Hey guys in this video we are going to talk about the best dating app, Tinder,
and the do's and don'ts. Stay tuned
Okay I used to say that Tinder was the worst dating app but if you use it
properly it can be the best dating app, and the reason why I think so is because
you don't have to worry about rejection because you only end up connecting with
people who are mutually interested in you. So you don't have to send an email
hoping that they're gonna reply back, you just swipe right or left and if someone
swipes the same way as you do then you know that there's a connection and if
not then you don't sit around waiting wondering and checking your email to see
if they replied. With that said, how to make Tinder work for you if you're
actually looking for a serious relationship because I used to say that
Tinder was a dating app that was exclusively for hookups but it's
becoming more prevalent that people are also using it for finding a long-term
relationship. So if you're looking for a long-term relationship, even if you just
want to start by dating but hoping to find that special person that you do
want to spend the rest of your life with, hopefully, then here are some suggestions.
The first thing is photos. Your main photo, again, should be a photo of you
smiling or laughing or enjoying life, and should not have sunglasses on no hats, no
ball caps, just head and shoulders that is very clear and a good indication of
who you are and it has to be recent. Recent means within the last year and
you actually look the same way right now in person as you do in that photo.
Make sure you have other photos that also show your full physique, not naked,
maybe in the background hiking or mountain climbing or biking or whatever
it is that is not an obvious shot of you in the gym in front of a mirror or in a
bathroom. Avoid the selfies in the bathroom, they're so tacky.
Second thing is that Tinder doesn't give you much room to write a profile which
is great so what you want to make sure you do is that you do have something in
there because if you don't have anything in there then it automatically
translates as you wanting sex only because you're only giving your photo,
which is visual which means it's sexual which means if you are actually
interested in something long-term and you're basing it
solely on your photo then people are going to simply assume that you were
lazy, and if you're lazy on a dating site then you're going to be lazy in a
relationship. That bears worth repeating, if you're lazy on a dating
site it's going to be automatically, if subconsciously, assumed that you're going
to be lazy in a relationship, so put something in the description even if you
say, 'yeah, I'm looking for the one', or, 'nope I'm just looking for a casual
relationship right now'. I would also suggest that if you have some serious
deal breakers or deal makers that you write them in that as well. And then the
third thing is that if you do have a match on Tinder that you communicate
immediately, like start that conversation going and quickly move offline. So you
want to back and forth a little bit that very first day and maybe the next day
and then ask a few questions or whatnot and if it seems like there's a little
bit of rapport there then take it to texting for a day or two, then set up a
phone conversation, I know we all hate talking on the phone but you've got to
be able to talk to the person if you want to have a relationship with them, it
can be a quick phone call just to make sure that there's no big turn offs in
their voice or their tone or that you can actually even carry on a
conversation. And then again from there very quickly set up a time to meet in
person. So like all of this should happen in
less than a week and as long as your schedules permit you should be meeting
that person within a week because you don't want to waste time online with
someone who if you meet them they're not compatible, or there's no chemistry, and
you've just wasted time. Okay, so that's it. If you have any questions or comments
write them in the comments below, and let me know which dating sites or dating
apps you've tried, and if you like them or not
and why. Thanks for watching.