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"I Miss My Ex So Much...
What Should I Do?"
So I got this letter in the mail a few days ago… it says:
“Dear Mr Breakup Bradley,
Help!
I miss my ex so badly, and I really don’t know what to do.
I am so lost without him, but he says he doesn’t want to get back together.
I feel like my life is over!
I really miss him a lot, Mr Bradley, please tell me what to do….
Sincerely, -Regina Tinklehorn, your #1 fan”
Well, Ms Tinklehorn, I would like to start by say thank you for the letter…. and since
your question is one that I get asked on a daily basis, I’m going to answer it right
here in this very video.
So, ladies and gentlemen, if you miss your ex and you’re wondering what to do about
it….
Keep watching, this video is for you.
Before we begin, I want to say a quick welcome to anyone who has just recently stumbled across
my channel here on YouTube….
My name is Brad Browning, AKA Breakup Brad, and I am your #1 source for proven, trustworthy
breakup advice.
In addition to my YouTube channel, I’m also the author of the #1 best-selling guide to
getting your ex back, The Ex Factor Guide….
Learn more about me and register for my program risk-free at my website, www.BreakupBrad.com.
Now, like I said, in this video we’re talking about what to do if you miss your ex like
like crazy and don’t know what to do about it.
There’s really two possible ways you can stop missing your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend
and stop feeling so lonely and heartbroken all the time… either you can get over them
and move on, or you can get back together.
If you’re watching this right now and you’re 100% certain that you do NOT want your ex
back -- if you just want to move on as quickly as possible -- click the little icon in the
top corner here and head over to my video on how to move on after a breakup.
If you’re not sure whether you want to get back together -- maybe you’re on the fence
about it and want to keep your options open -- or if you’re dead set on winning your
ex’s heart back and starting over with them, then keep watching.
Why Do You Miss Your Ex So Much?
I’ve said this many times in my past videos, but here’s the simple truth: breakups are
one of the toughest things you’ll go through in life.
It’s completely normal to feel absolutely heartbroken when you’ve just been dumped,
especially if it was a serious relationship and you’re still in love with your ex….
Trust me, I’ve been there, and I know how gut-wrenching it can be.
You might feel like your life is over, like you’ll never be able to love again… it’s
a whole lot of heartache, and I sympathize.
What makes breakups so awful?
Well, for starters, research has shown that on a neurological level, romantic love is
a lot like a drug addiction.
Believe it or not, a breakup causes a very similar chemical response in your brain to
that of a drug addict going through withdrawal.
Your brain was chemically ‘dependent’ on your boyfriend or girlfriend, and you were
psychologically dependent and accustomed to life with them at your side….
And now, like a junkie in rehab, your brain is paralyzed by their sudden disappearance.
Now, I realize that knowing the science behind heartbreak isn’t really helping you feel
any better.
So let’s start with the first thing you should do if you miss your ex like crazy…
Step #1 - Determine your chance of getting him or her back.
For the majority of you watching this video right now, you probably still have a good
chance of undoing your breakup and winning back your ex… unfortunately, that may not
be the case for some of you, and it may be time to give up and focus on moving on.
You can get a rough idea of where you stand with your ex and how difficult it’s going
to be to win them back by taking my free quiz at www.BreakupBrad.com/Quiz
This is a free, science-based quiz tool I spent many months developing with a programmer…
it takes about 5 minutes, it’s confidential, and when you finish answering the quiz questions
you’ll be given a score and a custom report explaining how likely it is that you’ll
be able to get back together with your ex.
Again, the quiz is at BreakupBrad.com/Quiz… or just click the link in the description
below after the video is over.
If your quiz score is below 60, then things aren’t looking very promising, and you may
want to be realistic about whether you should be putting much effort into trying to win
back your ex… if you score above 60-65ish, then you’ve got at least a decent shot at
getting them back, assuming you play your cards right and avoid making any mistakes
that may push your ex further away.
Step #2 - Change your mindset.
This is arguably the most important thing I’m going to say in this video, so pay close
attention…
You can’t use words to win back your ex.
You can’t talk your way back into their heart, or convince them to take you back…
no matter how charming you might be.
Trust me on this -- after working with tens of thousands of clients in your shoes, I know
for certain that the only real way to win back your ex is to change their perception
of you….
You need them to let go of the negative memories and feelings towards you, and re-build real,
organic attraction to the point where he or she simply won’t care about any of their
logical, rational reasons for breaking up.
Please, please go to BreakupBrad.com after this video and watch my full how-to presentation
to learn more about how to shift the way your ex thinks about you… and how to properly
re-build REAL attraction so that your ex will eventually decide, on their own, that they
want you back.
I promise it’s not as impossible as it may sound, and you can learn more at BreakupBrad.com.
That’s all I’m going to say on this topic for now, but just remember that words or gifts
or love notes will NEVER help you win your ex back.
The proper way to move forward if you want to get a second chance with your ex is to
focus on yourself, and the things within your control, so that you can re-shape how your
ex feels about you and re-build their attraction to you until they simply can’t resist the
urge to take you back.
Step #3 - Remove any reminders of your ex for now.
This one is pretty simple.
You don’t want to be constantly reminded of your ex throughout the day, so now is a
good time to pack up any photos, notes, gifts, etc that could remind you of your ex.
Just put them all in a box and throw it in the basement or out of sight somewhere temporarily.
Step #4 - Stop talking to your ex for a month.
I know you’ve heard of the “No Contact” strategy before.
It’s a technique I helped to popularize a decade ago, and now it’s all over the
internet.
And, as I’ve mentioned in other videos, you should ignore anyone who says this tactic
doesn’t work…
I know for a fact it does work, and it’s a critical component of my 3R strategy.
For the purposes of this video, please just forget about WHY it works… and trust me
when I say that you need to use No Contact immediately, especially if it’s been a few
weeks or more since the breakup and you’re still regularly talking with your ex.
If you made mistakes already since breaking up -- such as begging your ex for another
chance, gushing your heart out and telling them how much you still love them, etc -- then
you may first need to use my Clean Slate Message to undo the damage from those past mistakes…
but, that’s a topic I’ve covered in another video.
For most of you, you can safely just begin the 30 day No Contact period right away.
No Contact means, with very few exceptions, NO Contact.
Don’t give in and randomly text your ex at 2am… don’t play along if they send
you a message saying “i miss you” or something confusing like that….
And absolutely do not try to meet them in person, call them up for any reason, or stalk
them on social media.
Delete their contact details from your phone if you must.
Only reply to their calls or texts if it’s absolutely critical to do so -- things like
“are you paying the rent for our apartment this month” or “can you take our cat to
the vet today” would qualify as sufficiently important matters to justify breaking No Contact
briefly.
Otherwise, don’t respond, don’t reach out to them for 30 days.
Step #5 - Occupy yourself and stay as busy as possible for the next 30 days.
OK, you’ve started No Contact….
That’s great.
Now you’ve got a month or so to focus on yourself, and the most important thing during
that month is to STAY BUSY.
Occupy your time with fun or productive activities that will take your mind off your ex and put
you in a better position to win them back once the No Contact phase is over.
Look, I know this isn’t really what you want to hear right now -- me telling you to
“go to the gym” and “make new friends” or “pick up a new hobby” doesn’t really
feel like it’s going to help you stop missing your ex, does it?
But the truth is, if you can stay occupied and keep busy for the next month or so while
you’re not talking to your ex, you’ll be doing the best possible thing you can do
to get through the worst of your heartbreak… while at the same time, improving your odds
of getting your ex back once the 30 days are over.
So no matter how much you may not feel like meeting up with friends tonight, or taking
on another project at work next week, or calling up an old friend who you haven’t seen in
years… but do it anyway.
It WILL help you feel better, and it WILL improve your odds of getting a second chance
with your ex.
What other things can you do?
Well, hanging out with friends and family is the easiest thing to do, so make sure you
fill your social calendar for the next few weeks… don’t turn down any invite to a
party, a drink after work, or a baseball game on the weekend….
Say “yes” to anything.
Get out of your comfort zone a bit, too.
If you’re a bit of an introvert like me, then that might mean joining a club or taking
a night class at a local college… or if you’re really social, maybe getting out
of your comfort zone will involve going tandem skydiving or backpacking around a foreign
country.
It doesn’t matter what it is or who it’s with, just do it!
And finally, as i’ve mentioned many times in past videos, you should go on dates with
other people as soon as you possibly can.
It doesn’t really matter whether you actually like the person you’re going on a date with,
and it’s fine if you don’t see them again… just getting out there and spending time with
someone of the opposite sex is a big step that will help you get more comfortable living
without your ex, while at the same time making yourself appear more “high value” in the
eyes of your ex… jealousy can be a powerful tool to make your ex want you back, so get
out there and go on dates as soon as you can stomach it.
Step #6 - Register for a 60-day risk-free trial of my Ex Factor Guide.
OK, I know, I know… this is kind of a cheesy bit of self-promotion here, but I hope you
will consider signing up for my best-selling Ex Factor program if you’re serious about
getting another chance with your ex.
It’s the #1 step-by-step guide to reversing a breakup, and it’s helped nearly 150,000
people from around the world get their ex back… and you can get access to the entire
program within 5 minutes of signing up through my website.
It’s affordable, and you’ve got zero risk thanks to my iron-clad 60-day money back guarantee.
If you’re ready to learn more or grab your copy, just head over to BreakupBrad.com and
click on your gender to get started.
Thank you, wonderful people of YouTube, for sticking with me and making it all the way
to the end of this video…
I really hope you found it helpful, and I am sincerely thankful for all your likes and
subscribes.
Don’t forget to comment below if you want to ask me a question or drop me some hatemail…
that’s what the comments are for, and I read each and every one!
Again, thanks for watching, and I will see you again soon! Ciao…