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Hey it's Barron Cruz from Charisma Matrix. ...Im not exactly sure how I ended up wearing
this vest today but we're gonna go with it!
I wanna talk about when your networking and we're going up in introducing
yourself to new people.
Were gonna talk about how to gain confidence in doing that how to get better reactions
from people.
So what are the things I'm often asked is what kind of a script or what kind of
an idea or what kind of a one-liner kinda want to get people interested?
Well the biggest point I want to make is the fact that
you don't know this person so nobody has some amazing circus-like line
your purse is gonna be like ho youre so cool right
obviously get a response Utah now do your body language know your non verbals
but there's no magic line nope don't ever been approached by somebody
networking event or in a business conference were so much is blown their
mind with what they said when they walked up doesn't happen
so the problem is people are going around with these what they feel are
subpar lines to introduce themselves
and therefore the present it was such a lack of competence that comes across as
a terrible was a terrible liar terrible opener
so the first thing is we need to realize nobody has anything amazing to feel
comfortable going up saying whatever you want do the old cliche a mani
I wonder whether I it's a lot different in back home where you from
right just whether right the very stereotypical horrible way to start
right
but if you go up there competent calm and cool light you know it's okay to
start a conversation like that wilder gonna react by knowing it's okay to do
so too
right number one the way you present it set the bar low or
nobody has a high bar give up hope the bar was high no one would ever introduce
themselves anyway because no one has anything that cool to say
so forget that right off the bat you have to say a word or less
you over there getting is a a the poor punch over there
up alright Ambur you know it doesn't matter if you come across comet they're
gonna be cool to open the conversation right and for the most part these barns
people are looking to meet other people so it's not like to collect
leave me alone weirdo right okay number two
topical ideas to talk about so what something
that's more exciting than talking about the weather or what the bar has over
there ross
like super exciting but was something a little more interesting and topical we
can come up with what
sporting events are always good because majority people are at least somewhat
aware
major sporting events so the Super Bowls in three weeks
and 32 weeks he knows actually climb discovers a manner using the Super Bowl
this year
right super low key stay away from the business stuff it will be fine
but I find it much better leave yet less stress from people when they're
expecting to become a free member you
here's my card is my car you come over very waiting for the Super Bowl anything
man he's got this year
sup super low key super tired what he says
of shit her name are you watch the barn follow it is that all you know I really
don't either but I don't mean anything at this year's seems to be
kinda character so I do you enjoy your time right
just transition straighten something out it doesn't matter what they're saying
what matters is that you deliver a very calm cool line
so they know what they can expect in this interaction the one thing people
don't want
wall the many things that people don't want as I often talk about someone want
something from them
pulling their energy brown nosing sucking up supplicate because it says
this person has no value sure governor summer offering value of low energy
they were you thinking about Super Bowl many games got em is that are you know
I'm actually I'm a Seahawks fan see attached that's really cool you know %ah
I actually really like Pete Carroll ever since he coached SC
right now it's nice n Easy you I was you don't want anything from miami just
be social just talking to people and then at that point
see you ever go love getting you know twenty good contacts conferences
expensive conference you paid a lot Adele you're in Dubai
you're looking good will ensure we move the conversation away your he likes you
want to spend time with you now cuz you're not
reaching out to me and I sweat and you're not polling right you'll push
poll
pretty even at this point the interaction equilibrium you definitely
not alone
you came up to him your balls it's not dating scene are you going to a girl but
still it shows initiative incompetence to Goldman start a conversation with
someone else
to say yeah I'm actually excited for that arnold schwarzenegger commercial
like I
I got this incredible playing pingpong i've seen
okay well actually came in from California where you from right
and slowly moved towards business already which I knew you were you guys
do
right now it's nice and cool now its force now it's that guy was socially
eased it doesn't pressure
not high pressure low-pressure super cool you think after interaction like
that
because no one asked me to have a drink with him at the bar afterwards everyone
socialize right come out with his friends for dinner
a course cannot sales here what the thing from
I'm sure I'll talk to him c/o experience going sees see what he's doing there
ever businesses all i'm ok or talk about way that's that's releasing I have to be
in that same industry tonight but as I came here let him pull it out yet never
pressure right
you never gonna close a deal and a networking environment high pressure
because just too many escape routes right
it's terrible business the practice you feel bad about yourself
so make honest friend get people actually like you by going in with the
release mood
competent line and understand the only way
you're going to be able to achieve backed is to be competent what you're
saying so
maybe convince yourself that talking about the weather's like a cool see you
come up with you got this guy like a
I thought it was a 10 degrees warmer doom and the temperature really dropped
at night doesn't it
right you come about that haha not a super creepy but
museum saying if you come across carpet like he knows sought billing proxy again
they're gonna be interested well they are just gonna break the conversation
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set the bar low or let Barcelo you can kick it there is no bar
the stupidest thing you could ever say is gonna be okay if you're competent
to open upper talk to someone at a networking event
number two if you improve a little bit get something topical talk about
something it's in the news talk about a sporting event
and it doesn't hit so be it drop and go straight on to the next idea
there's nothing to it hey what's going on with dennis rodman over north korea
guys crazy
are never like Dennis Robinson to play for the bowls home and arrived back when
used to dye his head like a
Neapolitan ice cream gonzo your time you accomplish to go to
right just completely unaffected by his negative net never gonna happen
people are you there if they don't know about what's going on or through those
robbers at all you actually didn't see that what was going on about right
that more likely but people are always fearful or situations he says
I don't like that guy or girl jackson plays a hug
so funny you mention Phil Jackson I think about that triangle
offense and Neapolitan head on a rock but anyway
to join the copper today right unaffected straight onto the other thing
you open your cheaper you trying to do
they can't do it you know this is this goes long lines of social invincibility
how can he what can he do to make me a comparable
or mess up the interaction i think is really what he did is wrong
a basketball you doing here all you know you are just II
horse have enjoyed in trouble what you doing here you have a good time
you can't you can't say anything you can't you can't get me
worked up you can't mom started bad interaction with the right mix I'm gonna
be so
are affected by and eventually by being affected by it
he's gonna buy into that frame is gonna drop the negativity and he's gonna
most likely like me a lot because most people are able to get through that
front but he puts up so
I don't have a water there but I think all that stuff very important comes to
networking and meeting new people so remember that low bar
carton delivery doesn't matter what you say just be competent cool regardless
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go on to the next thing you're gonna buy into that frame give a nice smooth
reported a nice conversation