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friends welcome back to a new lesson i
am niharika and today we are going to
look at different ways
to avoid unwanted questions or to avoid
nosy people
now there are so many people who love to
be nosy
they just want to know all the details
they want to know how old i am or they
want to know how much money do you make
why are you not getting married why are
you not having babies how come you're
still single
okay it's none of your business
why do you want to feed your snooping
mind with my details don't you have any
other work to do
well that's what it is so there are so
many people who tend to get details from
you and you just want to keep some
things personal like your work your
relationships or your money right
so we are gonna look at some ways that
you can avoid such nosy people
let's have a look at the first one here
you can just answer by saying not
important
so someone asks you that
why you're not getting married
just say
not important
okay that's the way you can answer so
probably this person would get an idea
that you don't want to share the details
okay
the next one that we have is change the
subject
well if someone comes and says
oh honey why are you not having babies
yet
okay i really don't want to answer that
so what do you do
well what you can say
oh i completely forgot to tell you about
what happened last weekend
so you're changing the subject
i hope this person forgets about the
question asked
but that's one of the ways that you can
avoid this nosy question okay
the next
one i have for you is repeat the
question
so someone maybe your work colleague
comes and asks you
hey niharika
so how much do you get paid
and i really don't want to share that
with him
it's none of his business right
so i would repeat the question i would
say with a very surprised expression on
my face i will repeat the same question
did you just ask how much money do i
make you know just look surprised
and kind of change the subject so you
can combine these two you can repeat the
question
and you can change the subject okay
then the next one that i have for you is
smart answer
now there are certain ways that you can
answer very smartly
for example um
if someone comes and asks you
uh why are you taking
your day off okay so probably i have
applied for a day off or probably a
week's holiday
and this person this colleague of mine
would come and ask me so why are you
taking off
okay i don't want to tell you that but
then i will answer smartly i would say
uh do you work for cia or do you work
for fbi or for some government tax
office
okay so this is smart
like you are kind of giving an idea that
it's none of your business but you're
not being rude you're just saying do you
work for cia or fbi that you're asking
me this question
okay
then the next one that i have for you is
polite answer
now remember if you do not want to share
your personal information with anybody
okay
it doesn't mean
like if you say if you deny answering if
you say that i'm sorry this is too
personal you're being polite okay you're
not being rude because people think
that it's their birth right to know
what's happening in someone's else's
life
okay
that's not the case you can just answer
politely by saying
it's none of your business
no i'm sorry i didn't mean that you can
just say that i'm sorry i do not want to
share my personal information or wow
that's a personal question
okay so this is the way you can answer
now let's have a look at some more
alright so i have some more options for
you that you can use when you have to
answer some nosy people there
so the first one over here is humor you
can always add humor to your answers
for example
many people tend to ask what are you
doing even when they see what you're
doing
like i was reading a book the other day
and this friend of mine
asked me hey niharga what are you doing
well of course i was reading
but how i answered to that question i
said
i'm reading a book on anti-gravity and
it is very difficult for me to keep the
book down
well that's kind of smart and humorous
right
even at times when you are in a movie
theater and you bum into a friend
and they're like hey what are you doing
here
well duh
i've come for a movie
well but of course you're not gonna say
that you would just add humor
i was thinking that i'll just go take
around in the park
okay so here you're adding humor again
right so you can always add humor to
your answers
the next one that i have for you is
answer like a politician
so what does that mean
well you know how politicians are
they are pretty diplomatic they like to
give a very indirect
answer
so at times you really have to be a
little
diplomatic
and how do you do that
well you can say
in a very indirect manner
someone would come and ask you so how
much are you paid
you can say uh
pretty enough to
pay off my taxes
or pretty enough to buy my breakfast
so this means i make pretty good money
okay and it's kind of none of your
business
so you can always be a little diplomatic
when you answer
okay
the next one that i have for you it's
complicated
so someone asks you about your
relationship so what's going on with
that guy huh are you dating him and you
really don't want to share that
information so you can say oh well it's
a little complicated
someone would come and ask you
oh honey why are you not having babies
you really don't want to answer that
again
you can say
um
it's a little complicated
so it's kind of my favorite answer
it's a little complicated period
okay so probably
the person would not go further
the next one that i have for you is when
i figure it out
so
like
girls do not like when they are asked
about how old they are so someone would
come and ask me
how old are you
i would say
i'll let you know when i figure it out
so maybe i don't know how old i am when
i figure it out i'll let you know okay
so that's the way you can answer
and the last one that i have for you is
i'll post it on
facebook
now of course we like to share
everything on facebook don't we
we like to put in okay i've gone for a
movie i went out for dinner i went to
the park i walked my dog this morning
we like to share everything on facebook
so if someone would ask me some personal
questions
which i really don't want to answer
i would say
i'll put it on facebook so basically
i'll declare it on social media i don't
want to tell to you right now i'll just
put it on social media okay so these are
some options that i have for you
and this way you can avoid these nosy
people okay so i'll be back with a new
lesson for you soon till then you take
care and have a great day
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