Hey Tripp here from trippadvice.com. You
might notice that my eyes are a little
messed up right now. I was up very late
last night coaching a student, taking
him out, getting him over his approach
anxiety and trying to get him to talk to
and attract girls. And one of his
biggest questions was "How do I start a
conversation with a girl?"
This is one of the things that he was
struggling with the most when he was
talking to girls when I was trying to
encourage him to go up and start conversations.
And so what we did is we came up with a
few openers that I want to share with
you today. Stuff that you can use pretty
much any time you are going out and
socializing and I'm going to get to
those in just a second. But what's very
important for you to know is that when
you are out and about, the opener does
not matter.
That's right. The opener has no effect on
what is going to happen when you're
talking to that girl.
All it does is get you in the
conversation. When it comes to attraction
building attraction, getting a girl
invested and interested in you,
it's not the opener that she remembers.
It's the time that you guys are spending
together when you're in conversation
with her.
That is what gets her attracted. Guys
are always looking for the best pickup
lines, the best openers, and they're
always trying to come up with the most
witty thing that's going to help them
get into conversation. When in reality,
and test this out by the way, whenever you're with
a girl and you get a date or you know
you guys are hanging out for a while,
ask her if she remembers what you said when
you guys first started conversation.
Nine times out of ten, she will not
remember at all. She doesn't remember
what you said to start the conversation.
Now with this being said in this long
rant I still want to give you some good openers
that you can use and the ones that we
used last night. I'm going to change
his name here name. It was Jeff and last
night he used these two openers. He said
"Hi. My name is Jeff." Yup. That was it.
"Hi. My name is Jeff." That was the thing he
ended up saying to the girls and you'd
be surprised how easy it is to get into
conversation with just that line and the
second one he used
was "Hey are you from Chicago?" and last
night I had him drill those two lines. I
said you can only say those two lines.
You cannot open up with any other line.
That was it.
"Hi my name is Jeff." And then "Are you from
Chicago?" And again those are two separate
openers. Those were not used
consecutively. He would just use that. And
guess what happened? A hundred percent of
the approaches, he was able to get into
conversation. It's not about how you open. It's
just how you continue. Whatever you say
to open up the conversation doesn't
matter. It's where you go after the
conversation. Now I'm going to play
psychic and know what you're thinking.
I know you're thinking "Tripp, what do I
say after the opener?" Here's what you
can do. You go up to a girl and you say
"Hey. My name is Jackson."
or whatever your name is. After that you can
say again almost anything.
Comment on something she's drinking.
Ask them how their night is going. Ask them
what's going on.
Ask them literally any question you want. Here's even a beautiful part about it
you don't have to ask a question. You can just say
something. Say something that's on your
mind.
As another experiment, I had him go
up to another group of girls and say
anything that came to his mind. And the
first thing that came to his mind is
"Have you been to Norway?" That was his opening
line. And he's never been to Norway. So he
went up to a couple girls and said
"Hey, ever been to Norway before?" and they just
start talking about Norway and then they
just switch conversations. So that's my
point here.
Anything that's on your mind, you can go
up and start talking to a robot.
You don't need an invitation. My
suggestion to you is you minimize the
time between you seeing the girl and
actually going up and doing the approach.
And then there's the easy one going up
to them and asking them "Are you from and
then insert the city where you're at
right now." So I'm in Chicago and he said "Are
you from Chicago?" and they started talking
about Chicago. They started talking about
another place where they're from and
then you switch topics and go from there.
The key is, it doesn't matter what you say.
You can say anything. It doesn't matter.
As long as you get in there and start
the conversation. Alright I'm gonna go
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