You are a good woman to him.
You pour into him.
You try to give him what he ask for.
You try to be the best you could be.
You gave so much time and energy
but in the end, it all fell apart.
The relationship didn't work out.
And sometimes you may have
questioned and wondered
did this man even regret losing me?
Did he understand the good thing
he had in his hand?
Well, I’m going to explain to you
if men regret losing a good woman.
My name is Stephan Labossiere
aka Stephan Speaks
back with another
dating and relationship advice video for women.
Again, we're going to be talking about,
do men regret losing a good woman?
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So, it's a question that gets asked a lot
and a lot of women wonder
if men feel any regret, remorse,
have any kind of negative emotion that
they experience from the fact that they lost
out on what they felt was a good woman.
Now, you know me I’m going to have to be real
with you all there's some things I’m going to say today
that you're not going to like, all right.
But I want to keep it real with you
all the way through.
So, number one let's get to the initial question.
Do men regret losing a good woman?
In most cases yes, all right.
In most cases there's going to come a point
where that man realizes
damn! I had a good one
and I let her slide out of my hands.
You see examples of this
all the time where women have broken up with men.
And it could be months later, years later.
This dude pops back up
and he wants her back.
Telling her I realized what I had lost.
I always say some people don't realize what they had
until it's gone,
but that doesn't mean they're supposed to get it back.
But he'll try and sometimes
the intentions are genuine sometimes they're not
either way yes, because the reality is that
having truly a good woman, all right,
is not easy to find.
Even though society or people would like to
believe there's all these great women everywhere,
that's not what every man's
actually experiencing.
And a lot of men have
been played by women.
Have been hurt by women
and so, when they had that woman that was good to them
and now she's no longer available, all right.
It can be hurtful. It can be a regret.
And it depends on why he lost you to begin with.
Now, if he lost this good woman
because he knows he messed up.
Whether it be
maybe he wasn't ready for that
level of commitment.
Maybe he did not know how to
pour into you the way that you need to.
Maybe he wanted to play the field.
There's a lot of men where
they're at the time in their life
where they want to see what their options are.
Where they want to run these streets
so to speak, all right.
And they don't want to be or they're
afraid to be tied down to one woman
and their unwillingness to embrace you at that moment
is just about where their head is at.
And so now, when they come out of that phase
and they look back
yeah, there's a lot of regret.
Because now they find themselves in a space
where they're unable to find the same energy
that you brought to the table.
They're unable to find the effort you brought to the table.
Where they saw
in some situations these women may have looked better
and I’m saying in various ways on the surface.
Whether it be physically their resume
with certain resources they may have brought to the table.
But how it felt being with them was a drop-off.
And now they start to see the difference
that's why some people don't realize what they had until it's gone,
because it takes them having
experiences with less than
with people who don't match your quality
for them to really understand
the level of quality you brought to the table, all right.
But now I have to say this,
the last thing I want you to be worried about
is if that man regrets losing you.
Because it does nothing for you.
It's not going to make your life any better.
You might feel a little bit better for a second.
Feel like okay, he finally gets it,
but what's that really accomplish?
And if you're focusing your energy on thinking about
if he regrets losing you,
then you're not giving your energy to more important things.
To your growth.
To your
possible new relationship
that can be coming your way.
You can become so consumed by
how does he still feel?
Where now you find yourself
looking at his social media
you find yourself checking on
things you don't need to be checking on
because you're just trying to see
what's going on with him?
Does he show any remorse?
Has he moved on too quickly?
How is he feeling?
Don't do all that.
Don't drive yourself crazy
because again,
even if he regrets it
here's the bigger question,
was he even the man for you?
Like, who cares
if he regrets it.
If he was never the man for you.
If anything, thank God that he's gone.
Thank God it didn't work out.
Thank God that for whatever reason
you two fell apart
because some of you
were in relationships
where you weren't going to pull the trigger.
You weren't going to walk away.
Even though your intuition has been
telling you that man was wrong for you
you were still trying to make it work.
And so if it fell apart, great.
Here is now your opportunity
to get yourself into proper alignment.
here is your chance
to get closer to God
and find out what does
He want you to be doing in your life.
This is where you should be focusing your energy.
Not on this man who is probably never for you.
But I got something else to mention.
And again, I tell you all I love you all
when I say these things that might hurt you all.
But sometimes you guys
swear you all were a good woman
and you weren't that damn good.
Now listen,
I don't say this to offend you.
I say this because some of you need
the kind of reality check that will help you
to see better results in the future.
And I’m saying this
because if you convinced yourself
that you were such a great woman
in that relationship.
And you did nothing wrong
when in reality
you may have been dysfunctional.
When in reality you were lacking healing.
When in reality you were pouring in negativity
just as much as him.
Then what will happen is you will blind yourself
from the things you need to work on
so that you can succeed in the next relationship.
You will take these issues and flaws
and you will bring this extra baggage,
the disappointment and hurt
that came from this situation
where you poured so much into
and now you will place it
at the feet of the next man.
And then he will fall short
and he will fall short because
he's being set up for disaster.
Forget being set up for disaster
he will fall short
because you will probably choose
the wrong man from the jump
because in your broken state...
And again, I say that in a loving manner,
but in an accurate truthful way.
In your broken state
you will not be able to choose
and embrace the man who is best for you.
You will choose and embrace a man
who feels safe emotionally.
You will choose and embrace a man
that does not make you feel vulnerable.
That you may feel like you have
more emotional control with,
but he is not the right man.
So, he is bound to fail
and you are bound to repeat the cycle
over and over, and over again.
And there are some people who unfortunately
go to their grave
never having looked themselves in the mirror
and said damn!
What could I have done better?
Where can I improve?
When can I truly become
the good woman that I am capable of being?
Because I do believe
with all my heart
you are capable
of being that amazing woman
and let me not discount the fact
that in some situations you were.
In some situations your perception
that he lost a good great woman
is completely accurate,
but in many,
in many cases
you were missing the mark in certain ways.
And I bring that to your attention
because I want you to achieve better.
And you cannot achieve better
if you're not willing to work on your flaws.
If you have not healed
from that past relationship,
if you have not healed from your childhood,
if you have not healed from
anything you've been hurt from,
now, is the time to do that.
Even if you think you were a good woman
well, let's be a better woman.
Let's get to a greater level.
Let's tap into a higher potential
because the woman that God made you to be,
the woman that you are capable of being
is more amazing
than you can even see right now,
but you got to be willing.
You got to be willing to accept
you are a human
and chances are even if you tried your best
there may be things you could do better.
We all have room for growth.
I don't want you to beat yourself up.
I don't want you to dwell in any kind of negativity.
I want you to receive this
in a way where you feel inspired.
Where you feel like okay, damn!
You know what, if there is another level
of greatness in me,
then that means there's another level
of great results to receive.
There's another level of blessings
I can now walk into
if I’m willing to become
my better self, all right.
So, understand the importance of that.
Now listen, let's get back to...
Because I know that's a lot for some of you all.
That might have hit some of you all in the gut, all right.
But let's get back to
do men regret losing a good woman?
Yes, all right,
but again, there's various reasons.
Some of them are losing the fact that
they lost all the benefits of you,
but are they really truly ready to point into you?
And I want to bring that up
because I want you guys to understand that
in many cases, he does come back
and when he comes back
I don't want you falling
for his attempts
due to him claiming, I now realize what I had.
Bravo, good for you buddy,
but that's not good enough.
It's not just him realizing
he had something good.
It's are you now prepared
to pour into that woman the way that she needs.
Is he willing
to be the man that you're going to need to be happy?
Because he may just be coming back
to collect all the things that you're willing to give
and still give you nothing in return.
He may be coming back
trying to give you fifty percent
demanding your hundred percent.
We're not doing that.
We don't go for that over here.
You need to make sure that if you are even going
to entertain this man
that you
ensure that he is willing
to step up to the plate
in the way that he needs to, all right.
And always
and always pray about it.
And I say that because there's some of you
right now who are saying well, if he came back
ain't no way in hell I’m taking him back.
Well, listen, I understand
I’m not going to say
I'm going to blame you for that way of thinking,
however, sometimes it's
actually the wrong way to go
because remember what I said in the beginning.
It depends on why he lost you.
And some situations are
right person wrong time.
And I know some of you all are scoffing at that right now
like, oh, please I don't believe that.
If it didn't work at that time
that means they're the wrong person, that's not true.
That's not true
sometimes there was real love there.
Sometimes there was a genuine connection there,
but he wasn't ready,
he wasn't mature.
He hadn't evolved yet
and whether you realize it or not
you weren't fully ready,
you haven't fully evolved,
not to a place where you two
could successfully come together
and have an amazing relationship.
So, if now the opportunity comes back around
the last thing I want you to do is
reject it out of pride.
The last thing I want you to do is reject it out of
the general premise of don't take your ex back,
that's simply not always the case.
Sometimes that needs to be revisited.
Sometimes there is something there,
but just don't take my word for it.
And just don't go off of your emotion in the moment
because yes, he may catch you
at a vulnerable time
that makes you think
you can make this work,
but this is why we go back to praying about it.
This is why we make sure that
in the meantime, you heal.
Because in your healing
you'll be able to see more clearly
is this something real that can be revisited
or does the door need to be shut completely?
You will also be able to hear
your spirit more clearly.
You'll be able to embrace your intuition
much better than you were before
because you're clearing away
all the negative energy.
You're clearing away all the outside noise.
You're making it about you, your spirit, and God.
And when you do that
that will allow you to walk
the path you need to walk.
Hey, thank you for watching this video
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and I'll see you there.
A lot of women
have experienced a good man.
I repeat
a lot of women
have experienced a good man.
Now, don't go shaking your head.
Don't go throwing your hands in the air.
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