- Negative stereotypes (light jazzy music)
of the 16 personalities.
Wow. This video could get me in some trouble.
I use stereotypes a lot
in my 16 personalities comedy sketches.
You know, you've seen 'em.
And of course, that's for comedic effect.
You know, when things are kinda blown out of proportion,
it's funny, we laugh.
So I hope.
But we are all individuals, right?
And even if you have the same personality type
as another person,
you're not gonna be like the same exact person.
And you might have the stereotype of your type
and feel like I don't, I don't relate to this.
Why is this stereotype existing?
I'm not like that.
So in this video, I'm gonna talk
about what I consider to be
like a major negative stereotype
of each type,
and then talk about why that exists,
like where it's coming from,
but then also point out
how you, if you are that type,
or someone you know who's that type,
may not be like that at all.
But everyone of that type
is still kind of doing the same things.
Their mind is working the same way
that, if blown out of proportion,
could end up as that stereotype.
All right, let's jump into it.
We'll start off with the extroverted thinkers,
ESTJ and ENTJ
which have kinda similar stereotypes.
For the ESTJ, the stereotype is they're mean.
ENTJ, somewhat similar.
It's like very calculating and ends justify the means.
How do I get to that end result?
I'll roll over anyone on my way there.
So, of course, you may meet some people like this
of this type but there's gonna be a lot of people
who don't fit the stereotype.
So why does the stereotype exist?
There are plenty of nice people who are ESTJ out there
who would never be mean to you.
Plenty of ENTJs who are great friendly people, right?
So it's not intrinsic to these personality types
to be mean or to be ruthless.
What it is is the extroverted thinking,
that decision-making process, for anyone of these types
is I need to make decisions based
on what just works,
what just gets me to the destination
I'm trying to get to.
What is the solution?
So you can see how in an extreme
that could lead someone to be mean or ruthless
because these types are not making decisions
with the responsibility
of making sure everyone feels good along the way.
It's not that they don't care at all how people feel,
it's just that they don't feel
like that's the best way to make decisions.
That doesn't make any sense.
Why would you do it? It's not logical.
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to the extroverted feelers,
the ESFJ and ENFJ.
Now, unlike the extroverted thinkers,
these types do feel the responsibility
to make decisions based on what everyone else
will feel good about.
So for the ESFJ, one of the negative stereotypes
about them is that they are gossips.
They're just talking about everyone around them.
Did you hear what Sally did?
Did you hear about Timmy
and all the things that are going on with him?
Oh my gosh.
I don't know.
I went to cover my mouth, but I put it down here.
So it just looked weird.
Like, I don't know.
The ENFJs, one of their negative stereotypes
is that they're not very intellectual.
I mean, that goes back
to they're making decisions based on feelings
so they're not doing much thinking.
Both of these stereotypes have to do
with having extroverted feeling
as a dominant function.
Extroverted feeling cares
about what is important to other people,
what is valuable to other people.
It's a way of communicating
like what is going on with everyone else?
Gossip is just like an extreme version of that,
just talking about other people and what they're doing.
The thing about ESFJs is that they will always talk
about other people.
So you're not gonna find an ESFJ
who just like never talks about other people.
But the gossip thing, don't necessarily have to go
to that extreme, to be that negative,
but you will usually hear ESFJs talking
about, oh, what about so-and-so?
Oh yeah, I like them. They're great.
Blah, blah, blah.
And with ENFJs, because they are NF types,
they're going with the abstract stuff,
so it's like all up in the air and they're the feelers.
So they have kinda this hippie vibe going on.
That doesn't help them when it comes
to the not intellectual stereotype.
And they do have inferior introverted thinking.
So it's like their internal logic process is gonna be
the thing that they struggle with the most in life.
However, it's not uncommon to hear ENFJs
who can just like come out with some well-thought-out stuff.
The thing is they feel responsible to make decisions
with the extroverted feeling,
not with their introverted thinking.
So, yeah, they think things.
They have an intellectual process going on
but they don't feel like that's the thing
that they should be bringing out.
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the extroverted sensors, okay,
the ESTP and ESFP.
The ESTPs, man, they can be presented
as kind of manipulative and selfish.
The ESFPs can get a bad rap
for being shallow.
For both of these types,
I think a lot of this
comes from kind of a fast moving nature.
The extroverted sensing that they have
as their dominant function is very much
about gathering new things and new experiences
and seeing what's out there.
That's what they like.
And the ESTPs are just kinda finding
all these new experiences and new things
and just doing what works for them.
Whereas the ESFP, they're going around
just looking for stuff that they like
because they have introverted feeling.
So it's all about, for both of these types,
it's all about them, what they think works for the ESTP,
or what they like, what they think is good
for the ESFP.
That's why they can get this bad rap.
If you really crank up the volume on those attributes,
it can end up being selfish and manipulative or shallow.
And while you will sorta see with these types
the element of always wanting the new,
wanting something more, wanting to keep gathering,
it doesn't mean
that all ESTPs are gonna be that extreme
of they just want, they'll do anything to get there.
They'll manipulate you. They're selfish.
They don't care about you.
In fact, they often are pretty good
at using their feeling function
because with the EP types,
they're fairly balanced with thinking and feeling.
And ESFPs, yes, they do think about things in a deep way.
The thing is, that's not what they're gonna talk about
'cause that's not the most important thing.
The most important thing is
what is the next new thing, right?
It's that gathering.
It's not necessarily stepping back to analyze.
They can do it. They do do it.
It's just not that they do do it.
But when push comes to shove,
rather than sitting back to continue to analyze
what they already know, the information they already have,
they would rather go out and find new.
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the extroverted intuitives, the ENTP and the ENFP.
And I think the ENTP,
the whole big stereotype there is,
you know, they're the debater,
they're argumentative, they're combative.
They're just a big jerk looking for an argument.
I think what happens with ENTPs a lot of times
is they just like to analyze arguments
and find different ways of looking at it.
And like, let's look at this hypothetically,
you know, theoretically if this happened here.
They don't do it to be combative.
They do it just because it's a fun intellectual exercise.
And so sometimes that comes across
as being overly argumentative.
But a lot of times I think ENTPs, as I said before,
EPs have thinking and feeling pretty balanced.
They have enough feeling there that they know,
okay, I shouldn't go too hardcore with my arguing.
ENFPs, their big stereotype,
which, you know, I'll be honest in a lot of ways
comes (laughing), can be true,
is that they are just like super disorganized,
all over the place, scatterbrained even.
That's because they are extroverted intuitives.
They're always looking for new possibilities
and introverted sensing,
which is about getting things organized
is their inferior function.
It's the biggest problem in their lives.
I think what it is is that no ENFP likes to organize.
They don't like to stop and do their chores.
They don't like to get their house in order,
to make a schedule, et cetera.
But a lot of ENFPs have figured out,
oh if I do this, you know, if I just get stuff organized
you know, whatever, blah, blah, blah,
if I stick to a schedule,
that allows me to just like do whatever the crap I want
the rest of the time.
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to the introverted thinkers,
the ISTP and INTP.
ISTPs, the stereotype I think is that they are cold.
They're like the lone cowboy out there
and they're just cold.
They don't feel nothing for nobody
and they're all on their own, they're loners.
And with INTPs I think one of the prevalent stereotypes
is that they're kinda lazy.
So with the ISTP, let's start with them,
this idea that they don't have emotions or whatever.
Actually, if you go back to my last video
of the dark side of each of the 16 personalities,
I do kinda talk about this.
Neither of these types
like to really engage emotionally.
They don't like to talk about emotions.
They don't like to like listen
to what other people are feeling.
They don't like to make decisions based on emotions.
For both of these types,
they feel the responsibility to make decisions
based on what they think is logical,
what they think is gonna work.
Emotions of other people,
we're not gonna worry about that.
So for the ISTPs, that can come across sometimes
as being a bit cold
because they're trying to avoid emotions.
If other people start talking about their emotions,
the ISTPs might get a little weird.
But it's really only the extreme stereotype of an ISTP
that's just like cold, stone cold,
Steve Austin all the time.
Most ISTPs, while they do not like to talk about emotion,
they can do it.
They can listen to you talk a little bit about it.
They can maybe occasionally express
a little bit of emotion.
They don't like to go there.
They would prefer to get away from it,
but they do have feelings.
It's just not the thing that they feel responsible
to spend their time talking about.
Then the INTPs, they're lazy, man.
This is kind of a interesting stereotype.
Maybe it actually does have to do
with the introverted thinking.
I think these two types are very reclusive.
They like to just sit and think for themselves.
They don't need like other people to talk to
about what they're thinking about,
which can make them appear perhaps lazy
because they need a lot of time
to just figure things out in their brain.
They will keep to themselves a lot.
And with the INTPs, because they are intuitive,
they are a little bit more out of touch with reality.
And so like going outside, doing stuff,
like physical labor is not
perhaps their strong suit.
But the INTPs especially,
when they find something they wanna work towards,
they will work very hard towards it.
But I think there is a lot of lead time
where they are, they gotta think about it first,
they gotta figure it all out.
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to the ISFP and the INFP,
the introverted feeling types.
The ISFPs I think get a bad rap,
a stereotype, for being flaky,
for being the kinda friend
where you're like, hey, let's meet up and do this thing.
And they'll be like, sure, I'll be there.
And then they don't show up.
They're like, oh, sorry,
something came up, blah, blah, blah. (laughing)
I had to do whatever.
They kinda just wanna do their own thing.
They follow their own heart.
I've talked about this in past videos
that the introverted feelers,
that's what they're all about,
following their own heart.
What do they think is good?
What do they value?
What do they think is important?
And that can lead them maybe to flake out on you,
to say, oh yeah, that sounds like a good idea.
I'll do that. I'll be there.
And then they find something that they would rather do.
Especially ISFP, you know, they have the extroverted sensing
where it's like new experiences, new things come up.
They don't like to make plans necessarily.
And with the INFPs, I think this stereotype
perhaps you can anticipate this coming,
is that they're depressed and they're sad.
Actually I made a whole video
about this one stereotype.
With introverted feeling,
that's, you know, emotions that are very deep
and hard to move.
So if an INFP happens to get sad,
it's hard for them to get out of it
and it's hard for other people to get them out of it.
So, yeah, INFPs when they get depressed
can be pretty depressed.
But yeah, with the ISFPs, they're not necessarily flaky.
What is going on is just
that they like to do what they like to do.
And (laughing) I think that a lot of the times,
if they say they will do something,
it's 'cause they wanna do it.
I think the stereotype comes up
when you get an ISFP who is like really selfish,
kind of like an extreme
where they just don't wanna say anything to upset anyone
so they just agree to do all these things
with no intention to ever do it.
And yes, while INFPs can get depressed,
I think they are not necessarily more depressed
than any other type.
And you'll find tons of INFPs who are doin' fine.
They're happy, they're livin' life, doin' their thing.
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to the ISTJ and ISFJ,
the introverted sensing types.
For the ISTJ, I think their stereotype
is that they're boring, man.
And I'll be honest with you,
sometimes I lean hard into that stereotype
when I'm making the comedy sketches, you know.
'Cause introverted sensing
is about keeping things in order
and extroverted thinking
is about just like getting results
and doing the logical thing.
So yeah, you can see how an ISTJ
in the extreme circumstance
would be a very boring person.
With the ISTJs, they like to go out.
They like to have fun.
They like to think about new things
and, you know, let loose and whatever,
but the ultimate responsibility for them
at the end of the day,
they know they have to have the facts straight.
They know that they have to have their stuff in order
and that when they're making decisions
ultimately even if there are things that they like
and think are good, they have to make their decisions
based on what is logical.
So yes, in the extreme that can make them very boring
but there is a lot more to your typical ISTJ.
With the ISFJ, I think the stereotype
is that they are overly attached to tradition.
Like they're just stuck in the past,
they're stuck in their ways.
Because yeah, introverted sensing
likes to get things organized in the sensory
which oftentimes would imply
let's do what we've done before.
We know that this has worked in the past
so let's keep doing that.
But ISFJs can change.
They can do things differently.
The thing is, it just takes them a little bit longer
to adapt than maybe an ENFP for example.
It's really only the extreme stereotype of an ISFJ
that'll be totally stuck in their ways
and totally attached to tradition.
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to the INTJ and the INFJ and their stereotypes.
For the INTJ, I think the stereotype
is that they are robots.
They are like emotionless,
just going about what is the most efficient thing I can do?
And with the INFJ,
I think the stereotype's kinda the opposite of it
that they're super sensitive,
that they can't handle criticism.
I've read this in a ton of places
on the internet that INFJs
are like super sensitive to criticism.
Now, with the INTJ, yeah, they are very efficiency oriented.
Introverted intuition plus extroverted thinking,
when you put those things together
and put them on steroids,
yes, that is like a robot
just like trying to get to (laughing),
trying to do its thing as efficiently as possible.
But when you get to know INTJs,
they have a lot of feeling there too.
It's just not the thing
that they usually present to you first.
INTJs really like to nerd out over stuff.
They really get into their interests
and they like to talk about it too
once they get to know you.
So then when we get to the INFJ,
this whole thing about being overly sensitive,
you know, that's where like stuff
like the INFJ door slam comes from.
And to be honest with you, it's tough for me
to come up with a logical explanation
for the origin of these stereotypes of the INFJ
being overly sensitive to criticism.
Perhaps it has to do with extroverted feeling
and needing approval and validation from other people.
And it's true.
INFJs are looking for validation from others
and criticism will deflate them.
I mean, I think it will deflate anyone.
But like what I talked about before
with some of the EP types,
IJs also have thinking and feeling relatively balanced.
And so when an INFJ receives criticism,
it might sting.
Yeah, they might not like it
but I think they are more able to process it.
INFJs are good at seeing both sides of things.
They're able to handle it.
And maybe, yeah, in an extreme,
they will be overly sensitive.
They will hold onto it.
They will be angry about it.
But I think most INFJs,
when they get criticized,
learn how to incorporate the criticism,
learn how to see the value in it,
and then use it for their own good.
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