Hey guys what’s up?
Trisha Hershberger here and I am joined by one of
my best friends in the whole world Katie.
Besties in the Westies.
Besties in
the Westies.
I’m the bestie in the Westie.
I’m an Eastie.
That’s true she’s in
the East.
We’ll get to that in a sec but before we do that I want to thank our
Naked Army members who vlogged last week that’s Chris Richard Colin
Christopher Prescott & Kristen Lawrence Jayms and Jayms yeah that’s
everyone thank you.
And if you sent in yours later than July 4th I just didn’t
say it but I’m also thanking you too and all of those that want to be shared
will be linked in the description below.
So welcome Katie to the Naked
Army.
Thank you I watch all the time.
Just so you guys know incase you
see any towels creeping up this is a not so naked Naked Truth mostly
because of what Katie does for a living but yeah we’re being safe.
Some
Naked Army members do that and also I think in all the years we lived
together I don’t know that we were ever like, “Hey naked roomie.”
No I don’t
think so.
I don’t think that ever happened.
There could have been once by
accident but it was not something that was something.
So first rule of being
a good roommate trying not to rub up naked on your roommate unless
they’re comfortable with that.
I mean hey if it’s your jam go for it.
That
should be a discussion first probably.
So Katie was my college roommate
for years.
She’s out visiting for the weekend from New York City.
That’s
right the Big Apple.
From New York City so I was like, “Come be on the
Naked Truth with me.
We’ll talk about college memories and roommates
and stuff.”
So Katie tell them a little about you and your life now.
Alright well
I own a theater company that supports women in theater so hats off for
that.
Me and She Productions pretty cool stuff and then the other job I do in
a vague was is I work in Edison.
I teach future doctors how to be nice to
their patients.
So Katie is doing really important stuff but Katie and I both
went to college as theater majors.
That’s right.
In Pennsylvania and split up
and I went to LA and she went to New York but we still manage to see each
other as often as we can and Katie and I have stayed really good friends.
Besties.
But we weren’t assigned college roommates.
Nope.
No so we’re
going to go ahead and tell you who we were assigned to.
Come on you all
have these stories lets be serious.
Well either you have these stories or
you’re right about to have these stories and either way I think you could
probably learn from these experiences.
So Katie you’re the guest why don’t
you tell the story of your roommate.
Okay.
Freshmen year.
To protect the
innocent or the not so innocent I will call her A. Okay.
Yeah?
Because she
might sue me if she hears what I say about her.
Because she’s crazy.
She’s
crazy.
Okay so I walked into my dorm room and there was no joke like 15
20 people standing around.
There were people crying.
This was day one
your first day moving into the dorm. Day one thank you for that or
orientation week.
So finally I just said which one of you is my roommate?
She walked out we introduced ourselves later that night she says, “I’m
going home,” and I say, “For serious like you’re leaving college?”
No she
just basically went home every other night which was like an hour and a
half drive mind you.
Okay and there’s some measure of understandable
you’re home sick it’s the first time you’re living away sure totally get it.
This
was a bit excessive.
Good for me though because I got the dorm room to
myself all the time but how much do you want me to go into her and her
boyfriend?
So yeah the short version she had a boyfriend.
Who was still in
high school which no shame there.
Yeah fine.
Long distance.
But they used
to get into crazy ragefull fights and by ragefull fights I mean she got into
rageful fights so I would come back in my room and there’d be pictures
smashed.
Things would be broken and not only things that were hers.
No
my things and my phone.
So I come in and not a cell phone we had like the
land line the wireless phone she broke them all the time so I had to go back
to multiple Walmarts and be, “Hey I don’t know why this phones broken it’s
weird.”
Can’t imagine why it’s smashed into bits.
I might be on a black list.
Couldn’t be my crazy roommate fighting with her boyfriend for the fiftenth
million time.
So yeah we didn’t really hangout that much which then led me
to hanging out with this awesome chica.
Yeah and I was matched up with
someone I will say the same for sake of to protect the not too innocent and
we’ll call here M. M was one of those people that got popular in high school
so I learned later I didn’t go to high school with here so I didn’t know by
being nasty to people.
Real nasty.
Level 10 nasty.
Like one of
those I’m not confident in myself so I’m just going to put everyone else
down around me to make myself look better kind of ladies.
Don’t be that
person.
Don’t be that person.
And so in the room she
pretended to be my friend for a little bit in the begining that didn’t last very
long.
Until you start brushing your teeth.
But then we had a lot of mutual
friends.
Yeah right.
Then we had a lot of mutual friends that she would say
nasty things about me and they would range from things that you know
what ever your normal bullieing I’m not cool I’m a loser what ever to she
brushes her teeth too loud in the morning.
Trisha thank you for good dental
hygiene by the way.
You want a roommate with good.
So when you have
an 8am class it’s customary to brush your teeth before you go to your class
but she just could not deal with my teeth brushing.
And I’m not like when
I’m brushing my teeth like I’m not making noises.
No.
I had an electric tooth
brush so apparently that was too loud for her in the morning.
Yeah she was
a snoozer.
So I would say a roommate don’t if you’re a snoozer please try
to knock it off before you have a roommate.
It’s inconsiderate when you
have a really early morning class to have your alarm go off six times before
you get up.
Two times.
Maybe come to a compromise like two no this was
rediculous.
But I did not complain about M to mutual friends but what ever.
M was crazy M got into lots of fights with people including me.
And me.
All
the time and so Katie and I would run away and we literally hid once.
Yeah
hid in my room and she came down the hall she was like, “Trisha are you in
there?”
She was so mad and I was hiding under Katie’s bed and I’m like,
“Don’t tell her I’m here don’t tell her I’m here.”
Yeah yeah.
So you know
very exciting but we bonded through that and then sophmore through
senior year where you’re able to choose your roommates we were like,
“Okay we’re so living together.”
And we lived together so well.
So well.
That
was awesome.
I said for years even after college I was like, “The best
roommate I had was Katie.”
Hands down I was like I’m going to need to find
a man to marry that’s as easy to work with as Katie was.
And I don’t know if
it’s that we are both particularly easy to live with.
No we had a lot of similar
interests and a lot that weren’t but we communicated.
I think that’s the
important thing just if you’re feeling something say it in a nice calm way and
just talk about it.
Don’t leave passive agressive notes everywhere even
though that seems much easier because it’s not confrontational it’s so
much better to be like, “Hey can I talk to you about something?
You did this
and it kind of bothered me a little so if we could not do that anymore.”
And
as long as you preface it with and if there’s stuff I’m doing please tell me.
Totally.
Put it out there.
None of us are perfect.
None of us are perfect
exactly and I think everyone has different levels of how they’re used to
living based on how they were raised and you know all these different
factors that come together that as soon as you get on the same page.
It’s
great then.
You’re fine but I think so many people are so hesitant like, “I
don’t want to hurt someones feelings so I’m just not going to say anything.”
That’s the worst.
I think on the other side it could also be that some people
are just selfish about not realizing that the other person they’re living with
has an opinion or might have concerns about stuff.
That’s true.
You gotta
think about the other person.
I’m not saying that you need to compromise
for the sake of yourself but just stop think be like, “Hm I wonder what
they’re going through right now.”
Like if you’re the roommate that needs to
snooze six times in the morning or just says well I have too many things I
have to take up the whole sink with all my stuff I’m sorry there’s no room for
yours but I just have a lot of things.
Try to remember that there are two
people sharing the space.
Yup.
And you need to share.
I know thats
something we try to teach people as toddlers.
I don’t think it goes too far.
But I don’t think it goes too far.
Kindergarten.
Yeah and honestly if you do
ever get stuck with a roommate that you guys are just not jiving there is no
harm in being like, “Hey this isn’t working out.”
Yeah totally.
“I need to
remove myself from the situation.”
More for your own sanity and that
applies to lot of things in life.
If you’re in a toxic relationship if you’re in a
toxic friendship so if you’re living with someone and that is a toxic you know
situation for you get out of it.
Protect yourself it’s so important.
So yeah do
you have any roommate dos or don’ts that we didn’t cover.
Roommate
does or don’ts okay.
So if there’s gonna if you’re going to get in a
relationship and the person you are in a relationship with is going to be at
your dorm room or at your apartment a lot yeah I mean I’m happy I’m
happy for anyone who I’m friends with in a happy relationship but think
about that there’s still another person living there.
So yeah.
And they might
not want a third roommate.
You know space it out schedule it.
Thursday
nights are going to be the sleep over night or the weekends or every other
just be respectful of that.
And the common space be respectful of the
common space.
Kitchens living rooms.
I don’t know the dorm room you
kind of just have.
Yeah be respectful of the common space is a huge one.
Even if you want to keep your bed messy or your desk messy the stuff that
everybody shares try to be cool about.
Unless you’re both messy people
and you’ve already talked about it and you’re like, “I’m happier in clutter.”
Like my good friend Steve Zaragoza feels like he’s not creative unless he’s
surrounded by clutter and that’s who he is and I would never want to live
with him for that reason primarily.
I’m a small pile I like make a small piles
of clutter and then I think I’m organized but really it’s just a small pile.
See I
do that too.
That’s why we work well together.
I’m like, “I’m too busy this will
just sit here until I can clean it.”
But that pile does not grow to like Joba the
Hutt proportions.
No.
That pile stays relatively small until I actually get a
chance to clean it.
But we had agreed that that’s okay.
Yup.
Your small pile
my small pile not a problem.
Not a problem.
Oh and the other thing I say is
discuss the amount of partying.
Oh good one.
Not just people coming over
that you’re in a relationship with but just like people coming over in general.
If one person just wants to be the social butterfly and be the room that
entertains but the other person is trying to study that’s really hard too.
Yeah.
So yeah so discuss that.
So our question for you guys this week is
more of a story time.
Tell us your worst roommate story.
Yeah that sounds
awesome.
Right?
That’ll be fun.
So yeah guys let us know that in your own
Naked Truth Vlog.
Remember if you want to do it naked or not so naked all
of those are fine but please film from the shoulders up only this is not a
sexy time show.
We’re doing no make up and wet hair today so you can
feel free to do that or just you know do it in a way you feel expresses you
as you as you can be.
And then if you want to make that vlog upload it onto
your YouTube channel and send it to me using the For Business Inquiries
link in the about section of this channel that would be awesome.
So Katie
thank you so much for joining the Naked Army.
Thank you so much for
having me I watch all the time and thank you guys so much for supporting
Trisha.
She’s my bestie and I’m so proud of her.
And if you’re ever in New
York go check out a Me and She Productions show.
Please.
They’re pretty
awsome.
We’re non profit we’re just trying to support women.
Alright thanks
guys.
Bye.