Hello everyone welcome to Skillopedia. The place to learn skills for the real world.
My name is Michelle and in this session, I'm going to tell you seven ways to stay motivated,
when people put you down. Does it happen that you think of a new goal and you want to share
it with your family members and your friends, who are very close to you? And when you share
it with them, you expected them to be so happy and excited for you as you are and however
what you receive is discouragement and criticism. Of course you don't feel excited about it.
At those times there are ways to stay motivated and your'e going to learn those with me in
this session, so stay tuned.
The first tip that I have for you is, Know your mission. Yes It's very important that
you know what you want to do. But of course there are times, when you share about your
goals with other people, they discourage you and they criticize you and they tell you so
many stories of other people, who have failed while aiming for this same goal. But what
should you do at that time? Should you deviate from your decision? Not really. I'll share
a situation with you. My own situation rather, I always wanted to be a life coach and when
I shared it with the people around me, they were not very excited about this decision
of mine, like I was. For a moment I was also skeptical that whether I should do this or
not? Then I decided that no this is my ambition and I'm surely going to accomplish it and
here I'm I have accomplished it. And so will you be able to if you clear your head about
your mission and know exactly what you want to do.
The second tip that I have for you is, Don't justify your goals. You don't have to justify
your goals, It's not needed to justify your goals to other people. However you must justify
your goals to your self, you should have valid reasons about why you are doing? What you
are doing? And you should know them and if you give those reasons to other people. There's
quite a possibility, I'm saying it out of personal experience the more you try to justify,
the more you'll be discouraged and they'll give you a thousand reasons, Why you should
not do what you must do rather. So it's really not important for you to justify or give reasons
for what you've decided, you can go ahead with your decision. Surely you should share
it with your friends, but the correct people who you think will rather encourage you.
The third tip that I have for you is, Don't reveal too much too soon. Yes, Shhhhhh...
It's important that you keep your goals slightly secretive towards the beginning of the decision.
It's because your goal has not yet gained too much positive momentum and It's not ready
to face the force of criticism. Yes, that's quite a possibility, whenever I share about
my goals with my friends. The first time they tell me so many stories about how I could
fail, they tell me to be careful maybe they are trying to help me out. But the fact is,
If I have decided to do it and Iv'e actually researched about my goal and I know that I
can achieve it then why should I really worry about it. So it's better if you don't reveal
too much about your goal too soon.
The forth and really fun tip that I have for you is, Expand your social circle. Yes we
all want to do that, we want to meet new people and It's really good to do that, when you've
set some new goals. Maybe the people that you are currently connected to do not share
the same background as yours and maybe not even the same interests and values. So there's
quite a possibility that when you share your goals with them. They might discourage you
and they might tell you negative things about your goal and which will not be a very good
thing for your goal, so what I suggest is you meet new people expand your social circle
maybe you can have a network a supporting network that you can tap into during your
journey towards your goal. And whenever your'e too discouraged or too low or maybe too skeptical
about your decision. You should always have a go to person. Yes the person that you can
trust and your'e very sure that when you share about your goal with them or about your problems
with that person. They'll encourage you rather than criticizing you, so have that go to person
and expand your social circle.
The fifth tip that I have for you is , Spend time in solitude. But what do you mean by
solitude? Solitude means in silence or when your'e alone and there is no one to disturb
you. This reminds me of a famous quote by Albert Einstein, which says, That solitude
stimulates a creative mind. Yes so when your'e alone and there is nobody to disturb you,
not even your phone, not your laptop or any other technological device. At that time you
have all the time in the world to think of a winning strategy and you can decide on your
plan of action for your goal. Once you know what you have to do you'll be much more confident
about your goal and then your'e ready to face the force of criticism. So it's very important
that you spend your alone time and use that time to prepare the winning strategy.
The sixth tip that I have for you for this session is, Find those people who have succeeded
in achieving the same goals as yours, but why is it really so important, It's important
so that you can follow their footsteps and you can model them and do as they did. After
all if they can succeed in the same goal as yours then, why can't you? It's important
that today you make a list of those people who have succeeded in achieving the goal that
your'e aiming at, follow their life's, read about their life's, read about what they have
done and how they achieved it. Try to follow their footsteps and then surely your way to
go and you have the correct model to follow. So find those people make a list and follow them.
The seventh and the final tip that I have for you for this session is, Celebrate small
successes . Yes it's very important to celebrate your small successes or your small wins. How
can you do that? So what I do is, I create a small log and in that log I add all the
things that Iv'e successfully done that might include cleaning my inbox, cleaning my wardrobe
and probably even you know the new people that I meet. The new friendships that I develop.
If Iv'e learned a new language that's like a slightly long term goal, but you can add
that too. If you've learned a new software application, you can add that to the list.
So what this will inspire you for is if you have overcome challenges before, you sure
can overcome challenges in the future and this will keep you motivated whenever you
feel low. So this is like your private journal, your private go to thing. If not a person
then maybe you can refer to the journal to encourage you.
You are your own inspiration, so do remember to be inspired by yourself.
With the seventh tip that Iv'e just shared with you, we come
to an end of today's amazing session. Where
you learnt how to kill criticism through motivation. Being self motivated and being inspired by
other people.
Remember to focus on the finishing line and enjoy every step of the journey towards your
success. I hope to see you again in my next session on life skills. You don't forget to
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