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This week, in this video, we're going to talk about seven reasons good men don't cheat.
So stay tuned.
Cheating in a relationship is, of course, not monopolized by either gender.
Men cheat, women cheat, and according to studies, they have different reasons for doing it.
I don't think we can necessarily say that men cheat for this reason, and women cheat
for that reason, though.
Because each individual person and scenario brings about a reason, or reasons, of its
own.
That being said though, I think we need to be careful of blanket statements like, "All
men cheat," or "All women cheat."
I have never cheated, and I would never cheat.
But, when I say this to people, they always ask how I could say I would never cheat?
There are plenty of good reasons why a good man would never have the thought cross his
mind.
Number one, because a good man appreciates what he has.
Obviously, this is big reason.
The more you appreciate your partner, the more valuable they are to you, the less you're
willing to risk losing them or hurting them.
When a good man truly loves and appreciates the woman in his life, he would never act
in ways that put his relationship with her in jeopardy.
Number two, a good man has evolved to beyond his urges.
We all have biological urges instilled in us by millions of years of evolution.
The desire to reproduce, sexual attraction, so on and so forth.
But this is often used as an excuse for cheating, because we are not built for monogamy.
Now, while monogamy isn't necessarily natural to humans, a good man understands that being
natural is not the point.
Monogamy is a choice.
It is a pledge, to the person that you love, to commit yourself to them, and only them.
A good man has the ability to resist these basic urges, for the sake of a more important
choice he has made for himself, you.
Number three, a good man values love over a fleeting experience.
When you're in a loving, committed, relationship with someone, there are far more layers of
fulfillment than just sex.
A relationship based solely on sexual attraction is a flimsy one, that could fall apart at
the first challenge.
But when two people genuinely love and respect each other, they can weather any storm.
Some people spend their lives searching for that kind of connection.
Some find it quickly, some take longer, but when a good man does find it, the thought
of throwing it all away for a few minutes of sexual satisfaction, that he could get
at home anyway, just makes no sense.
Number four, a good man respects the woman in his life.
Cheating is disrespect.
It's casting someone�s feelings aside because of something temporary that you want.
But not just something that you want, something you want at the expense of your girlfriend
or wife, and your relationship.
Cheating is lying to someone, it's breaking their trust, and those are not things that
you'll ever do to somebody that you respect.
Number five, a good man has grown past adding notches in his bedpost.
A man who is secure and confident in himself, no longer has a need to validate his manhood,
or self worth, by proving that he can get the girl.
Men who are insecure, often, at times, find the need to continue achieving conquests in
order to feel like men.
Anyone in this position would be better served to simply stay single, and sew their wild
oats before they choose to commit to someone exclusively.
Number six, a good man respects himself.
C.S.
Lewis once said, "Integrity is doing the right thing, even when no one is watching."
I think some men stop themselves from cheating, simply because they're afraid of getting caught.
But, good men, would stay faithful, even if it were guaranteed that nobody would find
out if they weren't faithful.
Why?
Because he respects himself.
He holds a certain standard for the way he lives his own life, and the character he has
worked so hard to build and maintain.
Entering into a committed relationship is not just a pledge to your partner, but also
a pledge that your future self will uphold the promises that your present self has made.
Number seven, a good man doesn't take the easy way out.
Cheating is the easy way out.
It's the easy way out of a bad relationship; it's the easy way to escape.
It's the easy way to avoid responsibility for breakup, by doing something stupid and
having her end it instead.
It's a way to avoid facing your problems, rather than standing up and dealing with them
like a grown adult.
Not every relationship is meant to last.
Breakups happen everyday, and for all different reasons.
But a good man is going to understand that, and have the respect for yourself, and himself,
to let you down easy.
Now that we've talked about those reasons, what are some of the reasons that you hold,
why you would never cheat?
Comment below and let me know on this video.
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