how do i get her to like me? It's a question
that just about every guy has asked
himself at one point or another and there's
no question how important body language
is to communication. Some experts say
that as much as fifty five percent of
our communication is actually nonverbal
it was once believed that over ninety
percent of our communication was
actually nonverbal. We can say so much with
our face our posture and our eyes and its
effect on us in relationships are
astounding and today I'm going to talk
about five ways you can get her to like
you without saying a single word. Now I
want to note that none of these tricks
i'm about to share with you are
unethical or manipulative they're just
some simple tricks that anyone can use to
improve their communication skills and
relationships.
The first tip is what Leil Lowndes
referred to as the flooding smile in her
book entitled "how to talk to anyone."
Our smiles have a powerful effect not
only on the people around us but also on
ourselves.
Research shows that smiling not only
makes you appear more friendly and
attractive to others but it can also
lower your own anxiety and release
endorphins! But if you want to get the
most out of your smile then don't give
it away for free instead when you meet
someone take a moment to look at their
face
pause and then let a warm smile flood over
your face and into your eyes. This pause
may only last for a quarter of a second
or even a half a second but it'll make
the receiver feel that the smile was
genuine and meant for them alone.
The second tip is what the book refers
to as sticky eyes. Our eyes are arguably
the most powerful tool at our disposal
when it comes to promoting feelings of
respect trust and intimacy in a
relationship. In fact a Boston Research
Center once conducted a study to learn
the precise effect of eye contact.
They put two people in a room and had
them have a two-minute conversation with
each other. They tricked half the subjects
into maintaining intense eye contact by
counting the number of times the other
subjects blinked during the conversation.
They found that the subject who received
this intense eye contact reported
significantly higher feelings of
respect and fondness towards the other
person. The sticky eyes technique is similar
you simply pretend that your eyes are
glued to your conversation partners eyes
by an invisible piece of taffy. Try not
to break eye contact
even after the person is done speaking but
if a situation comes up where it would
be inappropriate to maintain eye contact
make sure you look away slowly as if
you're reluctant to take your eyes away
your partner for even a moment. The third
tip takes sticky eyes a step further by
using epoxy eyes. Normally when you're
having a conversation with other people you
look at the person who's talking
but when you're using epoxy eyes you
continue to watch the person you want to
make an impact on even when the third person
is talking this shows the other person
that you're extremely interested in them
and their reactions. And if romance is on the horizon
this technique can be especially
powerful because it sends the other
person a message which quite literally
says I can't take my eyes off you. If someone
has ever used this trick on you you're
already well aware of the impact it can
make but you want to be careful in
using it yourself.
This technique can actually make some
people feel uncomfortable or even in
some cases threatened. A less intense form of
this technique would be to watch the
person who's speaking during
conversation but let your eyes drift
back every now and then to the person you
want to make an impact on. That will
still show your interest in them but it
will give them breaks from the intensity.
The fourth tip moves away from the face
and instead looks at the body. Your
posture says a lot about you and the book
describes it as your biggest success
barometer. This is because good posture
makes you seem more confident not only
to others before yourself as well.
Unfortunately it's a problem for many
people nowadays. We spent all day sitting
down whether it's in a car driving to
work or on the computer or playing video
games or whatever. And unfortunately if
your posture is really bad there's no
real quick fix but this tip can go a
long way towards bringing your body back
into alignment and it's called the
hanging by your teeth method.
All you have to do is to visualize a
small rope hanging from the frame of
every door you walk through during the
day. As you walk through the door
visualize yourself standing up straight
and biting the rope. Using this trick
will quickly make good posture a habit
because it forces you to consciously
remind yourself stand up straight and
bite that rope dozens of times every
day. The fifth trick is to limit
fidgeting when you're talking to
someone. HR professionals and police
officers who interrogate criminals are
trained on how to detect people when
they're lying,
however even those of us who don't have
that training often have a sort of a
sixth sense,
a gut feeling that something isn't quite
right when we're being lied to.
I'm sure we've all experienced this at some
point. We're having a conversation with
someone but whenever we ask them a
question they shift in their chair or
their eyes begin to briefly glance away
from us or they start scratching the nose
or something. And we get this odd feeling
that something just isn't a quite right
even though we have no
actual proof that the person was lying
to us. Being aware of this effect is
crucial because setting off this alarm
in others even when you're not lying
can have a detrimental effect on your
life. It can be the reason that you're
not offered that job even though you
felt like you really crush the interview.
Some have even speculated that during the
presidential debates in 1960 richard
nixon's lack of makeup, his fidgeting and his
constant mopping of his brow on camera
actually cost him the election. If you
can eliminate these extraneous movements
during crucial conversations you will appear
much more credible and trustworthy. So
those are five little tricks to get her
to like you without having to say a
single word. But there are so many more
nuggets that this book has to offer and
if you were interested in any of the
tricks in this video and want to learn
more of them i'll leave a link to the
book in the description below.
I highly recommend you check it out. So
until next time guys remember don't let
anything stop you from taking your life
to the next level get out there and
crush it!