Here's a good question,
"What to do when your husband stays out
late?"
My name is Paul Friedman. I founded The
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and now let's talk about this, what to do
when your husband stays out late?
Because what's going on in your mind
right now and correct me if I'm wrong
is that you're thinking he'd rather not
be with me.
Isn't that it? Because, "Why would he stay
out late if he wanted to be with me and
why doesn't he want to be with me?
What's wrong with him? I'm still
beautiful.
I love him. I'm here for him. Why doesn't
he want to be with me?
Why does he stay out late?"
So one of the YouTube videos that I did
not long ago
has to do with
a wife wondering, why is my husband
taking me for granted, why is he starting
to take me for granted?
It's connected because
you might say him staying out late
is disregarding your desire,
your wish for him to be home with you.
So now let's turn this around a little
bit,
let's be honest, shall we?
When he's home with you,
are you making his life amazing?
Are you making him feel like a king?
Are you telling him how much you love
him?
Are you taking his hand? Are you kissing
him?
Are you looking at him with your
beautiful eyes and telling him
how handsome he is? No,
you're not. Because if you were
he wouldn't be staying out late, would he?
I can almost hear you. You're going, "Well,
we've been married for x
number of years why blah blah blah blah."
And I'm telling you right now
here's the problem. People get married
and they don't realize what they're
supposed to do
is they're supposed to do the things
that increase
the love, increase
the happiness that they had that led
them
to want to be married to each other. They
start taking
each other for granted. In other words,
he's not the only one taking
you for granted by staying out late and
that is definitely taking you for
granted.
In fact, he may be avoiding you
hoping you're going to be asleep when he
gets home
because he doesn't want to see
not you but he doesn't want to see
trouble. He didn't get married
to have you complain about the kids, to
have you complain about your job, to have
you complain about what happened at work.
He married you so he would feel
that love and tenderness that you used
to give to him.
You might say it was bait and switch and
you might say he did the same thing.
And I say, "Yeah, you both did the same
thing.
It's what happens." Because no one gets
married with the attitude of,
"Hey, wow! What a love we have, what a
connection we have, how much
fun we have together. Let's make it even
better." How?
"Well, let's do this, this, and this and
this and let's not
do this, this, this and that."
Who gets married in this world with a
game plan
and you should and if you did, you
wouldn't be going through this. So what
do you do now?
That's the question, isn't it? "What do I
do now?
My husband goes out. He stays out late.
Sometimes he doesn't even
call me. I'm asleep when he gets home and
I'm so mad. I don't even want to
touch him. I turn over on my side of the
bed
and I pull the covers over me," making him
feel even
less attracted to you.
So, what do you do? You have this magic
gift and it's so
underappreciated in our world.
It's called free choice, free will.
What that means is that no matter what
happened to you
today, no matter what happened to you as
a child,
no matter how abused you were or what
you have gone through or what
challenges you've had. Right now
you can choose to behave in the highest
manner that you can imagine and then you
can
but we don't because we're not taught
this.
Why should we be controlled by our
past, by our husband's flaws,
by our own flaws when all we have to do
is stop and think
what should I do now in order
to feel happiness, in order to feel love?
So when your husband comes home
you get out of bed, you put on your
lipstick.
You spray a little perfume.
You wear something sexy or at least
adorable and you go up to him and you go,
"Honey, I missed you."
What a difference that will be for him.
You will catch him off guard
and maybe catch him with his pants down
because
you want to show him the love.
You want him to feel honored by you,
respected by you,
appreciated by you so that he
feels like the man.
And the man wants to
totally take care of his woman.
It's what it's all about,
that's what it's all about. I'm Paul
Friedman. I founded The Marriage
Foundation
and you should go to our website at
themarriagefoundation.org. You
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Don't settle and watch how that affects
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God bless! Take care and thank you!