted talks this is used by
people who want to be accepted or believe it's basically a way of saying my hands are clean i
got nothing up my sleeves i am at your command this can also be used to demonstrate humility
palms down this is when someone makes a downward movement with their palms facing down this is
usually done on the table but it is also sometimes seen in the air and it's usually done when someone
is declaring something with conviction such as i did not do it the stronger the movement the more
likely they are being honest with what they are saying hand movement restriction studies have
found that when people lie they will use their hands and arms less as they are trying to seem
less suspicious however this is also seen with people who are simply shy or anxious which is
why it's always important to be on the lookout for sudden changes if someone who usually moves their
arms a lot suddenly stops moving while making a claim the chances of them having doubts about
what they are saying are much higher as compared to someone who doesn't move their hands much to
begin with hand ringing this is when someone rubs or squeezes parts of their hands sort of like
how you would wring a towel dry this is a sign of negative emotions such as anxiety doubt or stress
finger holding this is when you hold your own finger usually in front of you this is a sign
that someone is feeling a bit insecure as it is a pacifying movement designed to comfort us
jittery hands this is when someone's hands are shaking this could be because they are feeling
extremely excited or stressed such as right after a traumatic moment but it could also indicate that
they have some sort of disorder it could be drugs or some severe disease and thrust to face this is
when someone shoves the palm of their hand close to someone's face sort of like saying talk to my
hand this is basically a way of saying stop no and is also used when trying to insult someone
self-touching while answering this is when someone uses their hands to make any of the pacifying
movements while answering a question they could be using their hands to stroke their other hand
arms or even legs all of which are usually signs that they are not that confident in their answer
interlace fingers with thumbs up this is when someone's hands are laced together with their
thumb pointing up this usually indicates high levels of confidence very similar to
that of the hand steepling movement that we covered earlier interlace fingers with thumbs
down on the other hand if they are in the same position but their thumbs are pointing down
this is usually an indicator that they are not as confident or that they are currently
feeling some negative emotions you can actually observe people's thumbs going up and down during
interactions which can give you some insight on how they are currently feeling or how much
confidence they currently have in what they are saying in order to practice your body language
reading skills i recommend you re-watch this video with the audio turned off while covering the text
and see if you can tell how the actors are currently feeling we've gone over 21
different movements which is actually only half of all the movements for the fingers and hands
now because there are so many i've decided to split this video into two as i believe it
might be too much information for you to take in all at once the moment the second video is
released i will add a link in the description box below also make sure you've watched the
previous video on the legs and feet which i will link to as well besides that guys stay tuned