If you're watching this video right now, that means you're probably in a situation where
you're putting in a lot of effort, and you're not getting much in return.
Or maybe you're in a situation where you're realizing you're not putting in enough effort
(which we'll get to in a little bit) and still, nothing is happening.
Meaning you're doing all this stuff but women are still not talking to you, you're not getting
responses, you're getting flaked on, it's not working.
I get it.
You're out there, you're on dating apps, you're swiping, you're sending messages, you're going
out, you're talking to women, you're going to events, you're going to parties.
Maybe you're doing some cold approaching on the weekends, talking to women wherever.
You're putting in the effort, but still you can't get a response, maybe you're getting
their numbers and they're just not responding to you.
They're ghosting you, they're not even texting you back or maybe they won't even give you
the time of day when you go up and try to start a conversation.
Women are looking at you weird and you're feeling down, you're feeling low, you're feeling
like a freak, you're feeling ugly.
You're feeling worthless.
You're at this low point.
I get it.
I know where you're at.
Story time.
I remember when I was first learning how to meet and attract women.
I remember going out and having a lot of very rough days.
I tell this story quite a bit.
But I'm going to tell it again in a different way.
Tell the story of how I first went out and I remember the first night I ever went out
it took me three hours to get the courage to say hello to a person.
Actually, I take that back.
That was the second night I went out.
The first night I went out, nothing happened.
The second night I went out for three hours finally I said hi to a girl and I was so nervous
I just kept walking past her.
Because I was not used to talking to women or talking to anyone that I didn't already
know.
I had very bad social anxiety and bad approach anxiety.
I remember having that second night and I was like, whoa.
It felt good.
I did a little bit better than yesterday.
That was my new goal.
I'm just gonna try to keep going and do a little bit better than yesterday.
Because I know logically, if I do a little bit better than yesterday, that means I'm
improving every single day and that means in a month, six months, a year or five years
from now, if I keep up with that, I will be in a rock star position because I'll be further
than I was when I first started.
That was my mentality here.
I'm going out and I remember now I'm going out a little bit more frequently to practice
approaching and talking to women and getting over the fear of learning attraction.
I had so many ups and downs.
Nights where it was really fun and I just felt more carefree, not because of alcohol
just because I was having a good time.
Enjoying myself talking to women.
Maybe I'd get a number, maybe not.
And then I'd have another night where I'd go out and for some reason, all that fear
rushed back inside of me and I was back to barely talking to any women.
Or maybe I would try and I get rejected or nights where I'd go out and just get rejected
all the time.
I went this whole crazy up and down process to get to the point where eventually I got
over the fear or at least I still had the fear but I was able to push it aside and not
let it get the best of me and still go and approach women and be more fearless, be more
courageous, and just be a more charismatic, fun, interesting version of myself like an
upgrade of myself.
Boy did this take a long time.
It could have taken longer if I didn't put all the effort that I put into it.
I was going out anywhere from five to six nights per week for a few years and in that
two year period, sometimes I was going out every single day or every single night.
Meaning Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday going out every night.
Saturday going out during the day, Saturday night going out, Sunday going out during the
day, Sunday night going out.
Imagine how many man hours I'm putting into this, going out and practicing talking to
women.
Of course, a lot of rough times, a lot of good times, but I put a lot of effort into
it.
Here's the good news.
Someone might be thinking, either A that's bullshit and they don't believe it.
That's fine.
That is absolutely true.
But more importantly B you might be thinking oh man, I don't want to do that.
That's a lot of work.
I can't even do that.
I have a job.
I have school.
I have other responsibilities.
There's no way I can go out every single night for a week, let alone three weeks.
Good news is that's fine.
You don't need to do that to improve with this.
If you want to be a dating coach like myself, maybe because you got to get to those extreme
levels to get to the point where you know it so well that you can make videos like this
and talk about it effortlessly.
My guess is you're probably not that person.
You just want to get some results.
You want to get girls talking to you, you want to get this going.
Great.
You don't need to do that much.
However, you do need to do at least half of that if you want results.
If you want quicker results, you can go out every night if you wanted to to practice this
stuff.
It depends how much work you put in, in terms of what you get out.
That's one of the first things you have to understand.
This whole video is not going to be just me pushing you and telling you hard work, hard
work, hard work.
I have some practical things to tell you.
But you still have to understand that even though you're at a very low point where it's
not working for you, you can't give up.
I bet you that most of the people watching this video, that's including you right now.
You're probably not really giving it a fair shot.
A fair shot of going out and putting in the hours.
Just because you go out and once in a while talk to one girl and she's not responding
to you, that doesn't mean that this is game over for you.
You are way, way farther away from that point.
You need to have way more data.
You need to be going out a lot.
You need to be talking to a lot of women to even get to the point where you're like, I'm
going to give up.
And the good news is most people who do put in that effort, do put in the hard work, do
implement the strategies and techniques that I talk about on these videos end up seeing
results.
You're probably not putting in enough work to get the correct data so you're just thinking
I suck, why can't girls talk me?
Why isn't this working?
You're really looking at this with a wrong viewpoint, a false perspective.
Here's another story about an actual client of mine that I was working with back around
2013.
I was working with this guy, we were working together hands on hardcore for a full month.
We were going out probably around four days a week.
Going out approaching women.
A lot of it was during the day, sometimes at night as well.
This was a struggle.
This guy was going out, he was putting in a lot of effort and it just wasn't working
for him.
Girls were not responding to him.
Sometimes they would, maybe he get a number and then it wouldn't work out.
And he was getting better.
Let's say we've been working together for a month, by the third week, it was getting
a lot better and he was starting to see more results.
But he's still getting really beaten up here.
He's just like, I don't get it Tripp, we're doing a lot of work here.
I'm not seeing the kind of results that I wanted.
He's like, maybe I should just give up.
This a true story.
We're sitting down in Los Angeles, we're at the grove, we're sitting down, taking a break
from approaching.
He looks at me and he goes I think I'm going to just give up.
You've done a great job.
Thank you for your help.
This is not working for me.
I think I should try to find a matchmaker and just do it that way and try to put something
together and not force this by doing all this approaching.
I go listen man, I get it.
I get where you're at.
This has been a struggle but this is the process.
This is the work.
Tor some guys it happens a lot sooner, for some guys it takes even longer.
Give it another shot.
Just give me a few more hours of your hardest effort.
Let's just go out, let's talk to some more girls.
Let's just see what happens.
Can you do that for me?
He said okay, let's do it.
He wasn't like all right, let's do it.
He's just like half okay, whatever.
What else do I have to lose here?
I guess let's just keep going.
I said let's just keep going and we can revisit this matchmaker or whatever situation we find
ourselves in later.
Let's just keep going.
So we keep going.
I kid you not, true story.
The next girl that he approached who was super cute, they ended up talking.
They talked for about 15 minutes, which was a very hard place for him to get to because
starting a conversation with a girl out of nowhere and getting her to respond and talking
to her for 15 minutes is not an easy feat but we've been practicing that.
He gets to that point, he gets her number, he ends up taking her on a date three days
later and then she ends up becoming his girlfriend.
Again, this guy all the hard work at his lowest point, at his lowest point, he finally got
a result that was worth continuing.
End of that story they end up dating for a couple years, on and off, didn't end up working
out.
But that's not the point.
The point was, is that right before he was about to quit, right before, he ended up seeing
a really great result.
Now odds are if we didn't go to that mall that day, it probably wouldn't have happened
for him.
But still my point to you is that even though you're putting in the hard work, even if you're
not seeing the results, giving up is not going to do anything.
You're gonna have to just change your ways a little bit.
Things are going to have to change.
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different
result.
Well you can't do that.
What you need to do is coach yourself through this process.
I always say the best way to self coach yourself if you can't get an actual coach to look at
you and figure out what's going on or dissect what's happening is to experiment and try
different things.
If you're going out and you're trying to talk to women and you are doing it at a decent
level, meaning you're going out a lot, talking to a lot of women, it's not working out, you
might be doing the same thing over and over.
You're doing the same thing over and over, you're expecting something to change, it won't
so you need to change something up.
You need to change maybe the way that you're talking to them.
Maybe you need to change the topics of conversation.
Maybe you need to change the way that you're looking at them.
The way that you're presenting yourself.
It's infinite.
There's a lot of different things that you might need to change.
But it's okay , you test it out.
If you want some of the core things that are the most important that you can test out for
yourself and self coach, check out the Hooked program.
That's a course that I put together that teaches you all the different things that you need
to know.
The most important things to get results and get women to respond to you when you're talking
to them.
That's at www.getherhooked.com.
There's a link in the description below that's going to teach you everything you need to
know to go up to a woman, start a conversation, attract her, get her invested in you and then
end up either in a relationship or just a casual sexual relationship.
Everything is at www.getherhooked.com.
Or you can watch these videos, you can learn some stuff from my podcast and test different
things out.
Point being, don't give up.
There's so much more room for you.
They always say or there's this one special saying that says "it's always the darkest
before the dawn."
Which means that at your very lowest point, at the very last lowest point, the worst point
that you're at, if you just wait a little bit longer then things start to brighten up,
then you can start to see some better results.
But unfortunately, it's not going to just happen to you, you have to be proactive.
I want to give you a little tip that you can use today that most guys are probably not
doing and I can guarantee you're not doing in your interactions with women, whether on
dates or if you're going out and approaching meeting women.
That is the concept of entertainment.
I talk about this in the Hooked program by the way and it's part of my system.
Entertainment is this one aspect where when you're going out and talking to women, you
want to entertain yourself.
You want to talk about the things that are interesting to you.
You want to make the jokes that are funny to you.
You want to be having a good time in the interaction.
Why I'm saying that most guys don't do this and you're probably not doing this is because
it's very counterintuitive.
You think (and I used to think this by the way as well) is you want to go up and impress
a woman.
It's all about impressing her, getting her to respond and like you and like the interaction.
What happens here is when you do that, you're really being a little bit more needy, you're
chasing a little bit more, you're trying too hard, which then in turn becomes unattractive
and very predictable and like every other guy who's ever approached her.
Most guys don't take the counter intuitive approach, which is what I'm talking about
here.
Entertainment.
Again, entertaining yourself, not her.
I want to be clear on this.
Guys mess this up and I get it because they're thinking one way and I'm trying to flip the
switch in your brain.
Entertaining yourself.
What can you do to make this process fun for you?
What are the things that you can talk about in the interaction with throwing out the idea
of it working.
Guys are like no I gotta say the things that she's gonna like or else she's gonna reject
me.
I gotta make sure she's having fun and she likes the interaction or she's gonna reject
me.
Why don't we just test this out?
Throw that whole thing out the window.
Instead what can you say, what can you do in the interaction that makes it interesting
to you?
Is there something you watched?
Is there something you read?
Is there something of a joke that you have with a friend?
Is there something funny that you saw lately?
What is it that makes you have a good time?
What are you talking to your friends about?
Really think about this.
I could give you a lot of specific examples.
But I don't want you to copy and paste.
I want you to think about what it is and how it applies to you.
I know I'm giving you that extra little work to do, but it's going to help you in the long
run so your conversations are more natural and less scripted and then you're going to
really see better results because she's going to be connecting with you and not some false
version of you.
Take this concept and use this in your interactions.
If you're not getting a woman to respond to you, if they're not talking to you, if they're
not taking you seriously try the concept of entertainment.
I'm not trying to say this to you as optional.
But if you get my Hooked program, you'll see that this is one of the core principles of
attraction.
If you're not having fun, if you're not enjoying yourself, if you're not entertaining yourself,
it's going to be very difficult for a woman to be attracted to you.
Because you're gonna be taking things too seriously and she's just going to see this
guy who's trying so hard and doesn't have a life of his own.
When a guy is confident, when a guy is sure of himself and he's really speaking to a girl
on that level, it's usually because he's carefree.
That's what it looks like to be confident.
When you're portraying this entertainment aspect when you're entertaining yourself.
This is exactly that, carefree, having a good time, not caring about her response, not caring
what people think about you.
This is the ultimate confident person who doesn't give a shit.
He's living his life.
He's doing what he wants.
He's on his path.
He's on his purpose.
He's having a good time.
This is attractive energy.
This is what women want to be around.
This is what women are attracted to.
This is it.
I give you more information on how to do this in the Hooked program, which is at www.getherhooked.com.
And you're going to learn all about that principle, plus my other two principles Tension and Dominance.
And then how do you go through the circle of doing tension, entertainment and dominance,
tension, entertainment, and dominance, working all those together to create mind blowing
attraction with women and getting them invested in you.
Here's the thing, we combine all of this right here with this other part which is getting
a lot of leads into the funnel.
A lot of guys (and this is connected to what I was saying in the very beginning of the
video ) aren't going out and talking to enough women.
They're talking to maybe one woman or going on one date every couple of weeks and they're
going boo hoo, it's not working out.
They're not putting all the effort into it.
Understand this you need a lot of leads.
This is a little bit of a game.
It's a numbers game.
There's a lot of women you're gonna have to talk to, a lot of rejections you're gonna
have to face, a lot of bad dates, a lot of rough interactions, a lot of the emotions
of potential embarrassment.
I'm not saying that you're going to get embarrassed but you're gonna feel embarrassed because
this is just tough to go out and talk to strangers.
You're going to have to go through all that and sift through a lot of different women
to get better.
Let's not look at that negatively.
I know that painted a terrible picture for you.
Let's look at it in terms of reality like okay, no big deal.
I got to go out, I gotta go on a lot of dates.
I gotta talk to a lot of women.
I gotta talk to strangers.
I gotta go to events.
Dah, dah, dah.
I got to do all this stuff.
It's just part of it.
But if I go through it, I will end up getting better.
But you need a lot of women to talk to so you get to that point.
Don't think that one girl every couple weeks is going to be enough.
I hope I made my point here.
I hope I've encouraged you and not set you back at all but gave you the reality of it
and then gave you what you need to do to start getting results in this area.
Don't give up.
Keep pushing yourself.
If you need that assistance go to www.getherhooked.com.
The description below has the link and I hope that helps.