one of the biggest things Kim and I have
in common is that we're both highly
sensitive people in this video I'm gonna
talk about what that means where it all
comes from and some of the perks and
challenges so let's first get out of the
way what it doesn't mean to be a highly
sensitive person even though a lot of
people throw around the phrase you're
being too sensitive as if sensitivity is
a choice and it's a bad one that's not
what it means to be a highly sensitive
person being a highly sensitive person
has got to do with the nervous system
that you're born with which comes from
the genes you inherit from your parents
both of my parents are highly sensitive
people and since Kim and I are as well
our future children will most likely
turn out to be highly sensitive too we
all have a nervous system and it looks a
little something like this it's the
thing that notices all the things
happening both inside and outside of
your body and it sends that information
to your brain
it's what helps you sense and feel so
when you feel moves kind of chilly
ouch that sharp so loud that's your
nervous system at work and it does more
than just break down your experiences
into two simple categories depending on
how sensitive your nervous system is you
may be able to break down your
experiences into quite a few categories
so not just between it's not cold and
it's cold but it's cool it's chilly it's
cold it's really cold it's freezing and
so on your nervous system also causes
you to think about everything you're
sensing and feel all your ups and downs
and your emotions and when something
doesn't feel so right to your nervous
system you go about trying to correct it
like doing this if you're cold
or pulling away from something sharp or
covering your ears if something is too
loud and doing whatever you need to do
to make yourself feel better emotionally
as well all sounds pretty normal right
but 15 to 20 percent of people have
what's called a highly sensitive nervous
system they feel and sense more they
taste and smell in greater detail see in
more detail they think more and they
feel stronger emotions being born into
this population comes with a lot of
advantages but it also comes with a lot
of challenges as well you're able to
pick up on
things that most people don't pick up on
but you can also pick up on too much
that it can get overwhelming at times
and just like everybody else
you won't be able to function optimally
when you're overwhelmed but when this
happens to you most people may only
partially get your struggle and be quick
to judge that you're just weak or making
the selfish choice to be a difficult
human being consequently a lot of highly
sensitive people grow up feeling like
something's wrong with who they are and
a lot of them go through life outwardly
pretending to be like everybody else
but nothing's wrong with you you've just
got a different level of sensitivity now
within that 15 to 20 percent there's an
even smaller minority 1% of the
population that have an extremely
sensitive nervous system when you're a
part of this group the advantages and
challenges that I previously talked
about get even more magnified yes you
might be extremely detail-oriented smart
creative and empathetic but you're also
more likely to have a greater level of
anxiety around your own intense thoughts
emotions and the world around you even
if you grew up with intuitive parents
who tried their best to steer you in the
right direction as a child you probably
opted for solutions that were
immediately gratifying and perhaps not
always the best in the long run and then
in the long run after you've repeated
yourself taught ways of control again
and again you've developed strong
patterns that are difficult to break and
then it's usually in your adult years
you realize that these patterns aren't
working for you so you seek professional
help to get your freedom back and learn
better ways to deal with your challenges
but throughout this entire journey you
constantly hear people saying you're
crazy
you're too sensitive you're so
overdramatic so it's really hard not to
believe that something's wrong with you
but again nothing is wrong with you
you've just got a different level of
sensitivity that most people do not
understand
and then finally within the family of
highly sensitive people there's an even
smaller group that shows up on this
earth once in a lifetime whose
advantages and challenges are just out
of this world because of all their
challenges many highly sensitive people
wish they weren't the way they are many
wish they could have been
just like everybody else but we're not
meant to be just like everybody else
we're meant to stand out and shine and I
can't wait to teach you guys how to do
that thanks for watching you guys if
you're interested in working on your
mental health make sure to subscribe to
our Channel both Kim and I have been
through a lot and we plan on sharing our
experience here and let us know in the
comments if you've got any questions
about being a highly sensitive person
alright see you next time bye