Never judge book by its cover.
I love that saying, I think it's a great one to live by, but here's the reality is that
we judge books by their cover every single day.
I'm talking about human beings, situations.
Every day we're out there, we're making superficial judgments.
In today's video, I'm going to talk about five ways that I make superficial judgments
whenever I meet someone for the first time.
So, I know I'm going to get some flag for this video and for those of you that have
transcended reality and never judge a person based off how they behave or how they look,
great, you can skip this video.
But, for the rest of us that live in the real world and have to make superficial decisions
because that's all that we have to make these decisions whether it'd be their score on a
test, whether it'd be, you know, an interview, whether it'd be what they're telling us.
All of this is surface information because if you really want to get to know someone,
you have to spend a lot of time.
And that's why a lot of these superficial information is actually inaccurate, but still
you can sabotage yourself, you can screw up your chances of getting that job or getting
that next date with that person if you don't master what I'm about to talk about in this
video.
So, the first thing I judge a person on is their management of time.
Basically, are they punctual when they show up to meet with me whenever we have a phone
call, whenever we have a meeting.
Someone that misses once, okay, I understand, situations happen and I'm always one to forgive,
but I don't forget because if you miss it again, then I'm going to say this person just
doesn't value my time.
Emergencies happen, but it's very rarely that these happen again and again.
And many people are going to put off the excuse, oh, it's not my fault, I was stuck in traffic,
I, you know, forgot I didn't have a timer set.
This, again, it happens once, but if it happens consistently this is showing that this person
doesn't value time.
Item number two I'm going to judge you on is preparation or your lack of preparation.
You see preparation is pretty much the same thing as work, it's you making the time putting
in the effort and putting your head down to make things happen to be ready for life's
important and sometimes just regular everyday events.
And, I think it's a great indicator, is this person going to make a great employee, are
they going to make a great life partner, do they actually prepare for things or do they
just let things happen to them.
When I talk about style image all these stuff, hear what's what's interesting about this
is it does require a lot of preparation to have a great fitted suit ready when you've
got that interview at a last minute notice.
Because you could show up and use the excuse, oh, I just didn't have a suit ready and I
mean I had to wear I came right from work or you can say you know what?
I was ready for this opportunity.
I already had the suit bought, it was already fitted versus you having to start off the
interview explaining why you don't look the part and that they should just trust that
you are going to next time make it happen.
It doesn't work that way.
People make split second decisions based off of your lack of preparation.
The next item I'm going to judge you off is based off of your manners.
Now, manners are not etiquette.
Etiquette you can even say falls under preparation, but etiquette is actually knowing the rules
of a certain society, it changes from culture to culture.
But, let's say you sit down at the table, there's multiple forks, spoons, knifes, all
these flatware, how do you use it in which order, that's etiquette.
I'm not going to cover that in this video and I don't think you should judge someone
based off of their inability to function within some rules that were created.
But, manners are different.
Manners are how you make other people feel and I pay attention to the way not just how
you treat me because maybe you're trying to impress me get a job with my company or you
want to work with me as a business partner, but how do you treat others.
How do you treat the waiter as we're sitting down that, you know, how were you treating
those under you?
How do you treat your fellow employees?
So, pay attention to your mannerisms and never treat people without giving them the due respect
that as human beings they deserved.
The next item I'm going to judge you on is your language and your speaking ability.
So a few things here, but first off let's talk about your lexicon.
If you only have a few descriptors, you're not very good with using adjectives or you
don't really know how to even put something in the words, how can you describe it?
One of the things when I look at someone if they're well-spoken, I assume they're well-traveled,
they're well-read.
All of these things that they high they've got a higher level of education.
Now, these are assumptions and they are not always true, but it is something we make a
judgment call on.
Let's look at the use of vulgarities.
So, I do think there is a time and place for cuss words, they can add emphasis, they can
grab attention.
If somebody's wandering off, you can bring them back with a word like that that is strategically
put into the sentence.
But, if every other word out of your mouth is the F word is the S word, instantly I'm
thinking, gosh, like what is this guy's level of education and I don't want my kids around
this person because my kids I don't want them speaking like this.
Now, let's talk about your presentation and speaking skills.
This is something no one is born naturally able to get up stage and just present themselves
at a very high level.
You need to practice.
I recommend going to conferences, maybe going to toastmasters.
Put yourself in a situation that you have to engage with other human beings and it doesn't
matter if you're an introvert, I know I am, but you don't have to be a natural extrovert,
you just need to understand that sometimes you got to flip the switch on.
You've got to be able to put your message out there.
So, if you've got a company, if you are trying to start a nonprofit, if you're trying to
meet someone like a great life partner, you want to be thinking, hey, I've got to put
myself out there, otherwise I'm going to be that guy standing in the corner like this
that people are going to say, who was that person, I never didn't even talk to him.
Don't be that guy.
Learn to master this skill.
So, number five on this list.
Last way that I judge you, I judge you based off of my view of the world.
My myopic small very narrow focused growing up in Texas, going to college in Iowa and
having a business in Wisconsin, yeah, I've been maybe to like twenty countries or something
like that, but I've still got a very narrow view of the world.
And, when you understand that people see the world and they make judgments based off this
narrow view, you realize, okay, the way I'm going to get past this, the way I'm going
to get them to not judge me not be superficial is to get beyond the superficial.
You do that by forming real relationships, finding common ground and breaking off from
there.
So, I highly advise if you're interested in being a non-judgmental person, then take the
time to get to know your fellow people, travel, get out there and make friends, engage with
people who may be you've got, you know, you're diametrically opposed to them when it comes
to some key fundamental issues, find out why do they truly, truly try to understand why
do they believe this because when you do that, you're going to become less judgmental.
And, guys, hopefully you enjoy this video, I had a little bit of fun, I got a little
bit philosophical with it I feel.
And, I will see you in the comments.
If you've got questions you got comments, I would love to hear from you guys.
Maybe one of your bad habits of being judgmental about certain things, I know everything I
said, you know, again is from my point of view, my goal as a business owner.
But, I would love to hear from you guys down in the comments.
I'll see you down there.
Take care.
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