Jamie Lynn Spears posted an Instagram Story showing sudden support for her sister, Britney
Spears, days after her court hearing.
In that hearing, Britney said things such as...
"My whole family did nothing"
"My family has lived off my conservatorship for 13 years"
"I would honestly like to sue my family, to be totally honest with you"
In 13 years of conservatorship, through all that time, Jamie Lynn never stood out for
her.
And what a coincidence that a few hours after fans created a petition for her to be removed
from the Netflix show Sweet Magnolias, Jamie... decided "spontaneously" to talk.
How convenient.
There are so many things about this statement that I don't know where to begin, but the
best part is that you're going to acquire three skills today: one from body language,
one from verbal analysis and one from voice tone.
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- Oh hi everybody, I just wanted to take a second to address a few things.
Well, Jamie Lynn starts her instagram stories talking like what she's about to say is no
big deal.
"Just want to take a second to address a few things".
That is trying to disguise what is going on with her sister as something not that important.
And there's also the fact that she didn't post it to her instagram grid or igtv, so
it will most probably disappear in 24 hours.
That's another way of not giving it the relevance it needs.
This looks like a recommendation from Lou Taylor, who used to be Britney's business
manager and at the same time was instrumental in the creation of the conservatorship along
with Britney's father, Jamie Spears.
At the same time it's very easy to see that Jamie Lynn evades withe her eyes, twists her
mouth to her right and denies with her head in a very subtle way.
Right from the start there's a negative attitude about what she's doing.
We don't now the reason why... yet, but in the first five seconds she's telling us with
her words and her body language that she didn't want to do this.
And what is her excuse for not speaking before?:
- The only reason that I haven’t before is because I thought until my sister could
speak for herself, and say what she thought she needed to say publicly, that wasn’t
my place, it wasn’t the right thing to do.
Now, that statement is absurd because she knew that Britney could not communicate freely
with the outside world.
The only way to see her was through her Instagram account and it's always been controlled by
someone else under the scrutiny of her father.
There's also the fact that she uses a conceptual connector when talking about Britney's intentions.
She says "When Britney could speak for herself and say what she THOUGHT she needed to say
publicly".
Pay close attention when people use this kind of connectors.
It's commonly used by manipulative personalities when they say things like, "It's great that
you have the opportunity to say or do what you think is right" or "what you feel is right".
It's a way of suggesting that what you think or what you feel is your interpretation of
the truth or the facts.
It's YOUR point of view... and maybe not the 'real' truth.
If you've been with manipulators, you know they use this tool so you doubt your own argument.
Also, those eyes to her right, up and to her left, that's not very common and if you see
other interviews of her, you'll realize that she never does it.
That's a strong signal that she's fabricating the statement about wanting Britney to speak
first.
Because she knows that Britney couldn't.
Now, in the next 10 seconds there are five body language signals.
Let's see if you can spot them all:
- But now that she’s very clearly spoken, and said what she needed to say I thought
I can follow her lead and say what…
I thought I need to say
Notice that the connector that we were talking about previously can also be used to dilute
your own statement.
"Say what I thought that I needed to say".
It's not a clear statement.
Instead, she should have come clean with a statement like "this is what is happening
to my sister".
That never happens.
And regarding her body language, she first presses her lips and looks away.
She's feeling shame.
Then she briefly turns her eyes to her left, her memory side, recalling that Britney had
already spoken a few days back.
Then something very interesting happens.
She does a shoulder shrug, that is a gesture commonly associated to not caring much about
something, an instant later she raises her chin defiantly, like she has nothing to do
with that, and when she notices that she's giving the wrong impression, she freezes her
head with her chin up and presses her lips again.
Now we know that she didn't want to do this, that she feels ashamed of what's going on
and she's a bit defiant or entitled to the right of not having to do anything with her
sister.
But it's not that easy, because guess what?
In October 29th, 2020 she was interviewed on Good Morning America and the host asked
her explicitly about Britney.
This was her response:
- You know, a lot of fans across the world have been speaking in support of your big
sister Britney, what would you like to say to everyone that is wondering how she’s
doing now?
- Uhm…
I think she’s doing just like the rest of us.
She’s trying to make the best and stay positive during a very challenging time, challenging
year and I think that that’s kind of the theme of everyone right now, so…
In the body language department, she does a single shoulder shrug that is commonly associated
to an emotional response, being nervous or even lying.
But what I found more interesting in this case was not precisely body language but her
choice of words.
"I think she's doing just like the rest of us", "That's kind of the theme of everyone
right now".
In two sentences she wants to make it really clear that Britney is just ok.
Doing like everyone else.
Just for reference and understand Britney's life at that moment, that statement from Jamie
Lynn was less than 72 hours away from this post on Britney's Instagram.
In case you haven't seen it, I did a complete body language analysis on that clip and other
secret messages that Britney was trying to get through; You can check it out, here.
She keeps talking about she supporting Britney no matter what, but when friends like Lance
Bass from NSync reached out back on September 2020 to find out what was Britney's condition,
he said this:
- I have talked to Jamie Lynn recently, which is why I feel so much better about this situation.
(They) aren't as worried as we are in that situation.
Again, I go back to... we have no idea what's really going on.
So we just have to trust that the loved ones around her are doing the right thing.
-I know Jamie Lynn, her sister.
And to me, if Jamie is OK with everything going on, I feel like she really has her sister's
back during all this.
I trust her to give us the real information.
So Jamie Lynn had every opportunity to talk about what her sister was going through, in
her own words or through others, and she didn't.
That's being guilty by omission.
By this point, Jamie Lynn starts to show herself more defiant with her chin up, but there's
a clue in her voice that shows insecurity.
Let's see if you can spot it:
- I think it’s extremely clear that since the day I was born I’ve only loved, adored
and supported my sister.
Girl, that's... just your words.
Actions speak much louder, and we already know how much she has failed to act.
And that rising intonation at the end of the sentence, when she says "supported my sister",
it's like a question.
That rising intonation is a subconscious question because she's looking for approval from us.
Our approval that she had her sisters' back.
That's insecurity.
That's not being confident of what she's saying.
By this point, I'm sure you started to notice that her body language signals follow a regular
pattern:
- I mean, this is my fricking big sister before any of this bullshit.
I don’t care if she wants to run away to a rainforest, have a zillion babies in the
middle of nowhere, or if she wants to come back and dominate the world like so many times
before.
Again, she feels ashamed, lowers her gaze, shoulder shrug and raises her chin defiantly.
She also tries to use harsh words to emphasize her point.
And... notice something very particular about her words.
"I don't care if Britney wants to run away, have a lot of babies in the middle of nowhere
or come back and dominate the world"
Those sentences are really ambiguous.
On one hand, they mean that Britney can do as she pleases.
On the other, that Jamie Lynn just doesn't care.
But since we know that Britney cannot do as she pleases, then... the only meaning left
is that Jamie Lynn really doesn't care about her sister.
And frankly, with so many body language signals so far, it's not surprising.
- Because I don’t have anything to gain or lose either way.
This situation does not affect me either way.
Because I’m only her sister that is only concerned about her happiness.
I’ve made a very conscious choice in my life of only participate in her life as her
sister.
Did you notice that pause when she claimed that this situation does not affect her either
way?
That's her brain screaming "Yes it does!"
And she lowers her voice when she's going to say "participate in her life as her sister".
That's not being comfortable in saying that, she's feeling shame, maybe remorse thanks
to all this situation.
That must be the reason why she also adds the two hands on chest gesture.
Please don't do it.
Ever.
It always looks fake.
Also, when she says "I've made a very conscious choice in my life of only participate in her
life as her sister"... in which other way could she participate?
Maybe she was thinking about the fact that In 2018, despite having no qualifications,
she was secretly named Britney's trustee, with an estimated $600 million in assets that
Britney set aside for herself and her kids.
This was not made public until 2020.
- Maybe I didn’t support her the way the public would like me to, with hashtag on a
public platform but I can assure you that I’ve supported my sister long before there
was a hashtag, and I’ve supported her long after.
Note that.
Again, those are just words.
And again, there's the impulse of opening her eyes and raising her eyebrows to connect
with us, tho be believed.
And she also tries to emphasize her point subconsciously by pushing her head forward,
closer to the camera.
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- I mean, I’ve worked since I was nine years old.
I’ve paid my frickin’ bills since I was ten years old.
Not that I owe the public anything, because my sister knows that I love and support her.
It’s the only person I owe anything to.
Now, I thought that the topic of this video was about the fact that since Britney already
spoke, then it was her turn to speak too... why does she include the "paying her own bills"
part?
That's what you should spot when someone tries to give unsoLIcited explanations or excuses,
or tries to add them to a different statement.
It's not an admission of guilt per se, but it's something that can help you craft questions
to dig deeper in the person's motives.
Such as the next sentence:
- I’m not my family, I’m my own person.
I’m speaking for myself.
This is a direct reference to what Britney said about suing her entire family.
Jamie Lynn is trying desperately to save face because she knows that the shitstorm is already
on its way.
That's why she can't even hold her gaze without looking away after a few seconds.
There must be dozens of things going through her brain at that moment, like, for example,
wondering if she's being convincing enough.
- I’m so proud of her, for using her voice.
I’m so proud of her for requesting new counsel like I told her to do many years ago.
And not in a big public platform, but just in a personal conversation between two sisters.
So, very proud that she’s taken that step.
Oh, it's really convenient that she told Britney all this in a private conversation that we
have absolutely no way of knowing if it actually happened.
Unless of course, Britney denies it.
And I must confess: that would be fun.
And why does she raise her eyebrows and open her eyes like that, again?
Aw, right... she's trying to connect with us so we believe her statement.
That's why she uses her hands as a barrier.
Because she doesn't want this to become a discussion.
- If it mean that the conservatorship is (…) tomorrow or whatever the hell she wants to do, to be
happy, I support that.
One hundred percent.
Because I support my sister.
I love my sister.
Always have.
Always will.
As long as she’s happy.
Well, that's a nice slip of the tongue.
So you support your sister as long as she's happy, right?
So that means that if Britney is not happy anymore or starts complaining... you will
no longer support her?
I'm just paraphrasing her words!
But if this was an interrogation, I would have to go slower because she looks like her
brain is about to melt.
- So, let’s keep praying.
That’s all.
You know what?
I don't think she prays.
That was another display of guilt and shame.
And if she does pray, it most probably will be to not be eviscerated by Britney fans.
Sometimes it's possible to bypass completely a body language analysis if you have enough
signals from context, common sense and inductive reasoning to determine someone's true intentions.
But as I stress over and over again: the real magic happens when you learn to combine all
the tools at your disposal to read people like a book.
It also helps wonders when you can go back to prior statements or, as in this case, references
from third parties that reveal pieces of the puzzle that we could not be able to find elsewhere.
In the end, it's all about learning to foresee the intentions of others.
And in the case of Britney, I think by this point it's just a matter of a very short time
until she gets her life back.
She truly deserves that.
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