- When you're stuck in life, when you're stuck in business,
usually the issue that you think
is the issue may not be the issue.
What do I mean by that?
Let me give you an example.
Imagine this is what you know.
This is what you know.
"This is what I know."
Your ego, your experience, your existing current belief,
most people with [] is very, very small.
They are very close-minded.
This is what you know.
Now, imagine this, what's around around you,
this, this is what you don't know.
This is what you know.
This is what you don't know.
Now, if you're watching this video,
I want you to look around your room.
Think about maybe the four corners,
your surroundings, what's around you.
Go ahead, do that.
Think about your surroundings.
Everything that's around you, much further, much bigger,
that's what you don't know you don't know.
So this is what you know, this is what you don't know,
this is what you don't know you don't know.
What happens is, when you feel stuck,
you are trying to solve your problem
or get out of your situation with what you know.
But, you don't know what you don't know, and you don't even
know what you didn't know that you don't know.
That's what I'm talking about,
and that's why you feel stuck.
I love a quote from Albert Einstein.
"We cannot solve our problems
"with the same thinking when we created them."
It's the same idea.
It means your awareness is low,
and you try to solve problems with, "This is what I know,"
and you try keep solving the problem,
try to get unstuck with what you know.
That's why it doesn't work.
Because you're not aware of this
and you're not aware of that.
And that's why there are people who are dumb.
There are people who don't know they are dumb.
There are people who know they're dumb.
There are people who are dumb, and they think
they are smart, which is the most dangerous.
So there are four types, so how do you do that?
How do you get unstuck?
It's very simple.
It's awareness.
What do I mean by awareness?
It means possibility.
It's means you have to have more knowledge, more data,
more possibility, more choices, so we can solve
the problem that you have, whatever you get stuck on.
It could be business.
It could be relationship.
It could be personal relationship.
It could be your life.
It could be communication.
It could be, whatever it is, it doesn't matter
because if you only have two or three possibility,
two or three answers that you could use to solve
this problem, and you are not expanding your awareness,
simply means giving yourself more choices,
giving yourself different angle
of looking at the same thing.
What you don't know you don't know,
and the more possibilities that you have,
the more you expand your contacts,
the easier for you to get unstuck.
Let me leave you with one thought.
If you are stuck, when you are stuck,
instead of just working harder and harder and harder
with what you don't know to solve the issue,
to get unstuck, just look at it
from a totally different perspective.
It means maybe it's reading that book.
Maybe it's talking to a different person
who've gone through the same path.
Maybe it is going to the seminar.
Maybe it's watching one more video.
Something that happens, something that shifts your mind,
something expands a possibility, that gives you
more choices, give you more different possibilities, right?
More data, different knowledge,
different experience from different people.
Suddenly, what you know expands to, "Oh, wow,
"there's a lot of things that I could actually do."
"This is not the only way."
"If I lose my girlfriend, I don't have to kill myself."
There are actually a lot of other choices, hello?
Right?
"If I'm not increasing my sales,
"oh my god, maybe this is I suck.
"I tried this."
But actually there are 30, 40, 50 other things
that you could try and test and implement,
but you don't know what those 30, 40 things are.
And, as you get more mature, you get wiser,
you notice there are actually another 300 things I could do.
That's why people come to me,
they say, "Hey Dan, I'm stuck."
I say, "Okay."
So I say, "What have you tried?"
"Oh I've tried everything."
I say, "You've fucking tried everything?"
"Yeah, I've tried everything."
"Okay, tell me how many things you've tried."
"Well, I've tried this and this and this."
"So, you've tried five things.
"Don't tell me you've tried everything.
"You've tried five fucking things."
Then, all I do is I tell them what
they don't know, they don't know.
"Have you thought of these five other things?"
"Oh, okay, I've never thought about that."
"Okay, go do those."
Problem solved, they get unstuck,
not because I am so spectacular and I'm so amazing.
It's simply because what they know
is so limited, and what I know has,
just because I've been around the block, right?
I have much more experience.
I could see things from different perspective.
So that's how you get unstuck.