So this channel is not about me, this channel is about making helpful content
for people who want to learn mental health skills. So I don't usually tell
that much about myself or my life because that's not as important as the
work each of you is doing. However today I was driving to the grocery store and I
found out I got a call found out that someone I cared about I care about very
deeply has passed away. He he died of brain cancer, he's a wonderful man and
you know I'm full of emotion right now, and most of the videos that I make are
like very neatly written they're carefully prepared and I like a very
structured setting and I do that because I want to make them really condensed and
really concise and really clear and easy to access. But I want you guys to know I
also have tons of emotions that I'm full of emotion and right now I'm really sad,
and it's really intense for me. Um just because I'm you know strive for mental
health it doesn't mean I don't feel lots of feelings, I actually think I feel them
better than ever I think I'm I'm I feel feelings really intensely and I think
that's a beautiful thing, and I just I just want to say that. Im gonna ugly cry on
camera for a minute, because it's okay and even more than
that as we like get better at feeling, as we as we learn to feel our emotions
wholly we learned that they don't they don't destroy us that we can't handle it.
Like I can handle this right now I'm gonna be okay, and in this moment I mean
first off the number one thing that for me helps me
is my faith and knowing that our life right now mortality is just the second
act of a three-act to play, like there was something before this and there's
something after this and I know that. But then after that I still have all these
intense emotions like knowing that there's life after death is is doesn't
make all the emotions go away. So as I have all these intense emotions I sit
with them I breathe into them, I noticed them I let them be there, and as I do
that I'm constantly feeling like I can I can feel and it's okay it's okay to feel
and grief and it's okay to feel sadness, and I let them flow through me and over
me and I notice what's going on in my body and I don't judge myself for
feeling them, and I don't hide my emotions I'll put this video on YouTube
but I've got sixty seven thousand subscribers thank you by the way. Um but
it's okay and I can feel all of the fields and that's what makes us have
hearts and have a life and have beauty beauty in our lives, and be able to love
people even when we know that for a while we're gonna lose them. Anyways I
hope by making this video that those of you out there you'll also feel intense
emotions, can learn a little something about opening yourself to them as you
open yourself to emotions they don't they don't control you they make life
more beautiful even if it's ugly crying. Yeah so when you're feeling super intense
emotions here's what I do when I'm feeling super intense emotions. First off
I was driving I parked I pulled the car over kids are listening to music in a
van over in the parking lot. Sitting on the ground I'm breathing I'm noticing
what I'm feeling.
Um my daughter just opened the door to tell me there's a toilet in that bush,
I'm not quite sure what she means by that but I'll go find out in a minute.
And listening to my body and what it's telling me and it wants to shake and it
wants to cry and it wants to wiggle and it wants to sob, and all of that's okay
I'll let it happen to have a let it pass through me I'm gonna go back to my car
be with my kids, hug them extra tight keep going to the
grocery store go get my groceries, cuz I don't have a need to put up a face for
anyone and the emotions are gonna come and go like waves and I'm just gonna let
myself process through them. Meaning that they'll come back and I'll fill them
again in random times or different times and places at a time like this I'm super
sad that we don't get to have a funeral. I'm super sad that we don't get to hug
and rejoice about this man's life, and and hold each other and celebrate and cry
together. But I I suppose we'll get that time we'll have one of those moments and
that's also like part of the process right the emotion process. But anyways
that's how I deal with strong emotions, I let them move through me I listen to them
and I feel of intensity sometimes I mess up and that's okay too.
Whoo but with you know this isn't how I was 15 years ago. I would have wanted to
shut down and lay in bed and never get out, um and instead I can move through
these difficult emotions with a lot of peace but I can still smile I can still
laugh and I can still cry and I could still grieve and it's all gonna be okay,
you know it's all gonna be okay. You can do hard things too, you can feel hard
emotions too, and I hope someone can get something out of this video cuz I don't
normally ugly cry in public. Anyways sending out love
love and light. Thanks for watching take care.