Hear this mantra,
love me flaws and all.
But some of your flaws
are what's ruining your relationships.
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Hey, what's up everybody?
This is Stephan Labossiere
aka Stephan Speaks.
Here to bring you some more
relationship advice, dating advice,
you name it, we're talking about it.
I'm here to help you, all right.
And with that, I want you to be sure that
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I like to do little polls here and there.
Do you know your worth?
Do you feel like you truly know
and embrace your worth?
Yes or no, vote below
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But let's talk about this whole
knowing your worth.
So, we hear this term used all the time
and it's a very real thing.
Like, you need to know your worth.
So many people
are struggling in life and relationships
because they not only
not know their worth,
but they don't embrace their worth.
And when you don't know it
and you don't embrace it,
you sell yourself short.
You accept less than you deserve,
you entertain people
you should not entertain,
hell, you work at jobs
you shouldn't be working at
because you don't truly
understand your worth.
So, I want you to know it
and I want you to understand that
you deserve wonderful and amazing things.
But we need to get into...
let's talked about aspect
of knowing your worth.
Now, let me warn you right now,
this might trigger some of you, all right.
And I’m saying everything
going forward with true love
and a desire to help you.
So, here's the thing,
know your worth and understand that
right now you may not be at your full potential.
I tell people,
you're supposed to know your worth
but then increase your value.
And what I mean by that is,
we have to understand
there is always room for growth.
There is always room for improvement
and the minute you start thinking
that you're all that with nothing that
you need to improve about yourself,
you shot yourself in the foot.
You've created a very
uhh, uhh, unhealthy dynamic
where you are going to stop growing in life.
Where you're going to stop progressing
because you think so highly of yourself
that you're now blind to your flaws
or you're aware of your flaws,
but you want people to accept them anyway.
We always have or you hear this mantra,
love me flaws and all.
But some of your flaws
are what's ruining your relationships.
Some of your flaws are the exact thing
that repels the kind of people
you want to attract into your life.
Some of those flaws
are keeping you miserable,
unhappy, and unhealthy.
So, we can't just have this mentality of
take me flaws and all.
And so, when we go back
to this idea of knowing your worth,
let me give you this analogy real quick.
It's like, if you ever went house hunting
and you find this wonderful amazing house
and you start to realize or you see that
the house at its true full value
is worth $500,000.
However, the house has broken doors,
the kitchen needs repairing,
the yard needs work.
So, in its current condition,
it can only sell for $300,000,
all right.
This is how people are operating.
You're a house that at your full potential
is worth that $500,000.
But because you overlook your flaws,
you don't realize that your current value
is only going to sell for 300.
But you're expecting people to pay the full 500.
That's not going to work that way
and this is why so many people
don't find a buyer.
Don't find anyone who is willing
to invest in them because
it's not that you don't have the value,
but you're not tapping into it.
You're not doing what is necessary
to reach that full potential
and see your true full value.
Not to mention, you're not even
presenting the vision of your value.
What do I mean by that?
Going back to the house analogy,
one of the best ways to sell a house,
is to stage it.
Staging it means
you put the furniture in there,
you put the whole set up
so people can see
the vision of the potential this house has.
Many of you are presenting
a low quality version of yourself.
You're not bringing out
and letting people see
the great true value of who you are.
Your presentation is wrong,
the energy that you're giving off or the spirit
you're giving off to the world
is beneath your true value.
So, again, if you want people
to embrace your worth
you have to know it,
but if you want people to embrace it
you've got to fully tap into it.
And that means working on our issues.
We cannot become so caught up in
wanting to feel better about ourselves
that we ignore what we need
to correct within ourselves.
We cannot lose track of the fact that
there is work that needs to be done.
And listen, there's nothing wrong
with the idea that
something is wrong within you.
I think we've become so sensitive
when we hear anyone claim or point out
a flaw or an issue within us.
How dare they say
something is wrong with you?
How dare you say this person lacks this?
But it's just the truth,
it's reality.
And how can I help you
or anyone help you,
if we lie to you,
if we make you think
that you're so awesome?
And again, at your full value,
you are awesome,
you're amazing when
you tap into your true potential.
But who you are at this moment is not that.
Who you are at this moment,
is not the full value,
you are operating in
the $300,000 house range
when you could be at
the $500,000 house range.
And that is all contingent on
are you willing
to look at yourself in the mirror
and say, okay, here's what
needs to be corrected
let me get to it, whatever it is.
And be willing to hear people out
when they give us constructive criticism.
That's one thing I've learned in life.
I do not reject correction,
I do not reject constructive criticism.
I see it as an opportunity to self-reflect
and to improve myself.
No matter how great we think we are
we may be overlooking little things.
Now, granted, it doesn't mean that
you have to be perfect
to get what God has for you.
It does not mean you have to be perfect
to get that great relationship or anything.
But if you're not even
working towards better,
then how can you expect
to receive better in your life?
If you're not even trying
to reach your full potential,
then how can you demand and expect
someone else come to the table
with their full potential?
If you live below your value,
then expect to only receive
people living below theirs.
But you're not going to be happy with that.
You're not going to want that in your relationship,
unless you decide to settle
and I'm never going to tell you to settle.
I never want you to settle.
I don't want you settling with who you are
and I don't want you settling with
who you will allow yourself to be with.
I want you to get the best,
the best out of you,
the best that life has to offer,
the best that God has for you.
And that starts with
not just knowing your worth,
your true full worth,
but increasing your value,
tapping into your full potential,
becoming your best you
and watch everything be
what you've been waiting for it to be in your life.
I hope you really received this message
and again, if you are in any way triggered,
pray about it, take a step back, process this.
But understand I gave this message
to help you.
I do not want to lie to you
and I don't want to just give you
a bunch of nice words
to make you feel good,
I want you to hear
the truth that will set you free
and set you up for something amazing.
I hope you enjoyed this video.
Again, be sure to subscribe to the channel,
share this video because again,
somebody needs to hear it.
Like, comment below,
do you know your worth?
And I'll see you in the next video.
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