In this episode, we talk about how you can
study in a group, and hack your way to engineering success!
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What’s up everyone this is Jake Voorhees, and you are watching episode 21 of the 1%
Engineer Show.
This is Principle 3 of how to win friends and influence people, by Dale Carnegie.
Yup how to nudge people into helping you, just by framing conversation from THEIR perspective
and not yours.
The core of this principle is that you should “Arouse in the other person an eager want.”
To get what we want from another person, we must forget our own perspective and begin
to see things from the point of view of others.
When we can combine our desires with their wants, they become eager to work with us and
we can mutually achieve our objectives.
Okay so what does that mean?
It means that no one cares what YOU want, you have to make the conversation about them.
How can knowing this lesson help you?
Let me give you an example
I always encourage The 1% Engineers to study in groups.
Lots of students tell me, well they’re not sure how to approach the A+ students in class,
they don’t want to see like they are leaching off their efforts.
They don’t know how to add value to them.
Think about how can you help them if you arent the smartest one?
What can you do for them?
For me, I assembled groups in college for homework and exams because I wasnt’ the
smartest one.
I’d be the presenter.
I’d be the one interacting with the professor for group projects.
Many of the smartest engineers in the room are terrified to present.
That’s how you can help!
But maybe that’s not your thing?
Its okay.
Maybe you’re more organized and can keep the group on track?
Maybe you’re the data person?
Maybe you write the report, because you have good enough technical writing skills?
Same thing for your professors!
Of course you want something from them, like connections to research or to the industry?
But how can you help them?
Can you volunteer?
Can you TA?
Can you help them with hw / exam workload and be an official grader?
Talk in terms of what THEY want, and you will find, if you lead with their interests, a
win-win scenario will happen
And you too will prevail in the end :)
So that’s how you can apply principle 3 of how to win friends and influence people
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In this episode, we talk about why you should study with a team, and hack your way through
engineering with group success.
What's up everyone this is Jake Voorhees and you are watching episode 021 of The 1% Engineer
Show.
For this show, we're touching on Principle 3 of Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and
Influence People", how to nudge people into the helping you just by framing conversation
in their perspective.
Not yours!
No one cares!!!
The core of this principle is your should arouse in the other person an eager want.
To get what you may want from that person you have to stop thinking about it in terms
of what you need, what you want, and think about it from their shoes.
What can you do for them how can you help them, what is it that they actually want and
how can you become mutually beneficial as you talk about things from their perspective,
and in turn you're achieving your goals as well . We've talked about this before.
This is a core foundational principle in Dale Carnegie's book that will help you win friends
and influence people.
Okay what does all this mean - how can this apply to you?
Let me give you an example of my time in engineering and how you can apply this to your world for
success.
Again I always encourage the 1% Engineers to work in teams.
To study for exams as a group, to do homework as a group - it helps out a lot.
It make things faster, easier, if you're stuck maybe someone else will get the problem, you
help each other learn, and just like Aristotle said, one plus one sometimes equals three.
And you guys are actually smarter as a group, smarter as a team, and it just makes it better.
But the problem, lots of students have, is they're afraid to approach other students
in their class.
To ask them to do homework together, to ask them to study for an exam together, they don't
know what to say, they don't know what to do.
They're too shy they're too quiet, things like this, but this is one thing you can do!!
What worked for me is, I would study with kids who were smarter than me, you have to
think about what you can add to them, how can you help them.
A lot of these super smart A plus plus plus students, they don't want to present, they
may not be the most organized, they may not want to write the project report, they may
not want to write up the homework lab for whatever class you're taking.
So think about what you can do to make their homework situation easier, to make that project
better for them, to make studying for this exam better for them.
Maybe you can organize all the exam questions and create a study guide or something but
you think about what you can help them with.
You have to think about what they may not want to do themselves.
My highlight example for myself was projects.
I would present, I would have the relationship with the professor, because these other students
who were 4.0 people, they didn't always want to go to the professor and ask them questions
and take lead on the project.
Even though they may have been the brains behind the operation, they didn't necessarily
want to be the person with the mic, or the person who would kick off the presentation.
And this is what I could add to them.
So you have to think about what you can do for these other students who are getting great
grades, who are sitting in the front, who you know are superstars.
Who are probably going to have more opportunities just because they're outperforming other students,
and you want to work with them because these are the A-listers, you want to be doing homework
with them, group stuff with them, projects with them.
So what can you do for them.
Frame the approach in terms of how it benefits them have to instill that eager want in them.
Consider the situation from their shoes, how can you help them, and you will win.
They will want to work with you, and you guys can all help each other on your road to completion
of this course.
And then you will probably work together in other courses and things like this, you will
just be more successful together.
So in summary today guys, you have to put situations in terms of the interest of the
other person, and now, they really want to listen to you, they want to work with you.
They eagerly want to be a part of whatever you're proposing, so it becomes a win-win
situation and you guys can: study together, work together, do exam things together - be
a team, and probably, have a relationship that locks in forever.
You guys will end up referring each other for jobs in your careers and keep in touch.
And have a super awesome professional relationship forever because you guys help each other and
it all starts with you, framing things in their interests.
How you can help them always think about the you can add to this person and why they want
to listen to you, and be a part of that situation.
So talk in terms of what they want, and you will find, if you lead with their interests,
a win-win scenario will happen.
And you will prevail in the end!!!
So that's how you can apply Principal 3 of "How to Win Friends and Influence People".
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Thanks for watching The 1% Engineer Show guys and stay hungry on your quest, to become a
1% Engineer.
Cheers!