Shh this is the secret about confidence
what I'm about to share with you comes from such an inspiring human being that
I've had the privilege of meeting at a book signing in New York City a couple
years back his name Tim Ferriss now you've probably heard of him he's a
successful entrepreneur podcast host best-selling author human guinea pig as
he likes to call himself jokingly I would think and he's just done so many
amazing things he even has a black belt in jujitsu I mean this guy does it all
Timmy so I was listening to his podcast the
other day and a message that he shared about confidence really resonated with
me and I think that it's also going to resonate with you explorers so I want to
share it on here on my channel now it is about creating confidence so not so much
about tapping into it and I've spoken about that there's strategies that I
like to implement and share with all of you and that's in a separate video so
check that out if you want to tap into the confidence what I'm about to share
with you today is all about creating confidence when it's not there so
basically from zero okay so we're talking about blank slate starting from
zero how to build confidence so if that sounds like something that you're
interested in then keep watching as we know confidence is not something that we
can just switch on and call it a day right we don't just turn on the switch
of confidence and then immediately feel confident unfortunately it doesn't work
that way it takes a while to build it up right it's not done overnight it's not
done in a week it takes mindfulness and practice and doing the actual work so
I'm gonna give you two the strategies that I gleaned from his podcast talking
about confidence building and I'm gonna share that with you in this video now
it's important to note that confidence is not universally applicable across
French skills and what I mean by that is you might be confident in math yet
you're not confident in public speaking or you might be confident in public
speaking but you're not confident in your ability to make a watercolor or to
do karate confidence is not universally applicable across skills we all have
something that we want to be more confident in and as you know on my
channel I talk a lot about how to build confidence in our communication so that
we can communicate with confidence authenticity and poise so that's what I
do but there are other people out there who do other things where they're going
to help you with other confidence building but I'm going to talk about it
more generally and then how it relates to obviously public speaking and
communication because that's what we do here on Explearning what's Tim's big
secret I guess it's not really a secret because he talks openly about it but
what is Tim's take on confidence well he talks a lot about rehearsing what you
fear and that really makes a lot of sense if you think about it so he's
basically saying take yourself out of your comfort zone you're not going to
build your confidence in your comfort zone you want to basically rehearse the
things that scare the living daylights out of you
in the parameters of the performance so if you have a big performance coming up
it might be a talk it might be an interview it might be a meeting it might
be a piano recital or a dance competition or a tennis tournament or a
karate competition whatever that performance is for you you
want to rehearse that fear of said performance ahead of time okay so that's
really what he's getting at and the two points that I gleaned from that whole
spiel is what I'm going to share right now how do you rehearse what you fear
before game day before that performance really counts really matters before
you're being evaluated before you're being judged before you're being
considered for a position whatever the ramifications are of performing you want
to be ready so the first thing is shaking it up okay
and I talk about that a lot because it's quite applicable to any sort of getting
out of your comfort zone what he talks about is basically taking yourself into
a new environment you are going to perform in a brand new territory a brand
new scene or setting and in front of complete strangers because the reality
is when it comes time to game day you are performing in front of complete
strangers you are in a brand new environment that you would never been to
before right think about it when you know you are asked to give a talk or
maybe when you're taking a test or you're being evaluated it's not gonna
happen in the place that you actually studied or rehearsed or practiced most
of the time what do you do you take yourself out and you put yourself in an
unfamiliar territory okay so here you're looking for situations that will incite
fear in you you are actively seeking out situations that are gonna scare you
because that is going to prepare you for game day where you might be terrified of
performing of giving that speech of giving that talk of holding that meeting
right we are all creatures of social interaction settings but we also fear
evaluation and there's a real thing as to what evaluation apprehension is so
it's something to really consider quite carefully let's say you're giving a talk
to people in your company and you're you have it rehearsed in that space then go
ahead and do that right that is the unfamiliar territory that we're talking
about but you can even take it a step further and give that talk or a similar
talk to a group let's say a Toastmasters group and that way you're performing it
not only in an unfamiliar territory but you're also performing it to a bunch of
strangers and that's what we want right so we're inciting the fear that you
would get on game day so that you know how to deal with it and that you are
already planting the seed for confidence in that area so in the public speaking
situation and interview so on and so forth the next
thing is what he calls recon ahead of time and I love I love the phrasing of
that it's so catchy essentially what this means is that your reconnaissance
right you are trying to figure out what's gonna happen day of so it could
be anything from knowing where the bathrooms are where the entrance is what
the process is do you have to line up do you have to are there's there a certain
protocol that you need to follow what's the schedule when are you going to speak
with whom will you be playing tennis or whatever it is that is related to that
performance but the point is that there's always logistics involved right
it could be even you know you want to get a cup of coffee where do you get
your coffee where do you get that drink of water where's the nearest water
fountain right taking all the guesswork out of the logistics day of it really
lowers the cognitive load because you're not thinking about all of those little
nitty-gritty details you actually need to know where you need to relieve
yourself where you need to get that coffee whatever it is but you're taking
the guesswork out of it and you're learning all about that be for game day
recon ahead of time but you're not stressing about logistics and by doing
that you are going to instead use your brain power day off to get your
headspace in the right place to go through your talking points whatever it
is right for recon ahead of time you want to make sure that you are familiar
with the space that you're going to be in for game day okay so in an interview
go to that company and check it out and see if possible what it's like what's
the setups like and if you can't do it ahead of time like way ahead of time
then do it day off get there early figure out where the bathroom is where
you can get some coffee chat with you know the secretary or the assistant if
you can so that you familiarize yourself with the space now if it's a meeting or
if it's a public speaking engagement or if it's a talk then you can go and
out the venue ahead of time so this is what we can do for communication I
really like those two strategies that help you start to plant the seed for
confidence because once we know what confidence feels like once we have it in
our mind and in our body that's psychosomatic connection right
the way we think about it can dictate how we feel and it will manifest itself
in our body right if it you know if you're sweating if you're shaking you
know what I'm talking about but what's really great is that ahead of time you
do these things and that way only then can you tap into it and channel that
confidence so I hope that makes sense because it's one thing to be able to tap
into the confidence that's already there pre-existing and it's another thing to
actually foster that confidence to create that confidence again in a skill
where you're lacking the confidence I hope that you take these points into
account again they're from Tim Ferriss it's what I sort of gleaned from
listening to him talk about confidence building and if you you know are
interested in learning more about him I would highly recommend his podcast I
will link below the actual podcasts that I listened to that inspired me to make
this video you know where to find me explorers right here on Explearning
communication coaching I hope that you enjoyed this video and if you did please
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