Some men are just lying, manipulating,
no good, good for nothing,
horrible people,
looking to take advantage of you.
And the reality is that I do not
want you getting caught up
with that kind of man.
So, I'm going to help you
by letting you know the five
behaviors of a man who lies.
Hey, my name is Stephan Labossiere
aka Stephan Speaks
back with another relationship
and dating advice video for women.
Like I said, I'm going to be laying out for you
the five behaviors of a man who lies.
Again, before we get started
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give us some things that you've seen
constant pattern in men who lie.
Now again,
let me make this very clear as always
every man is not a liar.
Well, let me backtrack that.
Every person on the face of this earth
has told a lie, all right.
If you're honest with yourself, all right.
You've done it at least once in your life.
Now, I'm not saying it may have been as
bad as some others, but a lie is a lie
I think everyone has done it at least once.
But this video isn't about
the average person who may lie
here and there, which I'm not
validating or approving,
I'm just saying that's what happens.
This is about the pattern of behavior,
the constant lying,
the constant manipulating.
The man who has bad intentions
who has no desire
to give you clarity
and peace and be transparent with you,
he's simply trying to play you.
So, there are consistent behaviors
that these men tend to have
that I want you to be aware of.
And of course, there's a bonus thing
I need you to hear at the very end
that's extremely important, all right.
So, now let's get to it.
Number one behavior of a man who lies
is he can't tell the same story twice.
So, here's the thing,
people who lie tend to be inconsistent
when they're telling their lie.
Now, don't get me wrong
some people out there are very good liars
and they get their story straight
so that if they have to repeat it
they don't have any
deviances from what they said.
However, a lot of people are not great liars.
A lot of people cannot keep up with the story they told.
So, when you ask them more than once
there's going to be variations in their story.
Now, I don't want to sit here and say the minute
the second a man gives you a variation in the story
that he is automatically some horrible manipulating liar.
I am saying it's a red flag
and if you follow my videos, then you know
red flags are things to
follow up on.
Are things to address
not to just cut them off and run,
let's dig a little deeper.
We have to also take a full picture
if this man has been awesome in every way
and he doesn't exhibit any of the other behaviors
I'm about to list because typically
liars will exist at least
two or more of these behaviors
but if he doesn't...
If he doesn't engage in any of these other behaviors
then it is very possible that this is just
you know, isolated incident.
Maybe he forgot a certain detail
that he remembered the second time possible,
but again pay attention
to their ability to be consistent
with their story.
Now I don't want you to ask them five times,
because then that looks really bad,
but there's nothing wrong
with bringing it back up.
And as a woman, you're aware.
You're very aware to the details.
So, I know you're going to be able
to catch it if it happens.
You just have to take an initiative to may be
ask a second time
to regain clarity,
but to see can the story stay the same.
And let me add kind of a 1b to this,
not only can they not tell the same story twice
they lie about the little things, all right.
A lot of people...
Again, there are people who tell these "white lies"
and they validated by it being a "white lie."
However, there are individuals
who lie for no reason.
Like, they're just lying about stuff
that there was no purpose in even lying.
Like it wasn't even like it was going to be a big deal.
There was no concern, there was no need
to give
a false narrative,
yet they still did it.
And there's a consistent
pattern of that.
That's so someone who may be
a habitual liar, all right.
And for some reason they just
feel the need to create a story.
Again, you got to find out
you got to address that red flag because that
is an issue and that is a behavior
of a man who lies a lot, all right.
Second behavior of a man who lies
is he's very distant
and emotionally unavailable.
Now again,
let me phrase it like this
is any man who is distant
or emotionally unavailable
a flat out liar or manipulator?
No, some people are just
they have deeper issues,
some people may not be comfortable with you,
very possible.
But what I am saying is
if he's a liar
he's typically not the most
open and transparent person.
He's typically going to be very distant
very secretive, all right.
He's going to show this behavior
and again like I said
the liar
is going to typically show at least
two or more of these behaviors.
So, it's one thing for him to just
be emotionally available and distant,
which the argument can still be made
if he's doing that
liar or not, why are you dealing with him?
Because you can't have a great relationship
or a successful healthy relationship
with a man who's emotionally unavailable
and a man who's very distant.
So, regardless that's a red flag
needs to be addressed and if it can't be corrected
you're going to have to walk away.
But in regards specifically
to him being a liar
and a manipulator again
liars and manipulators do engage in these
in this emotionally...
Emotional unavailability
because it makes it easier
basically, the less I let you in
the less I have to lie about.
The less I have to even come
up with different stories.
It's easier just to shut you out
and keep things in secret.
So, I don't have to try to explain it
and then when you try to ask me
why don't you let me in?
I can deflect, I can throw all kinds of different
stories at you.
I can somehow
still end up with not letting you in
and that still shows that that's an individual
who when he is a liar
that is a typical behavior he will engage in.
So, be mindful of that but again
address it, address it, address it.
Third on this list
of behaviors of a man who lies,
before I give you the third one
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finding it extremely helpful
it breaks down a lot of different scenarios
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So, back to number three,
he doesn't take personal accountability.
Listen, liars and manipulators
do not hold themselves accountable.
They got every excuse in the book
they're always making it about
it's this, it's that, it's this person.
It's never them, all right.
They don't want to have to
face themselves in the mirror
because again, a liar
and a manipulator is trying to hide
trying to hide from reality,
trying to hide from any consequences.
Trying to hide from any
work that they're going to have to do
to make anything better.
So, when you notice that this man
never takes accountability,
this is a huge red flag.
And again,
is it possible for,
for a guy who's
always saying is this one's fault that one.
You know what, I want to say it's possible
that he's not going to be a liar
but it's just not likely
because at some point
they're going to have to twist the story
to still make them be the victim.
They're going to have to give false details
so they can deflect from this issue.
That type of behavior
leads to... Even if
their initial intention
wasn't to lie,
it is hard because
if you're going to be honest
then you can find fault in what you did.
If you're going to be honest
you can see where you can improve,
but if you don't want to face those facts
you're going to have to bring lies.
You're going to have to twist the story
that's just the way it goes.
So, when you see that he never
takes personal accountability
that is the behavior of a man
who lies and it needs to be addressed.
So, now that brings me to number four
on this list.
He's quick to turn the tables on you.
So, like I said
he doesn't take personal accountability,
it's always about someone else.
So, then what happens is
when you try to address him
he flips it on you.
So, this reminds me of a story
real quick I got to talk about this
where I remember
there was a guy I knew, all right.
This is many years ago so don't judge me but anyways,
the guy had a girlfriend
and I didn't know what he was doing, all right.
But it turned out
she found out he was running
these streets cheating acting a fool.
She calls him up, all right.
He's at my house.
He's talking her on the phone
and she's going in on him about the whole situation,
but then next thing he kind of walks away
I'm doing my own thing
but next do you know
I hear him going off on her, all right.
So, now this whole conversation has switched
to him being angry with her
him talking to her all kinds of ways
and by the end of the conversation
she's apologizing to him,
but here's the kicker,
when they hung up the phone
the first thing that man did
was look at me and laugh.
He knew exactly what he was doing.
Liars and manipulators
are fully aware and again,
that whole turn the tables on you
that is a huge behavior
of a man who is a liar and a manipulator.
He knows how to somehow,
make it your fault.
How now well, you did this wrong
now it's on you
so that he can take the spotlight off of him.
It is classic deflection
and the sad thing is it works
if you are not as aware as a woman.
So, let me just give you this quick tip if
you ever find yourself
in a situation where someone's
trying to turn the tables on you.
Don't fight them
on what they're trying to now put on you.
Stick to the script
of what you call them about
and if they won't
do not continue the conversation.
See the mistake that people make
in those situations is that
now you actually get caught up
in trying to defend yourself.
And if the liar is good
they know how to keep their foot on your neck.
So, that you keep having to fight back, fight back, fight back,
and you lose all track
of what the whole conversation was really about.
And the fact that they were the one that were in the wrong
in the wrong and you were addressing them first.
So, once you catch
that they're trying to put you in a position of
defending yourself when you know
you genuinely were not in the wrong.
It's different if you actually were in the wrong
that's a whole other conversation,
but if you know you were genuinely not in the wrong
and that you were addressing this properly, all right.
And you now see they're trying to flip it
you got to stop the conversation.
Do not allow them to have that and let it be known
if they're unwilling
to address the issue that you are trying to address
that is your exit out of the relationship.
Because if they won't to allow you
to address this issue with them,
how can you ever build
something healthy with them?
How can you ever be happy here?
How can you even have peace?
Because you're never going to get
your feelings heard.
You're never going to get the issues addressed.
you're never going to get anything resolved.
And so, it's a clear sign
you're dealing with a liar and a clear sign
you're with the wrong man
and in the wrong relationship,
so, end it all together.
Now, this all brings me to
number five on this list
and we kind of already touched on it
but let's talk about it again.
He's extremely defensive.
So again, when we talk about turning the tables,
we talking about not taking accountability,
this all plays into him
always being defensive.
He does not take any level
of criticism well.
Even when you try to be nice and sweet
he takes it the wrong way
he fights back pushes back.
Now listen, don't get me wrong
if you speak to someone in an attacking manner
it is human nature to
be defensive in that way.
So, you have to be mindful of
how you're speaking to someone.
How you're expressing yourself to that man
and that goes for anyone.
If I was speaking to men I would tell them the same thing.
Anytime someone feels attacked
genuinely,
they're going to become defensive.
However, if you express yourself
in a calm loving manner
and they're still getting defensive,
a liar uses that defensiveness
as a defense mechanism.
They use that
to then deflect, to then turn the tables.
To now introduce anger
into the situation
to again, make you lose track
of what this whole conversation was really about.
It's easy to manipulate
people with anger.
With all this negative energy
to get you to back down
and stop coming at him
with what you're trying to address.
So, you got to notice when he's
always defensive
and unwilling to just hear you out,
unwilling to take constructive criticism,
unwilling to welcome
you expressing your feelings in a
calm and loving manner
that's always important.
Calm and loving manner
then that again is a behavior
of a man who lies, all right.
Now again, one more time get your copy
of He's Lying Sis,
he'slyingsis.com
or click the link in description,
but let me give you that last one I said
I want to mention to you.
And this isn't about the man's behavior,
this is just a message I need you to hear.
Trust your intuition.
At the end of the day
I can lay out for you all these behaviors.
I can lay out for you even some more behaviors
and again I remind you
I want you to address it
not just cut them off the first
sight of anything wrong.
However, your intuition knows best.
The reality is that so many women
have found themselves
in the wrong relationship
because they ignored their intuition.
So many women have found themselves
wasting their time
with a man that they knew from
hell, conversation number one
that he wasn't it
because you ignored your intuition.
Women are in marriages
feeling stuck
because they ignore their intuition.
Women have baby fathers
who they hate,
I hate to use that word but it is what it is,
because they ignore their intuition.
There are so many ramifications,
so many negative consequences
of simply ignoring what you sense from within.
Now, let me make something really clear.
The difference between intuition and fear,
fear is your logic in your mind
breaking things down, all right.
And yet analyzing you're coming to your conclusions.
Intuition needs no logic,
needs no analyzation.
It just feels, it just knows, it just senses.
So, sometimes
the man may have not done anything wrong
but if in your spirit
you just know you don't belong there
listen, all right.
And sometimes
this may sound crazy,
sometimes he may make a mistake.
He may do something wrong,
but your intuition is telling you
don't walk away from this man yet.
And I'm going to tell you to listen to that
as crazy as that may sound because
it may be of... It maybe your spirit telling you
this is a fixable issue,
but you don't want to let your fear
dictate your actions.
You don't want your fear dictate
how you approach this situation
and which way you go with this.
You want to make sure you tap into your intuition
and to go even deeper than that,
which I believe is all connected,
talk to God, pray about it.
Ask God should you be dealing with this man.
Ask God if there's any more digging that needs to be done.
Ask God how to handle the situation.
If you believe in God
and you include God
in other aspects of your life,
then don't leave Him out
of your relationships.
Don't leave Him out of your dating life.
If anything, you need Him even more than ever
in those aspects of your life.
So, please talk to God,
pray, listen to your intuition,
and let that guide you more than anything.
Hey, thank you for watching this video
be sure to check
this one out right here
and I'll see you there.
The reality is this,
if he's saying let's go with the flow
that's saying there is no vision there is no
plan in this situation.
There is no intention with this situation
at least not what he wants to convey to you.