edging how it damages your brain i'm dr trish leigh let me tell you about it we're gonna go
through three points in this video number one what is edging and in this 2.0 version
what edging is not then secondly what we're going to talk about is what edging does to
your brain and why it's so dangerous i work with so many people that regret the fact that they got
into this practice and they were sucked into it without even knowing they were doing it and
definitely not knowing what it was doing to their brains third what you can do to back yourself
out of the mode that you have put your brain in on accident and heal your brain so that it works
optimally and you can leave pornography behind okay number one what is edging and what it's not
okay edging is the practice of viewing pornography in longer and longer sessions may be coming
back and forth between viewing pornography and dipping into your life a little bit but then
coming back for dopamine because your life has become difficult to manage without dopamine hits
coming back but you might stay in a session and open multiple tabs and with increasing
intensity move from one scene to another to another holding that buzzer that high
that buzz that high that numbing feeling that sensation thing that you're craving
the thing that you want so much to take the edge off and make you feel good in this human condition
gets better with every increasing move you take towards watching more and watching more intensity
that is edging what you're doing is you're holding a flood of dopamine in your brain
your reward center of your brain is being bathed i want you to think of a bath bathed in dopamine
which you're not supposed to get in that amount or for that long so your brain's being bathed in
dopamine to feel more and more chill and relaxed and numbed out but there's consequences to that
so that edging session is you're going forward with increased intensity feeling better and you're
holding off on the release to have your brain linger in that bath now the consequences are your
brain's not supposed to be there for that long or at that heightened arousal and intensity level
so what happens is you are desensitizing the reward center in your brain which means when
you go to be with your partner not only can you not get an erection you won't be able to ejaculate
it creates massive sexual problems with the partner that you have in your real life
what happens also is the d2 dopamine receptors in your brain are no longer working so now next time
you go back you need to go back more frequently more consistently with even more heightened
intensity you need more and more and more to get where you were a month ago because your
brain is becoming fried out at the same time it's dropping out the activity in your frontal lobe
your decision making skills are decreasing your ability to think and focus are going
out the window you are damaging your brain that's what edging is now what edging is not edging is
not being with your partner and trying to have that experience continue for x amount
of time while you linger in these lower dopamine levels but i'm going to caution you here because
if it involves fantasy and if you are trailing off into something that's in your arousal template
from pornography you're bringing that into the human sexual experience and then what's happening
there is you're no longer with your partner in the present you're lingering in that dopamine flood
in that bath what you're going for is more of a dopamine shower with your partner and actually
i don't even remember it but i looked up i will i will bring it to you in a different video i looked
up how long the average sexual experience should be because i talked to so many people like i used
to be able to go for an hour and a half two hours but now i can only go for 30 minutes the average
is in the 15 minute range so think about that is that you want to be able to hold your brain
in that mode you know 10 15 20 25 minutes to hold your brain in that mode for hours and for days is
very damaging now let me tell you the anecdotal story very quick of a few people that i work with
many people actually but we're going to call it the few out of the masses is that when you get
to that point your brain needs so much dopamine to exist it's difficult to exist in the world
and then when you try to leave it behind it is devastating trying to leave it behind it really
involves a weaning process over an extended amount of time i do not want that for you that's why if
you can back yourself out of that now if you feel yourself going towards lots of tabs with
increasing intensity please back yourself out for your own sake your brain will thank you
so okay now that's what happens in your brain how are you going to do it now in the perfect
world you'd rip that band-aid right off and you would stop watching pornography altogether
that would be ideal because then your brain will start to recalibrate itself it will get out of
this neo-homeostasis mode it'll move back to the optimal homeostasis or norm and you will start
to feel common focused again you will stop feeling angsty and anxious you'll stop feeling overwhelmed
social anxiety will decrease that is the perfect world rip that band-aid right off and struggle
through some amount of time but if you've been edging for a while likely you're going to have to
decrease the consistency the frequency the length and the amount of dopamine flooding that you have
been doing but i know some people are gonna say it's bad advice and it is bad advice because
it would probably be almost impossible for you ripping off the band-aid is the
is actually the better way to go stop watching let your brain recalibrate itself and move on
but that can be really difficult for people so if you can't do that it's a cheat in the right
direction and i agree i don't love the cheats in the right direction but if you can't succeed using
the rip the band-aid off technique then cheating in the right direction can give you success
and we know from the neuroscience that success breeds more success so get successful start either
cheating in the right direction or go cold turkey using strategies tools techniques and support
and i've created programs my new uh our new pornbrainreboot.org website is ready the nonprofit
isn't completely established at the recording of this video but it will be soon so go check
out that new website pornbrainreboot.org there's different levels of programs that are there for
you and if you want the comprehensive program from start to finish it's there for you if not stay
here watch the videos like and subscribe get the notifications use the strategies at the end of the
video and they will start coming together for you okay remember control your brain or to control you