My personal life isn't exactly a cliché
but it definitely is, this meme.
This is fine.
Yep.
My personal life just kinda exploded recently and it has been difficult to say the least.
I've actually had several people reach out to me.
Hey, so real talk.
Are you okay?
Uhm, your tweets lately have me...
concerned.
And no.
No, just in case you're wondering,
definitely not okay.
But when life explodes like what else can you do?
Seriously, all I've been doing is drinking,
Ugly Crying and trying to distract myself from this whole mess
because the only thing that's actually gonna help me is time.
And lots of it.
So, if you found that your life is also falling apart
here's some things you can do.
First off, you definitely wanna lean on your friends and family.
Everyone should have a support group
and I have been using mine.
I've been using mine, a lot.
It will be like 10pm and I would just feel like the dark cold feelings of loneliness and despair start to seep in
so I would just frantically text every body I know.
And I'm really lucky, I have amazing friends who are down to like
hang out with me till sometimes 3 in the morning.
And just listen and offer advice and let me wallow in despair the appropriate amount of time.
Thanks guys!
The next you wanna do is go to your therapist
Or if you're not in therapy get into therapy.
Because he or she can offer a lot of valuable insight into the tragedy that is your current existence.
Well, it sounds like all you've been doing to cope with this situation is drink.
And cry.
And that's good, but I think you should also start incorporating more
healthy coping mechanisms into your grieving process
Like making sure you're getting enough sleep, maintaining exercise and a healthy diet--
--I've been to three strip clubs alone this month
Okay that's...
Like if I don't listen to like music or podcasts in the car and it's just totally quiet
I just *chuckles* I just burst out into these guttural sobs.
Hahaha!
Well, that's a little...
Yeah, I can fell myself cracking you know, it's like everything's up in flames
and, the house is gonna go down at any moment.
Okay, why don't you just take a deep breath for me now?
*Breathes in deeply*
Hahaha!
An depending on how terrible life is, you'll be in these phases for quite a bit.
But eventually, you need to start taking care of yourself and rebuilding your life.
Full disclosure, not there yet, I'm still in the despair part.
But I've definitely started taking steps to kind of reach that.
Like, I enrolled in a new pilates class because I need endorphins now more than ever.
I'm picking up a new hobby of bouldering and rock climbing so I can like hangout with my friends
and do a human puzzle with my body and mind.
And I've adopted a new cat!
Just kidding.
But seriously at this point, like, who cares how many cats I have anymore. I'm gonna die alone.
But if your life is falling apart, I encourage you to try to embrace the shitty parts of it.
Like you could be crying at a strip club
but at least you're at the strip club you know, hanging out trying to have a good time!
You could go to the bar with your friends and end up falling down the stairs
and walking into the men's room and wanting to die of embarrassment.
But at least, you're at the bar with your friends trying to have a good time!
You could be trying to write a youtube video and just feeling all of these sad despairing feelings come up
and wanna just cry yourself to sleep but you are still writing the video trying to have a good time.
Just cause your life falls apart doesn't mean you have to lose your desire to live it.
I'm Anna Akana, this is not a cry for help, stay awesome Gotham.
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