- So Nicky, we're going to do some cooking,
like me and my wife.
- Who gonna do some cooking?
- All of us.
- Okay, so this want we gonna do.
You gonna rinse the peppers for me and the tomatoes.
And before you start though,
Can you do...
We need soap.
I want you to help me do these dishes.
Wash the cups for me and all that stuff.
- Cook mamma cook.
- I'm about to cook, I'm about to cook.
- So tonight, I'm going to make jollof rice,
fried fish.
I'm making plantain with that.
So we're gonna have nice dinner tonight.
- Absolutely it's good for a woman
to know how to cook for the family.
It's one of the unique things that bonds
the husband and wife with the children,
because when we cook we talk, we communicate.
To me personally it's an important part
of a woman (talking drowns out speaker).
- So mama Nicky, do you cook for your family?
- Nope.
- (gasping) - What?
- Well I do but,
a little different than y'all do.
- How so?
- I get in the car and go pick it up.
- From where?
- Wherever they wanna eat.
- So like McDonald's, Wendy's? - Yeah.
- And that's every night?
- Yeah.
Except for Sunday, then my husband's mama cooks.
- In a family that goes out to eat,
my opinion is that there's no family time.
I feel like there's no family in the family.
- So we put the beans out of any debris
and separate them.
- What do you mean?
I don't see any...
- No, not like that.
So we do it one by one like this.
So we're scanning like,
see this is debris,
so you take that out.
- Is that one any good or what?
- Sometimes they're different types of beans,
as long it beans, just beans.
- Okay I did my part in cooking.
- Oh there's still more.
What is this?
(laughter)
- I am not happy about the cooking.
- Would you like me to help you?
- Let your brother help you with the tomatoes,
you can help with the tomatoes please, please.
- He didn't want me to help do the dishes.
- You need to work together as a team right?
Annika, come on.
You okay?
Are you serious?
- He didn't let me help with the dishes.
- We're learning to work together.
What's the next we gotta do?
I want you to help me to tear the peppers.
Are you gonna help me tear?
Or you want him to come help you tear?
Okay, we not gonna have that attitude.
Are we gonna have that attitude?
I don't do attitude.
I really don't do attitude.
Okay?
So you gonna help me?
Thank you.
Hearing the word "no" is not something they use to so,
new waters for them to test.
Well hopefully they won't drown in it.
Cause they still at that impressionable age.
So it's still easy to kinda...
Train them and mold them.
- So when you cook at home...
The family is right there?
- Yeah, we are all there together.
Everybody knows what to do.
- It's not as much chaos.
- There's not as much chaos.
- I was like, trying to find the fun in it.
- Just a little bit. - A little bit.
Just like sprinkle all over.
- Little bit more.
- Okay, little bit more on the other side.
(laughs) Dad I'm scared (laughs).
- They said it was fun.
- This is so much fun.
- It's creating something.
It's a new experience.
- I just like making something together
and then eating together.
- It was not fun.
Every bit of this is depressing for me.
(laughs) - Really?
- Yeah.
Tonight's dinner looks different than what we're used to.
But all of us are not choosy when
it comes to cooked food I don't think.
- You gotta make sure they all cooked.
- Does that make it stick?
- Yeah, that's what makes it stay.
Children, they amaze me.
They amaze me, I'm so proud of them.
They were so helpful,
they were ready.
Even daddy was ready to help me.
That's what it's all about.