If you are watching this video before going to bed, you probably have already taken 35
thousand decisions throughout the day, and 226 out of them were on food alone.
And now, think about how many decisions you take a week, how about a month, how about
an entire year.
If you give it a closer look, life is all about decisions, and our day to day choice
shape our reality.
what you are going to decide today will be your life tomorrow.
however, not all decisions are equal, deciding which college to enroll in is far more important
than whether you should get a latte or cappuccino.
But even among all the crucial decisions, Some of them are far more important because
they influence every other decision that you take.
so in this video, we are going to take a look at 5 most important decisions you will ever
make.
If you chose them poorly, you will probably live a miserable and mediocre life.
First, how would you let people treat you?
A wise man once said: people are going to treat you the way you allow them to do so.
there are essentially two types of people, one who is always respected and the other
is the one who is always made fun of.
People feel comfortable putting him down and unsurprisingly, its the nice guy all the time,
who is trying to be liked.
We make this decision unconsciously because it's mostly based on how are we raised when
we were kids.
As little kids, we know little about this world, and our personality gets shaped by
our environment.
But that doesn’t mean you can’t change that, just because you had overprotective
parents for example.
Don't get me wrong.
I am not suggesting you to start being rude or aggressive, but sometimes, to be liked
or accepted by society, we chose to be mistreated.
And if we are going, to be honest about
it! it's a choice?
what are you going to value more?
your dignity or social acceptance.
if you chose dignity, that doesn’t mean you will never be accepted by anyone again.
But you are going to behave in such a way that if someone is going to mess with you,
you are going to bite them, you aren’t just going to accept it and swallow it.
You are going to stand for yourself, and let everyone know that your dignity is above them,
and if they aren’t comfortable with that, it's their problem.
And here is why this is important, every time someone bites you and you don’t do anything
about it, you are going to spend the rest of your day imagining different scenarios
in your mind of how you should have taken revenge.
You will eventually be living in the past.
However, If you start being extra aggressive, you will push everyone away, which isn’t
really a good idea either, so start by learning to say No for example.
Remember, Being respected and being aggressive are two different things.
Something you don’t like to do, somewhere you don’t wanna go with friends, something
you are just not comfortable with.
Just stand up for yourself and say No.
And that takes me to the second choice.
2.
Would you rather live today or tomorrow or yesterday?
that sounds a little strange, how can you possibly live in the past or the future, let
me explain.
You are in the office doing your job, you are happy and excited for the day.
But for some petty reason, you get into a conflict with your boss or colleague.
You might say some nonsense to each other, but it doesn’t last long.
Now, the conflict has ended, but you can’t stop stressing about it, for the rest of the
day, you will be thinking and imagining, why didn’t you say this instead of that, why
didn’t you punch him right into his face.
The truth about life is that you can’t avoid problems, you can’t avoid conflicts.
They just happen to be an essential part of life.
but when you are bad at controlling your thoughts and emotions.
Again you end up making unconscious decision to live either in the past or the future and
never in the present.
There is nothing more miserable than that.
However, the good news is, that’s completely under your control, you can decide to live
in the present right now.
No matter what happens, you aren’t going to let that thing to get into your mind.
What I usually say to people is that, if
it’s a future that you are worried about, it might never happen, in fact, you might
not even live to see that, and if its the past that you are stressed about, you can’t
bring it back! so why sacrifice the present for the past
that you can’t change.
3.
Thirdly, how will you play the game of money Most people make this choice unconsciously
and then wonder when they are already down the road, how on earth did they end up in
a cycle where all that they do is work to pay the bills, in other words - survive.
And that’s simply because its a choice that you have to make but you never get financially
educated, it's not taught in school nor universities or anywhere else.
Money is a game, and some people are exceptional at it, and some are extremely bad, that’s
why 8 richest people in the world have the same wealth as the poorest 50% percent.
and the rest of us are somewhere in the middle. and if you aren’t financially literate,
where do you think you are going to be in this equation.
Everyone has to make a choice whether he or she is going to play this game defense or
offense.
Most of the people are doing their best not to drown, for them, money is a limited
resource.
On the other side, there are people who believe that the only limited resource that they have
is time, so instead of spending another 2 hours in the shop to find milk that’s 20
cents cheaper than the one he usually buys, he keeps growing so that an hour of his time
worth much more than 20 cents.
If you are in a dark financially position, you probably playing it wrong, maybe its time
to educate yourself financially.
4.
Next, what are you going to sacrifice
life is all about sacrifices.
No matter who you are, rich or poor, famous or unknown, strong or weak, you can’t play
out the time.
It's a limited resource.
instead of watching this video, you could have done all sort of things, but you sacrificed
all of that to watch this video.
Good Job!
So, how about you also give it a thumbs up, so we can continue with the rest of the video!
There are small sacrifices and there are big sacrifices.
You can’t have everything in life if you want to have a balanced life, you probably
won’t be super successful financially.
If you chose to become an entrepreneur and start your own thing, you might have to put
aside your social life for example.
A lot of people avoid this question, some even think that they can have everything but
what ends up happening is that they will keep chasing everything till they run out of time
but achieve nothing at the end of the day.
5.
And finally, Will you let your preconceptions dictate your life
most people live with their preconceptions and that’s normal because as you grow up
as a little kid, your entire perspective on everything starting from religion to money
to relationships to politics is shaped by your parents, teachers, siblings.
and guess what?!
those preconceptions influence every other decision that you take?
Of course, you can keep living by these preconceptions but the problem is that they might not always
be true, or accurate.
Therefore, you will end up making bad decisions because they will be based on those preconceptions.
At some point, you have to revisit everything you have been taught as a little kid. when
you make your own mind base on facts and the reality you live in, a huge window of opportunity
will open in front of you!
some of you will probably disagree with me that there are far important decisions like
whether you should buy a house or not or go to college or whatever.
But when you make such decisions, you usually gather the facts first and then make up your
mind, however when it comes to these five choices, you just make them unconsciously
but they end up affecting your entire life and if you make the wrong decisions, you will
end up living miserably.
even these decisions aren’t equally important,
which one do you is the most important one? at least to you, and base on your life.
let me know down in the comments!
Even if you have taken a poor decision earlier, remmeber, you can change that whenever you
want.
Its something that we all can control.
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thanks for watching and until next time!