Hi everyone and welcome and thank you so much for joining me on the three part
video series to teach you the ABCs of how to get him back and keep him. Now
this is for anyone who is currently feeling separation or struggle with your
man where there is distance between you two this could come in the form of a
breakup or we could come in the form of you feel the relationship is just
slowly coming more and more apart but it really is aimed towards breakups but it
can be applied even if you're feeling distance with your man and you're
feeling like he's just not as warm and connected to you as you want to work so
this is a great program it's called the ABCs to Get Him Back and keep him and
ABC stands for the absolute best chances now I want to start off by telling you
I'm Adrienne Everheart I am a certified dating and relationship coach. I've been
doing this for a good long while and I have helped hundreds of women reconnect
with their ex in fact on the Internet I am called the pro if you want to get
your relationship back together I am a reconnection expert so I found
out a long time ago that it really doesn't take very much to get you and
your ex back together I get you back together I get you going out on dates I
get you reconnecting and re-establishing that loving relationship but then it's
really up to you to keep it going so in the past I used to do one-on-one
coaching with my clients to get them reconnected with their ex they would
feel amazing they would be happy they would be on top of the world and then I
never hear from them until they call me about three months later with basically
a repeat of the same problem they were having before so I said enough if you're
gonna work with me I need you to work with me for three months consistently
and I need to teach you everything because I want you to go out there and
be a success I want you to go out there and not only
get him back I want you to keep him okay so that's what I'm here to do in fact
there are some amazing coaches out there most of them are men and they have
programs to help you get your partner back but this is a very short lived
thing that happens you get that person back you get them back for a night or
two a week or two maybe even a couple of months and then it just slowly dissolves
because it isn't based on a foundation that's really pulling and putting your
hearts together so that's what my free three-part series is all about I am NOT
gonna talk about a lot of why I thought of why this is going on or a lot of what
I'm gonna give you some how okay so this video program I'm gonna give it be
giving you some of my best stuff to show you how this works I want to start with
number one the number one top reason I feel that a lot of women feel they have
lost that deep contact with their man they've lost that bond and it's resulted
in a breakup or distance okay so one thing that I've always found to be true
is there something going on with the man always always always there's something
going on there's an internal conflict there's an internal war that he's
experiencing that the woman really doesn't want to pretend she's seeing and
I don't mean that like you're living in a fantasy world but often we know what's
going on with the man it's just that in the woman's world these are problems we
deal with so I want you to just think for a minute about when you experience
a breakup when something can happen to you or when you find a new partner or
love in your life you can do so under all sorts of circumstances you can find
the love of your life while you're still in college you can find it can be the
worst breakup you've ever experienced and you can go out with your girlfriends
and meet a new guy and be totally excited you know we can start a
relationship under all sorts of duress and complications because we know
being in a relationship with a man is gonna make our life better it's gonna
improve it somehow we're gonna have some stability we're gonna have some support
we're gonna have that safety and encouragement that we really all need
and crave so for a man this is actually really quite different a man does not
want to have a relationship with a woman until everything in his life feels very
much complete together and he feels with it he feels in essence very much strong
in his masculine energy okay so I'm gonna talk about what those are how they
look and what you can do to reverse them what you can do to actually encourage
him feeling like a man even if he doesn't have a job
even if his help is poor even if he has an ex that's just driving him crazy and
he's in legal battles whatever it may be I'm gonna teach you how you can actually
address this head-on stop pretending like it doesn't exist it exists he's not
a woman he's gonna be like a man and most of the time men get out of the
relationship because they can't do it anymore they can't make you happy
anymore they can't make themselves happy anymore and when a relationship no
longer feels good to a man he gets out women we can stay through all sorts of
things okay and endure all sorts of terrible situations in hopes of
improving the relationship so let's talk about those so the three things that men
really want to be able to do or not do they want to be able to provide they
want to be able to provide for you they want to be able to maintain those
provisions and what they're giving you and the third thing a man will not do is
he will not compete he will not compete with another masculine energy when he
does one energy always wins out and another one backs away I want you to
think about two wolves out in the wild going head-to-head one is gonna be the
Alpha and so let's start with competing your man is not going to stick around if
he feels like he's competing with you so if you have a great career and you
have everything going for you your finances are amazing
you have no back taxes your credit is amazing and he is really starting over
and he is in this weird place with his career or he's spending all his money on
child support or he's still paying off a massive college loan or maybe he has
debt he's not even telling you about all right he's not going to compete with you
it's gonna be really difficult for him to compete and he's gonna feel
competition with you because if you're this successful and you have got your
life so together there's a really good chance that you're in a lot of masculine
energy and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that at work that's how you
have become incredibly successful and accomplished alright and 99.9% of all of
my clients really have all of their life together and their stuff together they
have the relationship sector is what's hurting the career the education the
finances they're doing they're doing just fine but the relationship is
deflated and laying over there very flat and over here everything is buoyant and
alive and looking great so a man comes along and he sees this and he might be
able to do it for about three months to a year and then after that he just has
had enough he can't do it anymore so I just want you to be aware of that I
do not want you to downplay your success that's not what this is about this is
about how do I manage being this amazing powerful dynamite woman but also have
this man over here who's just not in the same place this could be the same if the
man you loved is suddenly in a wheelchair or can't walk or becomes very
sick you're going to have to find ways to make him still feel like the man
alright there is only one captain to the ship and it has to be the man all right
your DNA says otherwise yeah we want the man to be in charge
we want to let him steer the ship and if you don't feel
confident with letting the man steer the ship that's why I want you to be very
careful who you choose as a partner but there are a lot of things you can do to
activate that masculine energy in him one of those things is don't talk about
work at home alright don't talk about work at home even if you had this great
sail and it means all this amazing stuff if he's struggling with his job at work
sorry if he's struggling with his work and his income I don't want you to
really spread too much of that around okay wait for him to ask and then what
you do want is no matter how small the accomplishment is you want to let him
know how good it feels that he is hardworking if he takes out the trash I
want you to tell him with a feeling statement how good that feels all right
so that's just one little nugget of what you can do find any way to reward him
don't overdo it this is not about going overboard this is about just wow this
feels really good the house is so clean or oh my goodness I looked in the trash
is empty oh I feel like a little princess you're taking such a good care
of me this is how you're gonna make sure he is feeling like a man because this
other part of his life is deflated right until he can figure that out and get
that balance which he as a man is going to have to figure out don't help him
he's got to figure it out it will only cause trouble because men do not compete
oh they'll back away from you they'll walk away the next one is provide and
maintain so men want to be the provider they want to know that under any
circumstance they can either take care of you financially or the majority of
you financially or they can handle whatever is going on in your life
emotionally financially physically whatever's happening they have to be
confident that they can do this job all right so let's say you have three
children and an ex-husband that's not gonna your door all the time or let's
say that your schoolwork is very demanding or that your job is very
demanding you just don't know how to connect with
him some days because you're so stressed and you're working so hard in your
schedules all over the place all right so this goes back to being able to lean
back and rely on him as the man to provide all right so a lot of men come
out of the gate and they can provide pretty well they can do pretty good
providing then they can't maintain they get about six to nine months into it and
that's when you're having some sort of problems some sort of crisis and the man
says I can't do this and he has to walk away all right so that's where I can go
a little bit deeper in helping you and learning how to manage something called
drama because we are all gonna have things that trip us up in life that
caused us problems that are headaches that are nightmares that we have to cope
with but it's really about balancing the amount of that drama into your life all
right so that's key is I want you to think how much is this about how I
really feel versus the drama of what I'm
experiencing all right so in my program the ABCs to Get Him Back and keep him I
go deeper into this process about what really draw the man to you makes him
attached and connect deeply to your heart and where you can really really
get him and he can be that provider and he can maintain and he doesn't have to
compete with you so he'll want to stick around all right everyone that's number
one please look in your inbox over the next couple of days for video number two
and thank you so much for joining me you can find me at everheartcoaching.com
and I'm also on YouTube just google my name
Adrienne Everheart and you'll find me and be sure to subscribe to stay up to date
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