What I've always done in my own life is say, "hey, I might be outperforming somebody,
but if I'm not absolutely positively dunking on them, burying them with results,
leaving them so far behind, 10x, 20x better than the next person,
then I need to keep going. I need to focus on me,
building my skill set and really burying people with results."
I actually think the idea of commanding respect is probably the wrong way to think about it.
You're really gonna be earning respect. You're going to be
getting so good at something that you can't be denied.
And this is one of those things that I say without judgement, I'm not saying
that you're not talented, I'm not saying that you
haven't demonstrated competence, but I am saying that if you can be ignored,
the only way out of that is to continue to get better,
get to the point, show it so many times, that it is just self-evident.
Now, I'm gonna set aside insecurities for a second cause it's entirely possible that what you're
dealing with is their insecurity. But I never wanna give up my power
and say, "oh, this is just on them." And if you find yourself doing that,
I would say hit the breaks right now because first and foremost you always
wanna look at what you could be doing. So, there's two things you could be doing.
Upping your game no matter how good you think you are, you're still being ignored.
And so, if you talk about getting so good that they can't ignore you,
then we know that we haven't achieved that yet. And then the second thing you can do is move on.
And while I know that is brutally difficult to hear,
if we're dealing with insecurities, then that may be the only solution.
So, first I wanna focus the most of our attention on this idea
that you really can get so good that you can't be ignored.
And I think a great example of this is Gary Vaynerchuk.
Now, if you guys don't know his story, it's such a cool story
of somebody who came up working for their father, their dad I'm sure in many ways thought of them
the same way that he was just a kid, and it got the point where Gary saw
an opportunity for him to do something in a completely different part of the business
where he could establish himself. So now, it was about an area
that his father didn't understand, his father didn't have an expertise,
and Gary could show with results point blank that he was able to do something
that his father wasn't and took their liquor store
from something like $6 million in revenue to I think almost $70 million in revenue,
I mean it was extraordinary, in a relatively short period of time,
just a few years if I'm not mistaken. So that's the kind of thing,
there's no way, no matter how insecure the other person is, no matter how they may have
their own problems, emotionally soothing, or staying centred,
or getting their ego out of the way, whatever the things are that they're dealing with.
There's no way to look at those numbers and not say,
"alright, clearly what he was doing is working." And to me, that is where you have to get.
You've got to get to the point where it would just be absurd
to anybody looking at that situation to think that you weren't killing it. What
I've always done in my own life is say, "hey, I might be outperforming somebody,
but if I'm not absolutely positively dunking on them, burying them with results,
leaving them so far behind, 10x, 20x better than the next person,
then I need to keep going. I need to focus on me, building my
skill set and really burying people with results." “Time and time again. Day in and day out. Weeks,
months, years of performance." Now that begs a question.
Am I, we're back to part two now, am I investing this insane amount of energy,
which is what it is going to require, a level of energy that other people think is
crazy, obsession, mental illness, whatever it is that they think about it,
you need to make sure that you're applying that level of energy
to the place where it makes sense to apply that energy.