Damon here with NLP Gym you've been hearing me talk about sleight of mouth
and and Doug O'Brien coming to
santa cruz july ninth and tenth and you might be wondering what's all the hype
about this Sleight of Mouth stuff
well I learned sleight of mouth and about two years ago from Robert Dilts
that will be the man who created the sleight of mouth model the patterns and
right away I started using them and really have started using them on myself
to overcome my own limiting beliefs but they're very helpful and using them with
people conversation in fact that's what it was created for what i find myself
really using it for mean to overcome my own limiting beliefs but after a while
prices practicing that the pattern started to become more and more
instilled in me and i'll give you a story of how i actually use one of the
patterns and only use water this is how powerful these patterns are you may have
heard me
and these videos are in my writing that i mentioned that i do a lot of debate on
the side of a political debate
it's not something I do for a living and I'm not a political commentaries but it
is something that is more of a hobby i would say something I dabble one and I a
lot of my family members have opposing political views opposing from what my
arm
so during the holidays they like to pick on man if we usually engages in and some
discussions and sometimes even some arguments and I often take the bait
they put it out there and I go for it because I actually in some weird way I
enjoy it
that's just me my cousin in particular is not too much older than me
I likes to to put that bad out there likes to jab me a few times and one
particular christmas time it is around Christmas time he was doing exactly that
and he was commenting on our political not a political figure but a celebrity
who said some unpopular things that were not politically correct and in not in so
many words he agreed with him but didn't want to make it sound to agree with him
too much because it was kind of bad
what he did say was I respect anybody who stands up for their beliefs
referring to the particular celebrity and right away I said well I don't
and everyone around me there was a several people around
look at me like oh my god how could this person not respect someone who is
standing up for their beliefs because it's just sort of this common health
thing that we have that we that just because somebody stands up for their
beliefs that we said I must respect that
what if the beliefs are really bad we don't want to respect that
so instead of explaining it like that I through what they call a counterexample
pattern at him
so as soon as i said well i don't i don't respect people necessarily
everyone who stands up their beliefs and everybody kind of looked at me like oh
my god who who is this guy what is you talking about
and I said Hitler stood up for his beliefs and everything went quiet
in fact some people had to sort of turn away from the conversation it was too
much for them and what I did was is using a counterexample pattern
I challenge their model of the world which was a belief that they just sort
of assumed was true and not question
so throwing this bit of information and there had to shift their perspectives
for them to even understand what I was saying they had to shift perspective and
realize that someone standing up for their beliefs is really meaningless it's
not respectable if the beliefs or bad and they suddenly got that all at once
and I didn't need to go into a long explanation of that all i had to do was
throw that counter example pattern at them and it shut the conversation down
my cousin stops there was no more argument there was it was done
now imagine having 13 more of those patterns in your back pocket a total of
fourteen imagine having 14 powerful patterns like that that it doesn't have
to be used for arguing in that particular case I use it for for arguing
but imagine having 14 powerful patterns like that in your back pocket ready to
go ready to stack them on one on top of
another when you're negotiating when you're doing cells when you're
delegating tasks
any time someone throws an objection your way or even your own inner
objections when your own inner objections come up
you can then start reframing these that objection with these 14 patterns to
overcome that objection
doug is coming July night and tenant was super excited about it because I need to
brush up on my own
sleight of mouth skills I know the patterns i don't have them drilled into
me but that's what does going to do
come spend two days with us just two days and really get these patterns into
your muscle
one day he's going to teach you what the patterns are and how they work
the second day it's going to be drill drill drill so that by Monday morning
you'll be able to walk into work or whatever you're doing in your personal
life and use these 14 patterns right away and I mean you can be very gentle
with these two you don't have to be combative
you don't have to be argumentative it's just reframing and you could you can
even use them as asking questions
you know what about Hitler in the case so whenever I was arguing with my cousin
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