does that make sense how do i know if what i want is the right thing for me to want is that what
you're saying what if i'm asking for something that my inner being doesn't want me to want
is that the question yes i think so i think that's the question ask your question again
there's something i've been wanting for a very long time about five years now and it hasn't come
and i feel like i've been doing what i'm supposed to be doing i feel like i've been feeling good
i feel feeling like i've been letting things go i've been happy the only thing you've been doing
that's keeping it from coming is noticing that it isn't coming and if you can just feel with
us just a little bit here if you will admit to or acknowledge the dissatisfaction of that
because you see you're coming to a sort of logical assumption well if i want it and if i'm doing
everything right and it isn't coming then my inner being must be protecting me from it or keeping it
from me but that's that justifying rationalization stance that so many people offer about so many
things because after a while if you've wanted something for a while and it hasn't been coming
then it feels like then i should stop wanting it but what we want to call your attention to
have you been able to stop wanting it no no and so you're not wanting to give up the desire
what you're wanting to give up is the resistance to the desire
and it really is as simple as it feels so weird that it could be this simple but abraham really
could my awareness of it not having come yet be the only thing that's in my way yes it's
taking score that's why we talk about thinking of butterflies in blue glass showing yourself how
easily you can attract things that you don't have habits of thought that are working against and
it's easy to develop a pattern of thinking of me without it me without it me without it me without
it me without it so much so that you can't be with it and so change the subject or find satisfaction
when you think about that subject that those are your two options and either one will work
changing the subjects easier you could have 10 things you want and you could be thinking about
all of them equally and some of them you could be allowing and some of them you could be resisting
just depending on how you feel about them let's just play with this a little bit because
it's probable under these conditions and with the power of your desire that as we chew just a
little bit that you could find the path through dialogue to believing it want to talk about it
yes this is not a big deal just give us some soft satisfying statements about this it's
a relationship with a specific person that i've been wanting for a long time some soft satisfying
because there was nothing soft about any of that you went right for the throat on that one
it's a specific person that i do not believe is coming to me so get more general it's it's a it's
a relationship that i want that i feel like would make me very happy i think so too but can you find
anything about relationships that is satisfying that is general enough that you don't aggravate
the subject in focusing on it can you go general enough about a relationship to feel satisfaction
without aggravating that i think i can't maybe that's the problem maybe you haven't known what
the path of least resistance is maybe you've gotten so specific and you so don't believe what
you're specific about that it's i want it but i want it but i want it but until you're weary
can you back away from the specifics of it what is it about a relationship that appeals to you
what is satisfying about a relationship having fun sharing things with someone that you know
it's going to be really fun and communicating and so you're doing that all the time with a lot of
different people so you know that's satisfying i i do i do so what else what is particular
to a relationship that feels extra extra extra satisfying not particular to this relationship
but what is particular to a relationship that is so satisfying belonging okay so let's
focus there a little bit belonging meaning flesh that out a little for us belonging um
no not feeling lost not not feeling lost yeah that's
i don't feel like i feel lost i don't belonging then meaning
being important maybe is that i i don't know being someone's dominant object of attention yes
it's all right that's all right being number one important to someone
unfortunately maybe yes yes no matter what no matter belonging now belonging is a natural
quest it's a natural state of being is at the core of you because
you are an extension of source energy and you so know where you belong you so know that
you belong in a state of worthiness and that you belong in a state of happiness
that feeling good is where you belong you know all of those things but sometimes when someone holds
you as their object of attention and they're tuned in like that it makes you feel it extra much and
so you've come to associate that belonging with someone else's attention upon you someone who's
reflecting it through their gaze and through their touch and through their tenderness through their
presence and so you've been listening to us blah blah blah blah blah on and on and on we go about
looking for love in all the wrong places and looking for belonging in all the wrong places
but still isn't it nice to belong somewhere but the thing that we want you to feel is that you
have to conjure somehow a feeling of knowing that you belong before that belonging can happen isn't
that weird if someone would just come to me and i would belong there then i would feel belonged
but how can i get that turned around you've got to find some way to notice that satisfying feeling
rather than noticing the absence of it and we know what you're talking about there's something kind
of nice esther's noticed that when she hangs around with her friends who are couples and
partners and after they're together they go off together and every now and again she feels that
little pang of longing because she remembers that belonging feeling she remembers that well here we
go together belonging to each other together but there is this satisfaction of knowing who you
are and knowing everything about your belonging i'm a creator and i belong there as you own your
alignment then your need to connect with others becomes less of a need and more of a
satisfying experience when it happens we want to activate within you in this conversation is
your core belonging and once you've accomplished your core belonging then you can romp around with
others and not be codependent but as long as you are looking to them to belong to them and them to
belong to you and those relationship vows stink like they do they're so
laden with insecurity no matter how bad you are i will continue to love you unconditionally
yeah i will do the same for you no you won't no you won't you got to find that core belonging
it's the ultimate state we like your word so much no one's ever offered it in this way the belonging
is the ultimate coming home knowing who you are it's the ownership of the core of who you are
that state of being of your absolute confidence that comes only from your pure connection with
source energy oh and once you found that and you do here and there and here and there
then what happens is someone else who's also found it is a cooperative component with you
and there you are in this most logical sequence together but until then you're sort of repelling
stay with us because we haven't yes you are i am yes you are you are we acknowledge that started
talking to all of them it's okay if i'm helping one other person then everybody else has helped me
so if i can help one other person i so appreciate that so when you think about that feeling
of well-being that feeling of core connection and you are in that satisfied state so often and then
when you focus upon someone else you just feel the compounding of that
it's the difference between it's the absolute difference between
so good we're going to milk it and hold you in suspense just for a moment between need and
desire because in belonging there is no need and in needing there is no satisfaction and in desire
there is satisfaction and in belonging there is satisfaction but in needing there is no
satisfaction but in desiring there is satisfaction can you feel the difference i do and so
as you get off that subject a little bit and find satisfaction satisfaction satisfaction and this
and that and this and that and this and that and in the satisfaction you consciously acknowledge
you're in the receiving mode of what the receiving mode of receiving mode of what the receiving mode
of what what influence am i under then that desire pulses purely within you and someone matching it
to perfection flows into your experience and you own it together and then you truly know
we belong here we belong here because we have belonged to our core right from the beginning and
as we have each found our core then it is logical that we belong to our cores as we are together
feel the difference in that yes you're not fulfilling your connection with your inner being
superficially through me nor am i we've both found our connection to our inner being so we are both
the real deal we are both tuned and tapped and turned on we are neither one with need we are both
fulfilled we are both belonging and now we are romping around in our state of fullness together
but we don't fulfill each other we were fulfilled before we came together but we came together
because we are mutually fulfilled are you sort of kind of getting this oh i'm totally getting
it yeah i think i just needed to know that that's what i'm doing wrong i think that's not doing
anything wrong you're just noticing a little bit too much of what is you're taking score too
soon and so we have some questions for you what is it that you are truly wanting to belong to
your own expansion your own evolution your own becoming your own eternity
i know that i want to be happy is the word belong a helpful word or not a helpful word
maybe right now it's not a should we keep it or throw it out be long i want to be long well
how about the word own i want to own it which means i want to know it which means i want it
to be there for me it's just semantics we're just wanting you to feel what belong means and
if there's anything that you belong to or anything that belongs to you is your connection with your
source energy and as you tend to that and that's not just a little piece of what you're looking for
it's the most important thing that you're looking for in fact it's so important that every moment
of satisfaction is tied to it then you just keep finding it and belonging and finding
it and belonging and finding it belonging and in belonging there is no yearning in belonging
there's just desire for more motion forward can you feel how it just cleans all of that up the
satisfaction i've heard you say it over and over and over again that the satisfaction is not only
enough it is it is that correct this conversation has done the best job of any conversation that
we've ever had of helping us to help you all to understand the difference between
that yearning kneading thing and that delicious moving in the direction of your desire thing
it speaks to satisfaction and dissatisfaction in such a strong way and most of all it helps us to
emphasize the difference between that mutuality in other words you're wanting to belong to someone
so you're seeking mutuality so you're always with this person what you're wanting to belong
with is this and then this will join you there but if you're looking for this instead of this
you will never find what you're looking for it will never be enough you will never feel
like you've really come home and satisfaction is enough it's enough right to be satisfied is
enough to get everything you want why is it enough because it feels good and why else it's got to be
enough because it's all i can reach for right now in any moment it's got to be enough because
i can't find the other and i want to be satisfied so it's got to be enough i am satisfied with this
it's enough and that will lead to more and more and more and more and more and more because really
if you really want to know there's never going to be enough because you're never going to get
it done you can't get it wrong and you're never going to get it done so there's always going to be
more and more more and more and more but you can only comprehend so much in any moment and however
much you can let in in any moment has to be enough because it's all you can let in and if it's enough
then you let more in if it's not enough you don't let more in that's the power of it being
enough if it's enough more can get in if it's not enough you got the door closed oh who knew
that made sense to you doesn't it